so, if she hadn't parade the head through the crowd like that, she might not be charged with homicide and be in jail, because she had evidence it was in self defense.

i think that's what the article is saying.

I'm torn with this....on the one hand, I'm glad that she stood her ground and fought him off...the fact that he lost his head is collateral damage in my mind...

...however, on the other hand, I'm a bit amazed that folks are cheering the fact that she cut his head off and paraded it down mainstreet.... I shudder to think of the responses(as a man) if this story had been about some guy who caught his wife cheating and lopped her head off and paraded it down mainstreet...

I don't know how I should feel... hold me

All hail Kali Ma

awesome

reneGade20 said:

i'm with you on this one. Even though I'm a woman and even though the guy was hurting the woman and about to commit a vicious crime, i'm glad she fought back, but to severe his head....? And for folks to be applauding this..?? If it was the opposite way around, this thread would be in disbelief and outraged, but because it was a man attempting to rape a woman, it doesn't make it right that she sever his damn head off. Yes she should have fought back, but to sever his head off is just plain old butchery. Should she had hurt him to get him off of her, yes, but kill him, no.

reneGade20 said:

i'm with you on this one. Even though I'm a woman and even though the guy was hurting the woman and about to commit a vicious crime, i'm glad she fought back, but to severe his head....? And for folks to be applauding this..?? If it was the opposite way around, this thread would be in disbelief and outraged, but because it was a man attempting to rape a woman, it doesn't make it right that she severe his damn head off. Yes she should have fought back, but to severe his head off is just plain old butchery. Should she had hurt him to get him off of her, yes, but kill him, no.

I see your point, but I wholeheartedly disagree.

Have you ever been raped?

I have.

I say she's a fucking hero.

A woman cheating on her husband is not the same thing as a man violently violating the body of a woman. Sorry.

missfee said:

I see your point, but I wholeheartedly disagree.

Have you ever been raped?

I have.

I say she's a fucking hero.

A woman cheating on her husband is not the same thing as a man violently violating the body of a woman. Sorry.

"and if you EVER sexually harrass me again, i'll chop off your OTHER head."

union119 said:

Yeah, who was worse, this lady or that Lorena Bobbitt woman? I'm pretty sure he prayed for death for a hot second once he realized 'little man' had been chopped off and thrown into a field.

Maybe a little extreme what she did, but it's India. They cut your hands off for stealing in some countries.[Edited 10/18/08 19:06pm]

estelle81 said:

And throw acid on innocent girls, as well as commit honor killings on the regular . . .
I think that this act has to be viewed in the context of India's very restrictive, oppressive, and violent attitudes and behavior where women are concerned. Who knows what other types of abuse at male hands this woman was exorcising with this overly demonstrative act?
[Edited 10/18/08 19:11pm]

What's the problem?

PurpleJedi said:

the problem is.. that's your opinion.. if you want to praise murder.. then that's your business.. she had a weapon, she could have wounded the man, not kill him.. and it's you, who's out of touch if you feel folks here should agree with you on praising murder... and she certainly is no hero

Flowers2 said:

Yeah...it's my "opinion" that diving into the East River would not result in death.
Obviously your reality and mine are on different levels.
I'd like to see YOU standing out there in a field, more precisely as a poor woman in a country where women are more objects than people, and as you're working some man comes out and attacks you...viciously so (ergo the bite marks on her). And I'm SO sure that you're going to maintain your composure and just "wound" him.
Uh-huh. Yeah, OK.

The whole incident is so hideous that it creeps me out. I think I'd be horrified if I had to do something like that...even in self defense

First off, does it really matter? We're talking about walking around with a severed head (which is a pretty extreme image), not what caused it to be severed...of course, there's no comparison between her reality and my example...

The article said the he was stalking HER for three months....not that he was a serial rapist or attacker...again, as I said, I'm glad she fought him off and he paid the price for his actions...and as I said, whether she cut his head off or his leg or whatever isn't a matter of real importance to me because he wouldn't have lost his head if he wouldn't have put himself in that position, regardless of whatever she had handy to use as a weapon...the point that caused me some pause was her being held up like she's some kind of hero...she took care of herself...she defended herself...so kudos to her...but to me, her parading around with the severed head (besides being in shock) is her way of saying to other MEN


"don't fuck with me...don't try it with me!!", not "I did this, not just for me, but for all the women of this town"...

and again, this is strictly MY interpretation based on what is in the story...

PurpleJedi said:

the problem is.. that's your opinion.. if you want to praise murder.. then that's your business.. she had a weapon, she could have wounded the man, not kill him.. and it's you, who's out of touch if you feel folks here should agree with you on praising murder... and she certainly is no hero
[Edited 10/18/08 21:39pm]

reneGade20 said:

What's wrong with saying that? Women SHOULD be saying, "Don't fuck with me". Maybe then there might be less violence and rape against women. The guy was stalking her for several months and tried to rape her. What's she supposed to do? Politely say thanks, but no?

Consider also that this occured in India, a country where women still face the risk of being killed by their families for dishonouring them by being raped. Isn't it possible -likely, even -that she herself would have been killed or punished in some way for dishonouring her family, or at the least not believed by the other villagers and shamed out of society? This still goes on in countries all over the world. Shit, even over here the onus is still on the victim to prove rape, and not the rapist to disprove it. If desperate situations do ineed call for desperate measures, then I'd say she chose the only option available.

But aren't you praising hurting a person, by saying she should have only hurt him? She beheaded the guy in self-defense. I'm not sure how or why you're equating that with murder. Murder is, by definition, premeditated.