CarrieMpls said:

Well I would, if he was really hot and I didn't want anything but sex from him.

But I would never consider him someone worthy of committing to.

Imago said:

All your feminist cred goes out the window when you say stuff like this.

ah well.

CarrieMpls said:

Wait wait wait. I respect a woman's right to sleep with whoever she wants, and to have as may partners as she wants. They're just not attractive to me.

For the record, I support women who want to wear hair scrunchies too. But that doesn't mean, in my bed

Besides, like I said--girls have their double standards too. And that's fine. We're talking about sex here--not trying to solve the world's problems.

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Imago said:

It is easy for you to judge seeing as you never have to worry about your hair falling down in your face while you are pleasuring your man.


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Imago said:

But clearly you don't "support" it, as someone who would have been otherwise attractive to you suddenly isn't.

Double standards are never right, regardless of whose they are. It's never "right" to hold others to standards you don't hold to yourself.

oh, yer all serious n shit edit
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CarrieMpls said:

We are still talking about sex here right?


You see, you're problem is you see this outside the context of sex.

It's like people who have racial or physical preferences. The person isn't a racist for doing it, nor someone who hates tall, short, thing, or fat women. It's their preference.

Imago said:

Absolutely we're still talking about sex. How many partners someone has had has nothing to do with physical preferences. I don't understand how it's even a "trait" that you'd look for in a partner. Did you ask all the women you've slept with to find out their number before you decided if they were sexy or not?

CarrieMpls said:

Truth is, most people don't even have that discussion and if they do it's often after they've banged.

So, it's totally silly to suddenly think someone that you think is attactive is suddenly not attractive because you found out how many people they slept with.

CarrieMpls said:

No we're not Carrie.
You've attacked my "feminist cred" , whatever that means.
It's obvious this isn't just about sex with you.

And this 'double standard' that you homed in on so vigilantly--well, as I said before, all men's standards are thrown out the door according to the 'hotness' factor. The hotter, the less important. Hell, she doesn't even have to be smart.

But maybe it's because I'm a man, that I see no correlation to sex and things like love, respect, and ....feminist ideals.

I think that it's usually a disadvantage for a woman that I'm gonna have sex with to be smart,
since I plan on fuckin' her brains out, anyway.

I don't think so.



I am a good girl.

JustErin said:

Most of the time I don't.
So this double standard is very poorly enforced, even though it's there.

Guys like to think that we can just 'sense' that in women. Or that by her manner we can tell. Which of course, is one of the reasons men fail so miserably at keeping women happy I guess.

Unless i've heard it through the grapevine or she says it (alot of girls are pretty open and uninhibitted), it's something you find out after you've slept together a few times. But yes, depending on the situation leading up to sleeping together, it has come up in conversation. Girls aren't ashamed of it--and I don't think they should be.
Not every guy is going to think like me or Ken in that regard.

I don't think Carrie's issue is as much with the standard itself or caring how many partners they slept with so much as it's that I made a clear distinction that I only hold that standard towards women.

violator said:

Good looking AND smart with books and common sense....


Hurry ladies! Someone grab this one! He's a rarity!

Well, I can't remember I don't think so actually

Ah no hang on There was one girl that I talked to, I told something like "I'm gonna make YOU love ME" and that i wanted to lick her pussy or something and she said:

"Dave.. How could I ever trust you? Look what you have done to all these other girls, they thought you were being serious and then you just fucked them over!"

My response: "So..? "


I think she was too young to know that there can be awesome sex without any commitments

JustErin said:

I'm judgmental when it comes to that. I honestly would have a hard time with a guy who's had a lot (what do I consider a lot? Probably more than 10-20 and I would have to do some thinking) of partners. It's all case dependent though. I guess the circumstances behind it would matter to me somewhat.

Btw Erin: If this is really you on these pics.. how come you have been refused?

To answer the original question, it seems to happen quite a bit when married with children.

Before then, nope.

Dave1992 said:

YOU. ARE. 16. YEARS. OLD!

:not listening:

Imago said:

hokie said:

Sorry, it's a double standard I have with minors.

Imago said:

I KNEW someone was going to say this! Maybe it really is difficult to imagine (and don't worry guys, it's not an age thing!), but I'm being completely honest with you

Dave1992 said:

That's fine.
Thanks for sharing



run to church.

Imago said:

Me too.




God! I'm full of judgement and double standards!

JustErin said:

Gotta go slap that kid for being utterly STUPID!!!

Imago said:

What would YOU expect a 16 year old to do all day long, apart from listening to Prince?

What did YOU do back then?

Ok, so there was another time - fairly recently actually.

I invited a FWB over one night when I bumped into him downtown. I invited him over and he pulled the "I'm really tired tonight".

Then at 7am I get the "Are you still up?" text. LAME!

The same dude just told me that we can no longer hang out at all (not even platonically) because he's dating someone and he has a hard time resisting temptation.

Dave1992 said:

No. it's not me.

It's my mom.

Dave1992 said:

Dude, I was trying to get laid from the time I was 12.
I would have had sex with afire hydrant if I could.

But at 16, I didn't have a "history" like it appears you have




The end times are near my friends

SoupDog said:

In the end, I think it had nothing to do with what he said it did. I know another girl who approached him and he turned her down as well - and she is stunning.

Turns out that he only really likes black/asian girls.