This girl at work has a list of inmates who have no one to talk to. No one writes them,calls them, visits them, etc. Her boyfriend is in there right now and she's hinting at me that she wants me to write this particular inmate. I don't know what he's in there for. I'm sorry, but if it's something like rape or violence, especially towards women or kids, then I think I'd feel a little uncomfortable writing to him. Well, I'd be a little curious to know what went through their mind at the time. Plus, I'm kinda forgetful. I have a feeling I'll write him, get his response, toss it aside and forget about him. Yeah, it's kinda sad they have nobody, but why is this girl thinking I'm some sort of inmate savior? I just hope he doesn't want a relationship beyond pen pals. I don't wanna be attached to anyone right now.


Does anyone have Pen Pals?

I have a prison penpal who I knew and was freinds with in real life. He is in there for the murder of my other friend. It is the first and only crime he has ever committed. I would penpal with someone if I already HAD a relationship with you while you were out and not a habitual criminal.

I won't talk to or date dudes with a criminal past if they keep getting into trouble. And hell no I won't write other men in prison and be there pal.

Domestic violence even a misdeamenor send up a red flag for me as well as child molestation and drugs. It is part of the reason I am paraniod and do a criminal background check on dudes trying to be in my life.

Some people have chosen a path in life where they'll end up being alone in the end.... People in jail for whatever felony somehow have chosen to be alone, I don't feel like I am the one who should feel compassionate about their loneliness. Their crimes are what got them in jail, their loneliness is the extra they have never accounted for.

Just my 2 cents.....

My unit of six at my job over 5 years ago did prison pen pals together. It was a great experience. I didn't feel forced to write super often, but if you don't think you will, it's probably a bad idea to start (especially if the inmate has no contact with the outside world--that'd be cruel).

The inmate I wrote to had one other pen pal that I knew of. I had the choice not to know about the crime that was committed and that suited me just fine. I'd rather not know, as it was irrelevant in my opinion. We kept the letters to current events, hobbies, philosophy, etc, and I never let the inmate know my last name or address (we wrote to an office which would forward the letters back and forth).

I'd do it again. People need contact. The prison system is no place to live, regardless of crimes committed. Humans are primates and rehabilitation cannot be done the way it's currently happening. It's heartbreaking, to say the least.

There are inmates that raise service dog pups ... I have been thinking about contact with them to share their experiences

If I had a PO box and not a direct street address I would be more inclined to do so

INSATIABLE said:

I was gonna say there's no way I'd do it, but if it's run through a program that makes it safe so they don't know your personal details, then it's likely a worthwhile pursuit.

Thanks for the responses. Yeah, I don't have a PO Box.....and the girl needs an address. I need to ask her if it's through a program. I'm kinda curious now. I definitely won't reveal anything ridiculously personal. The girl that I'm training brings her letters to work for me to read and she's revealing some personal info.....pics. included. She's basically formed a boyfriend relationship with the man, and is going to see him for the 1st time ever this weekend. Now she's hinting at me that she's gonna need someone to ride with her on some weekends. It's about a 3 hour ride. I just don't have that much dedication.

Mach said:

I saw a documentary on a similar scheme, where inmates raise rescue dogs and give them a home during the week. It was remarkable - I really felt the dogs made a difference to the men.