You found out your partner ( longer term relationship ) had your phone tapped for over 2 yrs ...

yes 2 yrs of listening in on your conversations with everyone - without you knowing until a yr or more after the fact

what does that say to you ?

and ...

how does that make you think/feel as the friend of the person that was being listened to by their partner ?

kinky..

I would wonder what in their own life caused them not to trust me, or if i had done something to lose their trust.

I would doubt my approachability and their ability to communicate and commit to loving me with everything they had.

I would wonder why communication had broken down so badly.

I would wonder what they were projecting on to me.

I would probably shove the phone where the sun dont shine too....

mdiver said:

Co-sign.

mdiver said:

So how would you feel being a friend of the person being listened to

my convos were invaded by uninvited ears for 2 yrs ...

Mach said:

Trust issues would be a big thing to get over.

Whoa.

That would cause some serious, serious problems. I’m not sure I could ever trust someone who did that to me, and clearly that person doesn’t trust me. So it would likely be over. But I suppose I can’t say unless that’s me in the situation.

If that happened to a close friend of mine, I’d do my best to listen and if asked advice, I’d give it honestly. I don’t think I could be in a relationship with someone who’d do something like that.

HamsterHuey said:

They have ( had, whatever ) huge trust issues between them

I'm not sure I am interested in talking to them on the phone at this time
( I just learned this info and it was supposedly a few yrs ago now but still )

Mach said:

Well first things first,technically what he did was illegal because you were not informed. Unless it was Dick Cheny and then you are fucked

I would be pissed at the breach of privacy and chew their ass over it....they would have to go a VERY long way to regain that trust

CarrieMpls said:

It is huge - and I did offer to listen and help if needed

then today I was like that means that my convos were pryed into without my knowledge as well


I feel quite odd


and yes ... I would not be in relationship with a man that did not turst me ...


this is all so weird

I'd be most vexed, they would certainly lose a limb or two in protest.

Cloudbuster said:

Kiss my ass cloudy

mdiver said:

Shut the fuck up.

I'm going through my collection of baseball bats wondering which is more appropriate, aluminum or wood...

the tapper should pack something comfy for the Hospital... it's gonna be a looong stay...

that is a very creepy thing to do. doesn't sound like there is much trust there at all.

mdiver said:

It's just wrong on so many levels

Cloudbuster said:

This info was given to me last week on vacation - I spent time with the people involved ...

Then all a sudden today It's creeped me out on deeper levels


I do feel a little angry now ...

Mach said:

Maybe just go with an old skool kick in the plums

Mach said:

And rightly so, it's disgusting behaviour.

RenHoek said:

If this was a longtime freind (s) of yours - seriously

what would you do/say ?

mdiver said:

I told you to shut the fuck up.

Nice to see you, btw.

Mach said:

File a complaint?

HamsterHuey said:

start using burn after reading letters?

mdiver said:

You know who this is ...

I need to figure out how to approach/deal with this

I feel angry and hurt

sad ... so strange

angelcat said:

It's VERY creepy to me

Cloudbuster said:

fuckers

Cloudbuster said:

Fuck you

HamsterHuey said:

Mach said:

mdiver said: