thank you guys so much


i appreciate all your warm thoughts and prayers

ok


last night my aunt was trying to figure out how to move him back to the hospital for treatment as he was improving so much... he was ready to fight again and the family was so happy to hear that....


today i called her, she is very calm, yet very sad... he is back where he was last week. god, can this be it?

nakedpianoplayer said:

A lot of people "rally" from near death and then go back to the place they were..its as if they get that last burst of energy to be with people, get things done, etc. This could be it, but perhaps not. Your Aunt just needs to cherish the past few days..a gift.

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I know this all too well.

bluesbaby said:

i thought about that, i know sometimes you get a comeback before the end... it just seemed so real, it lasted over a week, i thought yet again he was going to fight his way out - now i dont know what to think.

i havent heard anything from there, im waiting for an update from my cousin. my aunt sounded so sad, it breaks my heart to hear her like this...

thanks girl love ya


thanks CC hope things are well for you

just an update,

hes sleeping all the time now, he doesnt wake up anymore.

time keeps marching on - i pray for strength for his wife and kids.

i havent been here much, my days are filled with talking to family, so many sad hearts right now.... but, i have gotten a few phone calls from folks at the org and i wanted to say thank you again... this place is funny, seems like its just a website - but its so much more than that, theres a family here.

thank you again, i appreciate it very much

nakedpianoplayer said:

I'm sorry!

we lost my uncle this evening.

his family was all around him and he went quietly in his sleep...

so sorry, girl.

I will call you over the weekend. What a trooper he was!!

Give my love to the family.


to you.

Since 1998 I have lost my mother to non hodgekins lymphoma (18th November)

A few years later my step mother to Breast cancer

Then two years ago my Grandmother ( my mums mother) to stomach cancer

So I guess u could say I know how hard it is to understand why people who are so wonderful have to suffer so much. All I know is that my mother, stepmother and gran would kick our backsides if we sat around feeling sad constantly for what we have lost and I am so glad I had a chance to let all of them know how much I loved them and how much they meant to me. My mother was my best friend. She was the type of person u could go to for anything, tell anything to, and u knew she would not judge u, but listen and try to help.
My step-mother, although in the begining we had our issues she and I talked (even before she was sick) and sorted out our differences and she was there for us when mum was sick.
My grandmother and I talked many, many hours about mum and the family and grew closer than ever and I will miss all three of them dearly, especially mum. She only ever knew one of my chldren, the other tow were born after her passing, and sometimes I wish she could have seen them here on earth and she could have known them....but I know she is watching them from elsewhere and loving them every day.
When u loose someone that way u never stop missing them, they will always touch u in some way. Even when I go shopping, especially at this time of year...and see something Elvis..I think of how much Mum would have loved it, my brothers and sisters and I even talk about what we saw that she would have liked, or how she would have reacted to certain things.
When u feel sadness I hope u all feel love too.
I believe that when u talk out loud about them, or even to them when u are alone in the house...they hear u. Their love for u will never go away and surrounds u every day...and even though u know u cant touch them or hear their voice, please know that they are still there, still listening to every word u say. They may even find some way of letting u know they are there if u pay attention

And every single one of them are angels Sending u and ure friend love

Very sorry to hear that, but I am thankful he was surrounded by loved ones.

God bless you and your family.

Safe journey

Bless

We are currently at my Uncles's beach home with family. He lost his wife to lung cancer earlier this year.

I feel her with us today, Thanksgiving. I can still imagine her cooking with my mom. Joking and laughing with my Uncle.

