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meow85 said: This is a highly circumstantial question IMO.
First off, is the question of the Mr.'s sexual orientation. Were I with a bi guy, for example, a same-sex affair would surprise me a hell of a lot less than if he'd previously identified as straight. Second is the question of whether we'd had an open or closed relationship. If closed, then most likely I would. An affair in a closed relationship is a breach of trust. If the relationship in question were open, it would depend on whether or not I knew about the extra affair. Many couples in open relationships do so on the conditions of openness and honesty. If one partner wishes to get involved with another person, their primary partner must know about it and give it the go ahead before anything happens. So if the situation was an open relationship and I knew about and was okay with the other partner, it'd be all gravy. But if it was a monogamous partnership, or an open one but I didn't know about or approve of another person, then we'd have a situation.  |
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HamsterHuey said: meow85 said: This is a highly circumstantial question IMO.
First off, is the question of the Mr.'s sexual orientation. Were I with a bi guy, for example, a same-sex affair would surprise me a hell of a lot less than if he'd previously identified as straight. Second is the question of whether we'd had an open or closed relationship. If closed, then most likely I would. An affair in a closed relationship is a breach of trust. If the relationship in question were open, it would depend on whether or not I knew about the extra affair. Many couples in open relationships do so on the conditions of openness and honesty. If one partner wishes to get involved with another person, their primary partner must know about it and give it the go ahead before anything happens. So if the situation was an open relationship and I knew about and was okay with the other partner, it'd be all gravy. But if it was a monogamous partnership, or an open one but I didn't know about or approve of another person, then we'd have a situation. Of course, it's all hypothetical since I'm single... 
But believe it or not I actually have spent some time mulling over how I'd deal with a situation like this. It never hurts to think out your options before you find yourself involved in a scenario like this. "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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Vendetta1 said: Is anyone gonna say why?
I'll say why. I'd leave because I simply can't compete with cock. I would never truly trust him not to go after that cock again once having it once. I know I can't give it up, I couldn't expect him to. | |
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 A-U-T-O-matic. automatically .....insane....oh.
how the hell would i find that out???  THE B EST BE YOURSELF AS LONG AS YOUR SELF ISNT A DYCK[/r]
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npgmaverick said: Infidelity is somehow different based on gender?
I'm equally confused. Infidelity is infidelity. | |
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JustErin said: Vendetta1 said: Is anyone gonna say why?
I'll say why. I'd leave because I simply can't compete with cock. I would never truly trust him not to go after that cock again once having it once. I know I can't give it up, I couldn't expect him to. There you have it! 
Can you say cock again? It's one of my favorite words. 
BTW: The same would go in reverse. If my hubby felt compelled to revisit the va-jay-jay repeatedly, I'd feel the same as what you've described. [Edited 12/30/08 5:35am] | |
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johnart said: JustErin said: I'll say why. I'd leave because I simply can't compete with cock. I would never truly trust him not to go after that cock again once having it once. I know I can't give it up, I couldn't expect him to. There you have it!
Can you say cock again? It's one of my favorite words.
BTW: The same would go in reverse. If my hubby felt compelled to revisit the va-jay-jay repeatedly, I'd feel the same as what you've described. Which would never happen, as your hubby runs screaming at the mere mention of the nana. We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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Genesia said: johnart said: There you have it!
Can you say cock again? It's one of my favorite words.
BTW: The same would go in reverse. If my hubby felt compelled to revisit the va-jay-jay repeatedly, I'd feel the same as what you've described. Which would never happen, as your hubby runs screaming at the mere mention of the nana.  | |
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Vendetta1 said: Genesia said: Which would never happen, as your hubby runs screaming at the mere mention of the nana. Poor baby. 
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if i had a gay affair, it would kill him..yep. THE B EST BE YOURSELF AS LONG AS YOUR SELF ISNT A DYCK[/r]
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My ex-husband is bi and still in the closet. He loves cock as much as he does the cunny, wants the best of both worlds. To each their own. It wasn't the ultimate reason for walking out on him but it did play its part....  | |
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I would not be part of a relationship that wasn't monogamous, regardless of the sex of the third party.
Whether or not I'd actually leave someone to whom I'd committed would depend on things ultimately pointing toward the viability of salvaging a mutually healthy, trusting, dignified and fulfilling relationship, sexually and otherwise. (And for me that'd entail monogamy.) But I can definitively say that in the assessment period, the sh*t would hit the fan and I wouldn't be looking to make keeping me seem a forgone conclusion. [Edited 12/31/08 18:26pm] Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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Yes. Same as I would if he screwed a woman without asking! | |
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PanthaGirl said: My ex-husband is bi and still in the closet. He loves cock as much as he does the cunny, wants the best of both worlds. To each their own. It wasn't the ultimate reason for walking out on him but it did play its part....
Did he cheat? "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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Honey I'd pull a Terry McMillan in a minute. 
Nah. I'd leave 'em and just blog my little behind off about it until my fingers fell off. And then ask for pics and videos. | |
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meow85 said: PanthaGirl said: My ex-husband is bi and still in the closet. He loves cock as much as he does the cunny, wants the best of both worlds. To each their own. It wasn't the ultimate reason for walking out on him but it did play its part....
Did he cheat? | |
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