paintedlady said:

Oh I totally agree, if u sleep with someone else ure a cheater, thats all there is to it. I would NOT be fine with my husband sleeping with someone else, regaurdless of gender...his crap would be out on the front lawn as decoration and he would be sporting a few bruises, least of all being the one on his ass caused by him landing on the cement as I tossed him out the door
ANd I do know of someone who's girlfriend cheated on him with another female, he was devestated poor guy. He said he never understood why guys think their girl being with another girl was hot when the real issue is she cheated.

Geez I need automatic spell check on this thing
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chillichocaholic said:

Dat's my gurl!!!!

paintedlady said:

I just had to edit all the spelling mistakes
Oh and the reason I made the comment about the guys chiming in "Only if I can Join in" is because most of the time thats the usual male response

chillichocaholic said:

It sure is... that's why men should think of catching something other that a menage a trois.

Flowers2 said:

Well, according to the Michael Baisden radio show, there are surprisingly, a lot of men who take cheating seriously, and are more hurt than ever...that is especially when men are doing their own cheating too, but according to the discussion, its the point of the man's ego being rubbed the wrong way, that their woman actually pulled a fast one on them and fucked somebody else, male or female.

missfee said:

oh I was talking about the men wanting one woman lol .. yes, I believe alot of men wouldn't like it for their women to be cheating no matter the gender..

paintedlady said:

U know the day they actually think about it will be they day a diesease arrives that actually causes their dicks to drop off

chillichocaholic said:

I know right?! I wonder if testing for STD's is really painful for men.

Flowers2 said:

Oh i gotcha

chillichocaholic said:

You know, sadly enough, even when that happens - when a disease will be out here worse than AIDS that will literally burn a mans dick off - some men and WOMEN will still be out taking sexual risks. You would think that, that will be the end of men going out and cheating, but most men are just dirty ass dogs. I know some that have gone through all the women at their job, and their male co-workers take notes and screw them too. It's a shame how some jobs are just fuck fests.

paintedlady said:

yes, it is.... I know when a woman of loose morals gave me the clap in my single days, I got the "Q-tip up the urethra" treatment...along with the shot with a 10" needle....so I'd have to go out on a limb and say its not very f**kin' pleasurable....

missfee said:

Oh Geez that reminds me of some guys I knew back in College, five Italian/Greek boys that all had books with girls names in them and a rating next to each girl. U would not believe how many of those girls popped up in ALL five books, and the guys shared notes!!!
And no...I was NOT one of those girls They knew better than to even try Which was why I was allowed to know about it...and did I rip them a new one the digsusting little perverts!! I also told other people about that book

Everything you know about...s is wrong

Just a different perspective from one who's been on the front lines....

chillichocaholic said:

Yeah i'm also a friend of one of the perverts who has told me about his sexcapades with these hoes at his job. He even tried to turn one of them into a housewife, but it didn't work, because eventually he learned that..as he put it, "she was intellectually below his level"...I tried to tell him but he just had to learn the hard way. And you would think after that failed relationship, he would know to not try it again...well guess what, he's trying to turn another hoe from his job into a housewife again. Guys can be so clueless and dumb at times. I just don't get it.

missfee said:

triflin' .. just trifling..

reneGade20 said:

Ouch.

Flowers2 said:

Yes girl, a harsh reality. I've even heard stories of guys running "trains" on women, and the women allow it to happen!!! wtf!

missfee said:

yeah, you have women down with that.. triflin'

Flowers2 said:

So many in fact that lots of men don't like the concept of a relationship anymore.
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paintedlady said:

Preach! that's the truth... and also the 'Friends w/Benefits' kills the relationship concept too..
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Yes, i dont understand why it should be less cheating cause its with a woman.

Flowers2 said:

It sure does. Women and men do themselves a disservice when they compromise too much.

reneGade20 said:

Good tips!
Five essential tips to prevent infidelity:
1. Be each other's number one confidant. You shouldn't be sharing private thoughts with others that you're not sharing with your mate.
2. Make time to connect on a regular basis. Daily moments of connection help you build a sense of togetherness and shared purpose.
3. Don't let family time squeeze out just-the-two-of-you time. Relationships that are too child-centered are at high risk for an affair.
4. Recognize when you're temporarily attracted to someone else. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with your relationship -- or that you have to act on it.
5. Surround yourself with people who believe in you and your relationship. If you're ever tempted and don't feel like you can tell your mate, you'll have someone else to confide in who will steer you straight. And if one of you does stray, you'll have a strong support network to help you put your relationship back together.

I wouldn't leave my wife but a girlfriend yes. If she's sneaking around with somebody there's no respect and no trust there so why bother making a commitment. With a wife the investment has already been made so I'd work through it. Besides, I'm a guy so there is some appeal in a little girl-on-girl action.

So it wouldn't be a deal-breaker with a wife, but we'd be in trouble.

whodknee said:

For some reason I find what u just a said a little back to front. Im sorry, I don't care how commited my relationship, my husband and I work on our relationship, but if he cheated on me that would be it for me....good night...goodbye because I know that the trust would be destroyed and I would never believe in him again and I would hope that he would not be stupid enought to want to stay with me if I cheated (which of course I would not)

chillichocaholic said:

lol exactly... see ya lol ..

paintedlady said:

No it's not painful, it's irritating . . .

But guys aren't going to think its going to happen to them . . .
Just like everyone expects to be 100 or thereabouts . . .

LiquidGold said:

In 3rd grade I had a classmate named ORION. I'll never forget him...he crapped in his pants in class, then denied it afterwards (after the teacher scooped him up and took him to the nurse) and said his brother had thrown peppermint candy down his pants.

Flowers2 said:

More benefits than friends . . . lol
But I can't do that . . .

I prefer relationships but when single . . .

chillichocaholic said:

Nice way to repay the trust.