Love, being loved in return and having something to look forward to. Thats the key to happiness.

knowing and pushing yourself. it's not what i do, but i'm just saaaaayyyying.....

Ace said:[quote]

missfee said:

Okay, I gotcha'.

Ace said:[quote]

missfee said:

Okay, I gotcha'.

...is looking inside, recognizing your positives and negatives...accepting both without stressing on either....realizing that others have their ups, downs, and hangups too...and armed with all that knowledge, saying WTF and smiling anyway!!

Mach said:

and there you have it

InsatiableCream said:

At least those are the things/thoughts that made me happy right then

Love.

The key to happiness is to stop trying to grasp it...

being honest with yourself ABOUT yourself....

...Unbelievably bomb-ass pussy.

money

reasonable expectations

changing things yourself first when things don't seem right

enjoying the little things

alwayslate said:

ZombieKitten said:

Not sure what you mean by #2. But #1 and #3?

Ace said:

well you know people who expect everyone else to be the ones that bend (knowing full well they won't) and pretty much let other people shape their lives? they can always blame someone else for their misery. Hard to explain what I mean exactly

Take for example my mum, all she ever does is whine about my dad. Not once has she taken a stand and made a decision for herself - her life is basically just going along with what he decides, and I know for a fact he is not an unreasonable person, it's just with no resistance (from her) he really does think his way is the only way.
So she lives in a house (a NEW house) that she doesn't really like
Goes to holiday destinations she doesn't much care for etc.
Ask her why, she can always say "you know, your father "

ZombieKitten said:

Exactly...if your willing to put up with something then u only have urself to blame ....not anyone else

Ocean said:

Just to be clear, I'm not talking domestic violence or emotional abuse here either, that is something different entirely.

ZombieKitten said:

Ottensen said:

Ottie.

The Five Levels of Truth-Telling: First, you tell the truth to yourself about yourself. Then you tell the truth to yourself about another. At the third level, you tell the truth about yourself to another. Then you tell your truth about another to that other. And finally, you tell the truth to everyone about everything. ~ Neale Donald Walsch Conversations with God (Book 2)

right now, a couple lines, jack and orange juice and some crazy people with an agenda.

ME lighting your thread ON FIRE!!!







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FunkMistress said:

Agreed.

Ottensen said:

How does that make you happy?

Serious said:

I think if your honest with yourself about who you are leads to acceptance and acceptance leads to peace. peace to happiness.

honeypot69 said:

Hmm that might work for some people, but it doesn't work for me. But thanks for explaining.

ZombieKitten said:

I don't mean to offend you or anything, but it sounds like you mom is just settling for your dad. How can she ever be happy just going along with what he wants to do all the time? Its like she is throwing a big piece of her away just to make somebody else happy instead of making herself happy. I can say this because this use to be me in my last relationship that I just broke off. I can say that I did voice the things that I wanted to do with him, but he always used a bunch of excuses on we could do this next week, or that next year, but that was all bullshit because he just wanted me to go along with whatever he wanted to do all the time, and I did. It took me a while to realize what was "really" going on, but thank god I finally opened my eyes and left that behind for good. Life is too short being miserable at somebody else's expense.
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missfee said:

not at their expense, my dad is really happy! she does everything for him.
I totally agree with everything you've said
We have been telling her for years, stop the whining and leave him if he is that bad, but she won't.