Have you found your soul mate? If so what does it feel like?

Regarding your current relationship, if you could change something, what would it be?

I first need to know what "soul mate" means exactly.

I think it is a nice thing to say about someone one loves, but I don't buy into the concept (the term soul throws me off a bit but that is another story). My main beef with it is that it implies that there is one person with whom someone is meant to connect. I personally think that the average person has hundreds if not thousands of people that they could possibly connect with enough to warrant a long-term relationship.

Human rational at work.

I used to believe in it, but now I don't really
Some people you just get along with and some you don't, but that whole idea of a person being your perfect match is kinda fairy-talish

pplrain said:

I would like to change the amount of one on one personal time I have with my Husband.

meaning I would like way more time alone with him as just my husband - not as parents not as caregivers not as workers - just he and I being he and I ( yes I KNOW all those other things make him and I who we are too BUT ...)

Yeah LOTS more time with my bestfriend and husband would be the only thing I would change

I believe in them. You just got to find them...or more so you simply come across them. I think that if you live in a more populated area, you can find them easier than you could if you lived in the suburbs or rural areas.

I have come across a couple of soul mates. Both of them girls (I'm gay). I would have loved to have found a male soul mate to be with forever and ever, but the universe doesn't work that way.

JustErin said:

I think it means someone who you connect with in a very profound way. Many times you meet them and it feels as though you have known each other for years. Kindred Spirits.

No, the soul-mate thing takes it too far. I think true love is rare though, but it could happened with more than just one specific person on this earth.
I have had my share of bad experiences, but I can honestly say that I wouldn't chnage a thing about the relationship I am in now. It definately feels like some kind of destiny played into it. I believe deep love only begins with friendship. All that takes time, so I don't believe in love at first sight. I have known my husband for 25 years. I really really like him. He is fun and he brings out the best person in me. We do spend far more time together than our other couple friends. I went through a couple of frogs to get my Prince though.
[Edited 1/12/09 12:37pm]

Shhhhhuuuuurrreeee. me and every other bar-maid.

I believe in it, but I don't believe that you always stay with or end up with yours, unfortunately.

superspaceboy said:

Oh, ok. Well, I've connected with several people in this way in my life. Some were friends, some were guys I was seeing. I just thought of it as meeting people I got along with really great and had a lot of common with and nothing more than that really.

Certainly not a single soulmate, but maybe there a lot of people with whom I've had instant connections.

NDRU said:

Exactly.

No one person is going to validate you in every way. But you can certainly have a few people who validate you in lots of ways.

I'm lucky to have several kindred spirits. And I would consider my man to be as close as it gets to a soulmate.

pplrain said:

1. Don't have a fucking idea.

2. Break it, build it up from scratch.

Genesia said:

And yes, I do believe in soulmates. I used to think there was just one but as I have gotten older, there are several. None of which I'm in a relationship with.

I don't believe there is one person out there for us that we are meant to be with and no one else.

I believe you can have several people that you are a great match with.

Graycap23 said:

For once, I'm in agreement with Graycap.

Vendetta1 said:

Exactly - they can be on different planes. Many people equate it with (sexual) love, and that's not the case at all. Or so we believe.

Teacher said:

One of my best friends is a soulmate. He's my twin soul but thinking of him in a relationship is icky to me.

Vendetta1 said:

Oh yeah, me too. Some people have trouble with that though, my friends constantly have trouble with their better (current ) halves understanding other forms of bonds. I don't have to deal with that, I don't get with people who don't see things the way I do on that count.

Teacher said:

I know exactly what you mean. My closeness to my friends does not mean I am a threat to their relationships.

superspaceboy said:

That's perfectly put, and maybe..... known each other for centuries, in another life, another place, I believe it completely.

The concept of "one soul mate," to me, is unbearably cruel.

I don't think the soul mate is limited to a lover. I have friends that I am so close to that I feel like they are soul mates. We're kindred souls.

It's not just one, I think you can have many. As for my cupcake? He's the best mate for my soul. Besides, the word soul mate is so cheesy anyway.
[Edited 1/12/09 18:18pm]

pplrain said:

well i think u can have a true love.but u can also have many other loves of your life.always someone else out there

ThreadBare said:

That's true. I agree.

I got out of a 12 year marriage last year. When I married him I thought he was my soul mate. I thought we'd be together forever. To think now that there is no one else out there for me is a horribly painful thought. I'm 35. I'm way too young to live the rest of my life alone.

I think there are many people out there for us.

oh I don't know I feel I have found people who I connect with in a profound way, that I don't necessarily get along with very well. It's always a compromise.

ThreadBare said:

... you too want many wives huh? lol .. just joking lol