yeah, i'd rather be loved too.

there cant be love without fear!

raveon2tnek said:

so they say, but for me, love is the absence of all fear.

l rather say loved ....
but some do have fear ....(holding them)
thts because they see fear as Fear of rejection ..when its come to find the person to be the love of ur life...

so l would rather be loved too ...

i'd rather love.

After a wee bit of research, I've come to the conclusion that I would prefer to be awed, which has a certain element of fear, just in the right dosage. That takes a lot of disciplined worked though to achieve.

I remember Sonny being asked the same question

senik said:

You are so Americanized.

morningsong said:

AWWWWW!!

morningsong said:

are you sure?

i've been awed throughout my life..

it creates distance between people

and it can be very very isolating.

you find you have expectations to live up to

and the people who are in awe of you develop low self-esteem

because there you are - always somehow 'better' than them

when all you really want to say is:

i am no different than you

we are the same, you and i

be not in awe and be not afraid

this awesome presence exists within you also

love one another

as i have loved you.



see ?

reneGade20 said:

loved

union119 said:

The truth is, I AM different than you and you than me and so on and so forth. It's the disrespect of difference that is the problem. I looked up both words and under fear was the word respect, awe, not so with the word love. We've had the "love" time, in my opinion, I think a little more respect and awe in this world would do wonders. Besides in truth I think respect and "wonder" is what people mean when they say the word love anyway. Extremes in any direction isn't a good thing, balance is. One without the other is pointless.

Perfect definition.
For me: loved - no question.
Fear is dysfunctional, it's poison, it's a weapon. People who need to use fear in their relationships lack self-confidence imo, and maybe by extension self-love.

union119 said:

Loved -- but in its truest sense, which, in my mind, subsumes real respect. And that respect is what fear is poised to approximate, never quite enjoying respect's full flourish... much less love's.
[Edited 10/19/08 22:52pm]