It's almost been nearly two months since the breakup and i'm still heartbroken. How can it hurt so bad when you know that it wasn't going to work out deep down while you were with that person? Why do I still love him despite all the messed up things he said to me when we last talked on the phone? Why the hell does he feel the need to text me "hi, how are you doing?" when clearly last time we talked on the phone he said some awful shit to me and then hung up in my face all because I said I felt we should part ways? He didn't want to talk then, so why text me? Why the fuck does he care about how i'm doing when obviously he didn't even try half as hard as I did to make the relationship work? And lastly, why the FUCK can't I forget about him already? I want to so badly forget, but despite everything, I still miss the good times and the good things about him. I try to force myself to keep remembering the bad times so that I can get over him quicker.

Sorry for the rant, I just had to vent.
Now i'm trying to get myself excited about Halloween tomorrow They are having a costume contest on my job, and even though I maybe the only one with balls enough to participate (i'm going to be a witch ), inside I just feel like I should be dressed in a costume for how I feel...broken hearted.

It's almost been nearly two months since the breakup and i'm still heartbroken. How can it hurt so bad when you know that it wasn't going to work out deep down while you were with that person? Why do I still love him despite all the messed up things he said to me when we last talked on the phone? Why the hell does he feel the need to text me "hi, how are you doing?" when clearly last time we talked on the phone he said some awful shit to me and then hung up in my face all because I said I felt we should part ways? He didn't want to talk then, so why text me? Why the fuck does he care about how i'm doing when obviously he didn't even try half as hard as I did to make the relationship work? And lastly, why the FUCK can't I forget about him already? I want to so badly forget, but despite everything, I still miss the good times and the good things about him. I try to force myself to keep remembering the bad times so that I can get over him quicker.

Sorry for the rant, I just had to vent.
Now i'm trying to get myself excited about Halloween tomorrow They are having a costume contest on my job, and even though I maybe the only one with balls enough to participate (i'm going to be a witch ), inside I just feel like I should be dressed in a costume for how I feel...broken hearted.

tons of fish in the sea and there really is someone for you, be proud that you're not settling

When I broke up with my guy I was REALLY hurt since I gave him a second chance when I knew he didn't deserve one. Things still didn't work out.

Two things that helped me get over.

1. I realized it didn't work out because he didn't want it to. Every relationship is different and people split for different reasons, but if two people want to stay together they WORK at doing just that. And a man will be where he wants to be, if that is not with you then you have to leave his ass ALONE. Do not keep a relationship with someone (accepting phone calls, favors, and other back and forth stuff), it'll only make missing him worsen.

2. Remember all the little bad things that happened that led you to break up with him. All the little things that hurt you. focus on that. then play some "happy to be single- f*ck him" music and stay positive about being single to meet the man you really want in your life.

paintedlady said:

Great advice!! I sincerely agree!

Cut his ass off!! .....but I know thats easier said than done

It's almost been nearly two months since the breakup and i'm still heartbroken. How can it hurt so bad when you know that it wasn't going to work out deep down while you were with that person? Why do I still love him despite all the messed up things he said to me when we last talked on the phone? Why the hell does he feel the need to text me "hi, how are you doing?" when clearly last time we talked on the phone he said some awful shit to me and then hung up in my face all because I said I felt we should part ways? He didn't want to talk then, so why text me? Why the fuck does he care about how i'm doing when obviously he didn't even try half as hard as I did to make the relationship work? And lastly, why the FUCK can't I forget about him already? I want to so badly forget, but despite everything, I still miss the good times and the good things about him. I try to force myself to keep remembering the bad times so that I can get over him quicker.

Sorry for the rant, I just had to vent.
Now i'm trying to get myself excited about Halloween tomorrow They are having a costume contest on my job, and even though I maybe the only one with balls enough to participate (i'm going to be a witch ), inside I just feel like I should be dressed in a costume for how I feel...broken hearted.

missfee said:

And there you have it.

Better than ending up in a messy divorce down the road.

Yes it hurts, it's a grieving process. Healing takes time and has no time limit.

It takes about/at least 6 months to be ok again after the really bad heartbreaks.

But then one day the sun comes out. Promise.

distracting yourself is most important. don't waste your time with trying to invest in any new relationships, just stick with friends, & maybe find a guy (or two) that are far hotter than your ex is and have fun for a little while.

evenstar3 said:

I try to distract myself but sometimes, I feel worse afterwards...like i've just ruined someone else's day by talking about him and how much I want to get over him as quickly as possible. Sometimes I cry, then I feel like I should have just stayed home to begin with. I feel so foolish when I do that, i'm 26 years old, and I'm up here feeling all hurt like I can't find nobody else...I know that I can, but it just hurts so damn bad.

evenstar3 said:

I try to distract myself but sometimes, I feel worse afterwards...like i've just ruined someone else's day by talking about him and how much I want to get over him as quickly as possible. Sometimes I cry, then I feel like I should have just stayed home to begin with. I feel so foolish when I do that, i'm 26 years old, and I'm up here feeling all hurt like I can't find nobody else...I know that I can, but it just hurts so damn bad.

