HamsterHuey said:

omg.

Do people really get confused about love vs. lust, though? They're so utterly different.

CarrieMpls said:

"poorllonely computer...poor poor lonely computer..."

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contrapposto said:

awwww...

Maybe it's different for boys. I mean, they can certainly exist hand-in-hand (and that's the most preferable!) but to me, lust has nothing to do with love.

I always say: There's sex without love, but there ain't no love without sex!

CarrieMpls said:

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contrapposto said:

CAPTAINCRUNCHYOAZZ said:

Prince?

the last three letter are different, otherwise it's pretty much the same thing

Cinnie said:

it's like how you test if you have a diamond. Apply 12307 tons of pressure and 7000°C heat, and you should find out if what you HAD was a diamond

Money can't buy one and the other can be bought for about $50.

JustErin said:

I lust for free. If you pay for yours, you got screwed.

ArielB said:

Isn't that the way it works? You pay, you get screwed?

I think lust is purely sexual, love is a connection with a person.

Some would say there's sexual love, but I kind of disagree. I just happen to lust for the woman that I love. Sex is just another connection that can help to strengthen love.

NDRU said:

I've never just lusted after anyone without loving them a bit too. I'm always hearing about people lusting after someone they hate and saying the sex is electrifying when sparks fly. I've hated people, well, maybe I haven't really and usually that cancels out any attraction. Also I've never lusted after a stranger
Personally I've not been able to separate the 2, though I am sure others can do it.

G0d said:

Would you be with them if you could never bone?
Then it's not lust!

ZombieKitten said:

yeah I've never lusted after someone I've hated. They're connected for me in that they're both positive feelings for someone.

CarrieMpls said:

I think infatuation gets confused with love, and infatuation is very tied to lust.

If you truly care about that person and not for sex it's Love. If you wanna have sex with them all the time it's lust.

tackam said:

Not for me. To me they're all 3 separate entities. I suppose we're all different. I'm more apt to confuse love and infatuation than infatuation with lust. I think I'm not a very sexual person, all things considered. I can totally be infatuated with someone and the sex stuff is just icing on the cake. I'll daydream about hanging out with someone, giggling with them, blah blah blah way before I even think about the sex stuff when I'm smitten with someone.

CarrieMpls said:

Really? Yeah, that's very different from my experience. Infatuation and lust are always completely overlapping for me. And I don't generally become infatuated with somebody whom I won't eventually fall in love with if things go well. So I can see the confusion.

Your way sounds much more tidy. I'm kinda jealous.

tackam said:

Co-sign! In fact, it was normally AFTER the sexual hijinks that I realized the spark just wasn't there in most cases....and if it was, then the luv started creeping into it...until the contenders weeded themselves out, and I ended up married....

reneGade20 said:

Tooootally.

Yeah, there's a loop for me between sexual chemistry and infatuation. If it's not there, it'll kill the infatuation. If it is, it'll send it through the roof.

The warm-n-fuzzy attachment part of love is generated by chemicals that occur in response to a few things, the biggies being orgasms and laughter. It's a wonder to me that anybody really falls in love without having some sort of sexual experience, but I guess if the person is funny enough?

tackam said:

IMHO, the fact that divorce rates are through the roof and have been for a while is the sole justification for people to explore their sparks BEFORE they tie the knot...conversely, if the sex IS the spark, ya might want to slow that thing down a bit so that the lust isn't confused for love...I see young Soldiers getting married after two months....then going through ugly, messy divorces less than a year later because they realize that living with one person on a permanent basis isn't quite the same as freaky sex....

SoupDog said:

I would agree with that...it's hard to imagine that infatuation would last that long, or could it?

JustErin said:

I don't know. I've never paid for mine. How much do you spend on yours?

obsessed said:

no the butterflies wear off, and DESPITE that you want to stay with them, THAT'S love

ZombieKitten said:

Oh now I get it!

Mars23 said: