VenusBlingBling said:

Ya know how I know? Because I've seen TONS of females LOSE IT once they get the truth. YOU know. The ORG knows it. So let's PLEASE stop acting like this shit is foreign. Please. We've seen tales in the media - dudes getting their dicks cut off - but you wanna say ALL WOMEN are cool with the truth. Yeah, right!

But again, you guys are talking about BEFORE he does it. This is about AFTER he does it. Yeah, see...different emotions then, huh?

MuthaFunka said:

Ding! Ding! Ding!!

Stymie said:

Exactly. No female here that's saying they want to be told that the dude courting them will be sleeping with other women while they're together is gonna date that dude! NONE! THAT'S why men lie about the shit!

Men want their cake and eat it, too! It's just a fact. Now, MOST men want a stable chick that they can confide in and hang out with and such - their main chick, but they also want to be able to fuck other chicks, ESPECIALLY chicks they'd NEVER consider seriously dating. That's the whole "cake and eat it, too" thing.

MuthaFunka said:

I have a freind who told a chick the truth upfront and when she found out there was another woman, she still lost it.

Stymie said:

Feel me?

Stymie said:

No no no... I said this in the other thread.. if the dude wants 3 wives, then he should say so.. if he's tired with the relationship, he should say so... no, the truth isn't pretty, but that's life.... why should my life be depressing cause he wants to thrill seek? and they want to color it another color but what it is... a cop out excuse to be selfish they hold on to relationships cause they secretly don't want mess stuff up (although they already have) .....Go do what you want to do ... and let my life go... simple ..and that's me..

I see a lot of responses start off with "we can handle the truth", then immediately veer off into what "I" want and would do....if "you" can handle it, then O.K. for you...but there are women (and men) out there who can't handle the truth...and will turn your honesty into what is prevalent in many of these responses..."you're a dog...you ain't shit...etc, etc, yada yada yada...."

it's been my experience that the truth, in many cases, is the LAST thing some folks want to hear...
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Stymie said:

Exactly!

reneGade20 said:

Preeeeeach!

reneGade20 said:

Renegade... I said this in the other thread... if folks want to live in fantasy denial and not accept the truth.. then that's fine for them, that's they're choice.. but don't put that off on people LIKE ME ... 'Oh, I can't tell you, cause I KNOW you can't handle the truth' all that says to me is.. you want to pacify your guilt and your ways by not telling, that's all it reads... I'm a realist and I'm not hearing that.. no, life is not pretty, the truth is ugly...and truth comes out anyway.. why can't a person just be an adult about it?

reneGade20 said:

Of course there are women who can't handle the truth. But Muth also kind of said that no or at least most women can't and I don't agree with that. Maybe you fellas are fishing in the wrong part of the ocean...

Plus, yes I was talking about the guy being honest BEFORE he starts sleeping with the girl. I mean he probably knows very well if he's a one woman man or not so of course I'm gonna get mad if he's not honest with it. But even if he lies and then decides to tell me that he's with several ladies after we've started to be intimate I'd still prefer that to him not telling me at all. Why? Because in most cases I will find it out sooner or later and I'd rather hear it from the horses mouth than from some friend and feel even more betrayed. Yes, I will be furious and cut his thing of (kiddin') if the guy tells me he's been hiding from me that he's fooling around but I still prefer it that way.

Where are y'all reading from? Why are y'all fuckin' up MY words and twisting them and shit? There's no "kind of said" to it, I CONCRETELY SAID - MOST WOMEN. And it's true. Why do I KNOW it's true that MOST WOMEN can't handle the truth?...BECAUSE MEN HAD TO HAVE ATTEMPTED THE TRUTH AT SOME POINT TO REALIZE THAT LYING IS A BETTER CHOICE TO GO WITH!

new pussy + commitment jitters.


thats pretty much it.



i'd imagine the same goes with women.


just replace "pussy" with "dick".


unless your gay of course

MuthaFunka said:

You are exactly the kind of man that makes so many of us women think that men simply are bastards, the kind that causes unnecessary heart ache and sorrow and that I detest (in the love area).

Flowers2 said:

See, you are saying you'd be depressed and you want the guy to "let your life go". if he really wanted to be with you, can you understand this would be the reason he would lie to you?

Men do not tell the truth for TWO reasons.

1. Drama and fights will commence.
2. She won't be monogamous either.

These factors play into the lying part. Some men are not cool with getting served up by another man because his ego couldn't handle it. Just as her ego can't handle him enjoying another woman more than her.

paintedlady said:

paintedlady said:

PREACH!!!!

I suck hella dick though. I don't worry about that being better with another woman.

MuthaFunka said:

So are you saying that if you can't handle the truth you don't deserve the truth???

Stymie said:

DATS MY girl! Will be orgnoting you for advice....

VenusBlingBling said:

I speak for myself mmostly, but if my man was like "Baby I love you, but I wanna fuck other women" I'd be like "Ok, muthafuckka.... me too."

But that's only if he was great in bed... if he was aiight, then I'd have to let him go.

VenusBlingBling said:

Well, I heard a comedian once say "Ladies, if you're STILL sayin' 'Men ain't shit' and your over 30...then maybe it's YOU" .

Again, don't shoot the messenger.

Stymie said:

he can't have his cake and eat it too... his lying to want to keep me around doesn't cut it.... if he's not willing to want to sacrifice in the relationship (by making his woman happy and being faithful) .. then he doesn't need to be in one... a female needs to say 'see ya' .. somebody else will do what he won't...

MuthaFunka said:

yeah.. and men who are over 30, who cheat cause they don't care about women .... ain't shit either.. .. and dat's the fact jack...

paintedlady said:

No, change that to ALL MEN! - NO MAN can handle the fact that some dude went up in "his stuff"! Trust and believe that shit! Men don't forgive as easily as women do. That's a hard issue for a man to shake from his head.

veronikka said:

No. What I'm saying is, MOST women simply can't handle the truth. We ALL deserve the truth. We ALL can't handle the truth.

paintedlady said:

...you remind me of my ex-soulmate sometimes

VenusBlingBling said:

No he's not. He telling you the truth from his experiences. I actually appreciate his perspective on this. Most men wouldn't be this honest.

Flowers2 said:

Maybe? Who knows? But the one thing you won't EVER hear from those 30-year-old men "Women ain't shit" because that 30-year-old man KNOWS that there's another woman out there that IS shit .

Stymie said:

Exactly. I can ONLY speak from my experiences.