Respect is the ultimate compliment.
[Edited 10/16/08 7:12am]

can I be ignored??

Why the fuck would I want to be "feared", or anyone for that matter?

Lame.

JustErin said:

To have my children fear me is close to the last thing I can imagine wanting

Healthy respect as their parent yes, fear - not

Appreciated.

Mach said:

Thank you very much kind lady.....

hubba hubba....

Loved. Sometimes people actually find me intimidating (for reasons that I don't really understand), and I don't like it.

Graycap23 said:

This is very true...it's the ultimate goal of leadership...but in terms of this thread, it is something that is gained equally through love and fear....because there are those who respect you because they like/love you....and those who respect you despite the fact that they wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire....

JustErin said:

In my line of business, I don't have time to worry about hurting someone's feelings or having someone questioning my decisions if there is some serious shit about to hit the fan....when I was in Iraq, my whole team was tight...we loved each other....but early on in the deployment, when I made decisions there were a couple of folks who figured because we were tight, they could take their time doing what needed to be done...which if we were under fire or being attacked, would've cost lives....

....so for me, its far from lame....

reneGade20 said:

What does this have to do with fear?

JustErin said:

Fear of repercussions if they don't follow the leader....

reneGade20 said:

No, I don't see that as being about fear at all. I see it as being about respect and there is a huge difference in my opinion.

And just to try and look at it as fear. I don't think that's even about *you* being feared, it's about them fearing what could actually happen (safety-wise) if they don't follow the leader.
[Edited 10/16/08 11:43am]

JustErin said:

Agreed to an extent....but...

...in the military, the rank and the individual, depending on the situation, aren't so interchangeable...and carrying the rank that I do, the fear also comes from the amount of power and control I wield that can determine the fate of their careers...still, I can see and accept what you're sayin'...

reneGade20 said:

That's cool, I just do not understand the military mindset at all.

Loved, of course.

No one should ever fear me.

JustErin said:

Sometimes, neither do I...and I've been at this for 15+ years....

....I'm just more amazed at the fact that this is the most interaction I've had with the legendary JustErin....

...I'm never washing my keyboard again....

reneGade20 said:

You silly, silly man. We've conversed a couple times before!

And "legendary" makes me feel very old!!

JustErin said:

and as far as old goes, I'm sure I gotcha beat in that category....

loved

reneGade20 said:

hello soldier


i am in the Army too.
[Edited 10/16/08 17:42pm]

ToraToraDreams said:

Co-sign

union119 said:

Yeah? Where, what rank, and how long?

It was getting lonely thinkin' I was the only one....

reneGade20 said:

apologies soldier but thats top secret information..

what i can tell you is:

we're winning

loved.

kimrachell said:

Forget Love Fear Is Better

union119 said:

Smartass!! PA-RADE REST!!

reneGade20 said:

Love Is Overrated

loved