When I broke up with my guy I was REALLY hurt since I gave him a second chance when I knew he didn't deserve one. Things still didn't work out.

Two things that helped me get over.

1. I realized it didn't work out because he didn't want it to. Every relationship is different and people split for different reasons, but if two people want to stay together they WORK at doing just that. And a man will be where he wants to be, if that is not with you then you have to leave his ass ALONE. Do not keep a relationship with someone (accepting phone calls, favors, and other back and forth stuff), it'll only make missing him worsen.

2. Remember all the little bad things that happened that led you to break up with him. All the little things that hurt you. focus on that. then play some "happy to be single- f*ck him" music and stay positive about being single to meet the man you really want in your life.

Cut his ass off!! .....but I know thats easier said than done

So sorry girlfriend, but things will get better

Just give yourself time and space to get over him

Keep on living, and enjoying life and you'll be able to move on in time

tons of fish in the sea and there really is someone for you, be proud that you're not settling

missfee said:

It took me a long time to get over my first love, even though he was abusive to me, in every sense of the word, sometimes more than one kind of abuse at the same time. It's not easy to let the feelings we have for others subside, despite all the cool-handedness we pull off, if that makes sense.

the only thing that you need right now is time.

And do. not. sleep. with. him.

Even texting him back, answering his calls, tells him that there is a chance he can get back in them drawers.

The sooner you cut him off, the sooner you will get over it.

missfee said:

I was 26 when my deep deepest of deep heartbreaks happened.

He was a lot how you are describing your situation. But...we reconciled...over and over gain. It made it way harder.

But two years later and six months after I stopped letting that mother fucker come over after the club, I met my cupcake.

The hardest of times open up to something that is so good you will appreciate the journey you had to go through.

KatSkrizzle said:

thanks for sharing it definitely makes me feel like there is some light at the end of the tunnel.

missfee said:

your time is coming. It is coming because you deserve it. But you also have to believe that as well.

evenstar3 said:

I try to distract myself but sometimes, I feel worse afterwards...like i've just ruined someone else's day by talking about him and how much I want to get over him as quickly as possible. Sometimes I cry, then I feel like I should have just stayed home to begin with. I feel so foolish when I do that, i'm 26 years old, and I'm up here feeling all hurt like I can't find nobody else...I know that I can, but it just hurts so damn bad.

paintedlady said:

Well you are very right with that point. This is when I get angry, with him and myself because when we broke up twice before it was like a cycle. We break up, I'm hurt, then he slowly creeps back, first texting, then calling, then wanting to hang out, to wanting to get back together. And he always use to say, "you are the one, and I just need to get myself together because I want to be with you".

^^^ that right there is EXACTLY what I went through with my guy, I wanted it to work out since we had two children together, we were engaged and all that crap, even bought a 4,000.00 wedding gown. Girl I look at that gown now and smile, as a reminder NEVER to settle again and not allow his sweet voice to soften my heart.
You can not let your self be open to possibilities that will just not happen with him. Its better to start fresh with another man. I don't regret buying that dress... its a designer gown and perfect, David wasn't perfect for me.

Then soon after we get back together, here he goes taking me for granted all over again. Then when I would call him out on it, I was the one who was "never satisfied", or "i can't get myself together overnight". He was selfish and unappreciative and the sad part is he doesn't even think he is selfish, nor unappreciative. Then I would get upset with myself for continuously giving him chances that he didn't deserve. I should have seen it a lot sooner than I did.

missfee said:

^^^^ This is what you must remember when he is around you. Men will always sweet talk you if they know the pussy will become available to them. Empty promises are a plenty with men that keep coming back. Its time to focus on you and remember all the bad, so you can look forward to a healthier future.

when its late at night is when you'll miss him the most, keep music that makes you happy (that f-him music) so that you stay focused. No R+B for you unless its Mary JB telling you to stay strong OK?

the only thing that you need right now is time.

And do. not. sleep. with. him.

Even texting him back, answering his calls, tells him that there is a chance he can get back in them drawers.

The sooner you cut him off, the sooner you will get over it.

It's almost been nearly two months since the breakup and i'm still heartbroken. How can it hurt so bad when you know that it wasn't going to work out deep down while you were with that person? Why do I still love him despite all the messed up things he said to me when we last talked on the phone? Why the hell does he feel the need to text me "hi, how are you doing?" when clearly last time we talked on the phone he said some awful shit to me and then hung up in my face all because I said I felt we should part ways? He didn't want to talk then, so why text me? Why the fuck does he care about how i'm doing when obviously he didn't even try half as hard as I did to make the relationship work? And lastly, why the FUCK can't I forget about him already? I want to so badly forget, but despite everything, I still miss the good times and the good things about him. I try to force myself to keep remembering the bad times so that I can get over him quicker.

Sorry for the rant, I just had to vent.
Now i'm trying to get myself excited about Halloween tomorrow They are having a costume contest on my job, and even though I maybe the only one with balls enough to participate (i'm going to be a witch ), inside I just feel like I should be dressed in a costume for how I feel...broken hearted.

tons of fish in the sea and there really is someone for you, be proud that you're not settling