I have. The negative aspect I'm not so proud of. I believe it can be a reflection sometimes. Sometimes we see the same charactoristics in ourselves that we see in others that we deem either negative or positive.

Steadwood said:

No, because I try to base that judgment on the "evidence" I've gathered on that person.

Steadwood said:

Almost always. It's in my nature to be an evil witch but it's also in my nature to be the most loving person. I feel pain more than anything else. Several times I have made judgements against someone based on looks and been totally ashamed of myself once a conversation started and I found out they were a diamond in the rough. I hate judging looks, makes me sick of myself.

i judge people, but only for entertainment purposes. i tried yoga, but it doesn't relax me as much as when i'm just siting around, sipping a soda and judging others.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Vendetta1 said:

I'm speaking about instant judgement in my last post, a long term judgement. My judgement on others is usually spot the fuck on, good or bad, when I've had time to assess the judgement I'm secure in standing behind

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Steadwood said:

if I've misunderstood somebody, yes I feel guilty afterwards... is why I don't judge folks ..sometimes there's a piece of the puzzle you didn't see on a person..

Vendetta1 said:

Don't you think? It seems most see that side more clearly than the other. I don't like that. Unless they deserve it

Steadwood said:

often i do, especially if i find out that, at the time of my judgment, i didn't know more than one side of the story or whatever. for a time i was really good friends with someone i'd previously (and unfairly) judged as somewhat dimwitted. there are some judgments i will stand by until i die though.
i always do feel guilty, though, if i'm judging on something really superficial (no matter how logical it may seem to my little brain at the time).

Steadwood said:

It's not a pretty scene

Steadwood said:

judging me is kind of like shooting fish in a barrel, isn't it?

Steadwood said:

It's intense.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

there is nothing evil about you ..







people have said stuff to me and I asked them why do they think that and what did I do?... 'you think you it, don't you?' - a dude told me this, out of nowhere lol .. women are just barbaric towards each other anyway the eye rolling up and down staring.. for no reason lol.. when I say 'hello, how ya doing?' to them, seems to throw them off (like they expect me to be nasty back at them)

Steadwood said:

honestly, it depends on the person and situation.

in most cases, though, i'm either relieved or irritated (again, i'm a hypocrite ).

i'm relieved if their judgment of me is spot on, even if it's negative. i don't really mind when someone says something about me that i realize is true.
i'm irritated if someone judges me in a way that i believe is false (it's more likely that it's true and i don't realize it) or generalized.

there is also the situation where i don't care one way or the other. if someone means nothing to me, then their opinion of me, in turn, means nothing.

i think i hate myself after this thread.

Protege said:

I can relate

Steadwood said:

Yes. I do. Sometimes I don't realize it and other times I do. It's the great human flaw we all have.

hokie said:

Is it really a flaw... or an assett?

Anxiety said:

Well, it's the old "do unto others" thing, right? I know I don't like being judged, but as many have pointed out we all do it from time to time and sometimes it can be a good thing and sometimes it can be a negative.

I know I'm much less judgemental than I used to be, but I know I'm far from being completly free from judge-y behavior too.

Protege said:

I think others may judge you in a more positive light than you judge yourself.

Do you think this is a general aspect of human nature?

Yeah

Steadwood said:

Both!

Steadwood said:

Don't.give.a.fuck.

Steadwood said:

I'm fine with it.

Steadwood said:

It's not a flaw.

I try really hard not to, because I don't know them.

oh, i should give a serious answer about judging people...

i think i do judge people. i think EVERYONE judges other people. i think to a certain extent it's a survival mechanism.

i judge people in terms of who i have to be guarded around, and who i should avoid, or who i think might be toxic or black holes of drama that i could get sucked into.

hell, and sometimes i think i judge people in terms of how judgemental i think THEY are.

i keep about 99% of my judgey thoughts to myself and really only use those thoughts to keep myself safe. the other 1% i will share with people if i think a person is a threat and other people should know before getting hurt by that person. i have a fairly good intuition about people, and if someone gets my spidey sense going, i don't want to see people i care about getting hurt so sometimes i'll share my bad vibe forecast if i think it will protect someone.

Anxiety said:

Great post.

Anxiety said:

I like this answer.

I'm stealing it.