We miss her.

thank you guys

its so unreal, he has fought for so very, very long - 17 years of watching him cope with WHATEVER was sent his way, he worked SO hard to be here, so much pain, so many times even years ago that you could look at him and wonder if he was going to make it through where he was then. just as soon as you knew that it couldnt get much worse for him, something even more tragic would come. after his operation 5 or 6 months ago, he ended up with spinal menengitis (sp?), we were so worried then, but he pulled through... after healing from that and gaining strength, they found ANOTHER tumor and took him back to surgery for a more invasive operation, that one left him paralized from the waist down - he was so depressed, but my aunt sue was there to tell him, 'no, you will get better, we arent done, we have to go on and i need you here with me'. again he fought, he fought HARD, and he learned to walk again. it was UNBELIEVEABLE!!!!! the doctors shook their head in amazement as he took the walk down the hall at the hospital with his walker, only to earn the right to be sent home again. shortly after arriving, he fell through the door trying to get in the house... back to the hospital again - more trouble, another operation, permanently paralized from the waist down.... but wait, about two weeks later he was moving his right leg on command - seven times he did it!!! he is a miracle - can he pull himself out of this again??? everyone held their breath and waited to see what he could do, and if he was strong enough to fight his way out again.... sadly, the tumor in his lung was spotted then during another test, just over 7 inches long, his breathing slowing, his body was giving in, yet he was still fighting, still trying, still showing progress and even though we all knew it was comming, after watching a man fight for so long we had to wonder - can he do it again???? sadly, it was not to be, that battle was one he couldnt win...

that is just a snapshot of the last 6-8 months of his life, im telling you he fought that way for years!!! maybe not to that degree, but in each stage the man took what cards he had and moved forward. i have never met anyone like him before and im not sure i ever will again...

to wake up this morning and think that this happened, i had to check myself and make sure it wasnt some bad dream, i cant believe hes gone... 17 years of cheering someone on and watching over them and holding the family together is a long, long time - he was an amazing soul, he will be missed by many, he taught the doctors a thing or two about what a person is capable of when they arent ready to go, no matter what medicine says.... in the end, the last week of his life, the doctor who said 17 years ago that he had 6 months to a year saw him again in the hospital - he said, i learned long ago not to give mr bailey a time line - he defies every time line we give him...

thats how i want to remember him, he defies the answers to everything you think you can say about a person - he proves that there is strength inside you even when you believe there is none - reach deeper and focus, you have incredible strength inside to draw from...


i love him and i am glad hes out of pain, but he will be missed by many in so many different ways than even he could imagine. i wish him a safe journey to his new life, a better one with no pain and the strong, healthy body that he once had. thank you uncle chuck for all the lessons and love you shared with us, if we all could make that kind of impact on the people we know, we would all be incredibly blessed. we will see you again, if you make your place in heaven as noticed as your place here on earth, it will be impossible to miss you!!!

nakedpianoplayer said:

I'm so sorry for your loss

nakedpianoplayer said:

NP,
You are so much like your Uncle, its a blessing and gift. You seem to get through every peice of crap dealt you, all your life. All the times I shook my head and thought how you stay in the game, you don't back down, you find yourself in situations where I wanted to bonk your head on the wall--or my own--and then you figured out a way to keep going forward.

I think its a family trait of yours, to do that...there is a lot of strength in that family--and in you. Your Uncle expects nothing less than for all of you to keep moving forward.

bluesbaby said:

AWWWWW, girl!!!

thank you, i appreciate that there is that part of him in me that you can recognize... girl, you made me cry again!!!

thank you i love you, give my family love for me, talk soon - i'll be on the road for awhile, i'll try to give you a call then and we can talk, or, i'll be home all day tomorrow - maybe then.

that was really sweet, thank you

My deepest sympathy

we are leaving for the funeral today, long drive to michigan - its gonna snow a lot up there

oh, one other thing on my mind, the people that adopted my daughter are good friends with my aunt and uncle.... she will be at the funeral, heavy stuff, i hope im strong enough to deal with that as she doesnt know im her mother and i somehow have to get through this without falling apart. i've had all week to prepare and have shed many tears about her in addition to everything else, im praying for strength - and could use yours too.

thank you

A really big one

My thoughts are with you, what an experience to have to go through Stay strong

U're in all out thoughts Nekkie

i can't imagine what pain you are going through right now! take care, and blessings and prayers to you and your family.

Peace be with you and yours at this time

nakedpianoplayer said:

I'm sending you all my love dear. Hang in there and know you are loved.

Honey, I love you and want you to think of my arms around you when you feel sad