...to flirt with a guy when he has a girlfriend????


In an open setting???

myfavorite said:

If she is present, yes. U might be courting a beat down with that one.

allllrighty!

myfavorite said:

Harmless flirting is ok if you're not doing it in front of his chick.

but if you're doing it to try and get him interested you, that's totally inappropriate.

This is why I never flirt unless I want the person.
[Edited 10/14/08 12:16pm]

well, he should be the one asking himself that question. Would his gf be okay with that? But yes, should you encourage it? It depends on the relationship.

Personally I think flirting is generally harmless. I may be committed, but I cannot shut down completely to the outside world. Or at least, I don't want to. I want to treat a woman like a woman and that might mean flirting at times. It's a basic part of life.

But I wouldn't want to do it in any way that's disrespectful to my gf, gives the wrong impression, or act like she's not there and flirt with you.

JustErin said:

harmless or not, don't flirt with my woman.

I flirt for laughs.... ...

lol
The Bunny Boiler from Balls Of Steel

myfavorite said:

Depends. If he has a girlfriend, and tells you that, but you are still trying to holla anyway when he is not interested, then maybe fall back.

BUT, if he tells you he has a girlfriend and is still hollering @ you and you two are vibing or what not see where it takes you. You never know.

1sexymf said:

you summed it up right there!
but if she's not around then you're not doing anything wrong, and he should know to behave himself

1sexymf said:

yep

myfavorite said:

Yes, if he's flirting back with her there, that's not cool.
But I would say it depends on the level of flirting.


If you wouldn't say it with her standing there . . . probably best to keep it to yourself.

If his girlfriends a total bitch, go for it

If she's sweet and they're happy then that makes YOU the total bitch

myfavorite said:

Which means you're gonna do it no matter what the circumstances are,
so why did you ask?

Yes it's inappropriate.
If you know he has a girlfriend then leave him alone.

I always end up flirting with the girlfriend and the guy ends up like:

myfavorite said:

Yes. While technically he's still "single" (assuming he's not engaged or married) I still think it's tacky at best and disrespectful at worst.

hokie said:

but what does HE think?

hokie said:

it is tacky... there's plenty other single men out there to flirt with ..... no need to steal somebody else's property ...

Flowers2 said:

it's not stealing and we're not property, but it can be tacky

myfavorite said:

It all depends on intent and perception. If it's harmless and you know it, and he knows it, and she knows it then have at 'er. Or if you're flirting just to have fun it's usually harmless enough. But when there's real lust behind that flirting, tread lightly.

NDRU said:

you are if you belong to a 'wife' ..

Flowers2 said:

well, I don't agree about owning each other, but the question was about having a girlfriend (and I don't really feel there's a difference anyway)
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Flowers2 said:

I wouldn't say so. No one person is ever another person's property or posession.

NDRU said:

I agree. Even if you are married I have a real problem with the word "property". IMO that kind of thinking is detrimental to the relationship and the individuals. Marriage for me is about two people that are already happy on their own who want to come together and be partners for life. I know not everyone defines it that way and not everyone feels the need to get married and that's cool. But, whether I'm married or not I will NEVER be anyone's property.

NDRU said:

Are you asking what he thinks his "status" is or if what he thinks about the flirting?

If he considers himself taken then he shouldn't want the attention. If he is OK with the flirting then he's a dope and needs a

hokie said:

uhm.. it's just slang terminology (not to mention a song).. I didn't realize you people would take this so personally ..