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PrintableLove, being loved in return and having something to look forward to. Thats the key to happiness. | |
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knowing and pushing yourself. it's not what i do, but i'm just saaaaayyyying..... THE B EST BE YOURSELF AS LONG AS YOUR SELF ISNT A DYCK[/r]
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Ace said:[quote] missfee said: It's not that I've had bad experiences and they've led me to "give up on finding love". I think my feelings on the subject can best be summed up by a quotation from the Bruce Springsteen song Dry Lightning: She said "Ain't nobody gonna give nobody
What they really need anyway" "Love" is marketed as a panacea. Most people's ideas about what it's supposed to be and do are taken from fiction. When it inevitably doesn't measure up to those portrayals, too many think there's something wrong with their relationship (rather than the yardstick) and go looking for something they're never going to find. Or somethin' like that.  Okay, I gotcha'.  I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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Ace said:[quote] missfee said: It's not that I've had bad experiences and they've led me to "give up on finding love". I think my feelings on the subject can best be summed up by a quotation from the Bruce Springsteen song Dry Lightning: She said "Ain't nobody gonna give nobody
What they really need anyway" "Love" is marketed as a panacea. Most people's ideas about what it's supposed to be and do are taken from fiction. When it inevitably doesn't measure up to those portrayals, too many think there's something wrong with their relationship (rather than the yardstick) and go looking for something they're never going to find. Or somethin' like that. Okay, I gotcha'. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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...is looking inside, recognizing your positives and negatives...accepting both without stressing on either....realizing that others have their ups, downs, and hangups too...and armed with all that knowledge, saying WTF and smiling anyway!!
 He was like a cock who thought the sun had risen to hear him crow.
(George Eliot) the video for the above... 
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Mach said: An ice cold beer
A Cuban Cigar 350 grand in the bank Sex and Rock n roll and there you have it | |
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InsatiableCream said: Mach said: An ice cold beer
A Cuban Cigar 350 grand in the bank Sex and Rock n roll and there you have it At least those are the things/thoughts that made me happy right then  | |
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Love. It is not known why FuNkeNsteiN capitalizes his name as he does, though some speculate sunlight deficiency caused by the most pimpified white guy afro in Nordic history.
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The key to happiness is to stop trying to grasp it... | |
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being honest with yourself ABOUT yourself.... | |
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...Unbelievably bomb-ass pussy. nWo: bboy87 - Timmy84 - LittleBlueCorvette - MuthaFunka - phunkdaddy - Christopher
MuthaFunka - Black...by popular demand | |
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reasonable expectations
changing things yourself first when things don't seem right enjoying the little things | |
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alwayslate said: missfee said: the key to happiness is.....?????
that man in your avatar.  I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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ZombieKitten said: reasonable expectations
changing things yourself first when things don't seem right enjoying the little things Not sure what you mean by #2. But #1 and #3?  | |
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Ace said: ZombieKitten said: reasonable expectations
changing things yourself first when things don't seem right enjoying the little things Not sure what you mean by #2. But #1 and #3? well you know people who expect everyone else to be the ones that bend (knowing full well they won't) and pretty much let other people shape their lives? they can always blame someone else for their misery. Hard to explain what I mean exactly
Take for example my mum, all she ever does is whine about my dad. Not once has she taken a stand and made a decision for herself - her life is basically just going along with what he decides, and I know for a fact he is not an unreasonable person, it's just with no resistance (from her) he really does think his way is the only way. So she lives in a house (a NEW house) that she doesn't really like Goes to holiday destinations she doesn't much care for etc. Ask her why, she can always say "you know, your father  " | |
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ZombieKitten said: Ace said: Not sure what you mean by #2. But #1 and #3? well you know people who expect everyone else to be the ones that bend (knowing full well they won't) and pretty much let other people shape their lives? they can always blame someone else for their misery. Hard to explain what I mean exactly
Take for example my mum, all she ever does is whine about my dad. Not once has she taken a stand and made a decision for herself - her life is basically just going along with what he decides, and I know for a fact he is not an unreasonable person, it's just with no resistance (from her) he really does think his way is the only way. So she lives in a house (a NEW house) that she doesn't really like Goes to holiday destinations she doesn't much care for etc. Ask her why, she can always say "you know, your father " | |
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Ocean said: ZombieKitten said: well you know people who expect everyone else to be the ones that bend (knowing full well they won't) and pretty much let other people shape their lives? they can always blame someone else for their misery. Hard to explain what I mean exactly
Take for example my mum, all she ever does is whine about my dad. Not once has she taken a stand and made a decision for herself - her life is basically just going along with what he decides, and I know for a fact he is not an unreasonable person, it's just with no resistance (from her) he really does think his way is the only way. So she lives in a house (a NEW house) that she doesn't really like Goes to holiday destinations she doesn't much care for etc. Ask her why, she can always say "you know, your father "
Just to be clear, I'm not talking domestic violence or emotional abuse here either, that is something different entirely. | |
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ZombieKitten said: Ocean said: Exactly...if your willing to put up with something then u only have urself to blame ....not anyone else
Just to be clear, I'm not talking domestic violence or emotional abuse here either, that is something different entirely. | |
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Ottensen said: being honest with yourself ABOUT yourself....
Ottie.
The Five Levels of Truth-Telling: First, you tell the truth to yourself about yourself. Then you tell the truth to yourself about another. At the third level, you tell the truth about yourself to another. Then you tell your truth about another to that other. And finally, you tell the truth to everyone about everything. ~ Neale Donald Walsch Conversations with God (Book 2) | |
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right now, a couple lines, jack and orange juice and some crazy people with an agenda. THE B EST BE YOURSELF AS LONG AS YOUR SELF ISNT A DYCK[/r]
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ME lighting your thread ON FIRE!!!
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FunkMistress said: missfee said: the key to happiness is.....?????
Learning to be happy no matter what your circumstances or environment. Learning to touch peace and gratitude no matter what the people around you are doing or saying. There's no one way to find that. For me, meditation has helped tremendously and has taught me to find that place through breathing and focusing my attention. And although I don't call myself a Christian, focusing on the trials that Jesus Christ endured really helps me put my own struggles in perspective. I make sure I am consciously focusing on what I am thankful for every single day, and make sure that I'm not magnifying my own pains and burdens. So for me, [b]gratitude is a way to happiness. Being humble and appreciating what I have.[/b] Agreed. | |
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Ottensen said: being honest with yourself ABOUT yourself....
How does that make you happy? With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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Serious said: Ottensen said: being honest with yourself ABOUT yourself....
How does that make you happy? I think if your honest with yourself about who you are leads to acceptance and acceptance leads to peace. peace to happiness. | |
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honeypot69 said: Serious said: How does that make you happy? I think if your honest with yourself about who you are leads to acceptance and acceptance leads to peace. peace to happiness. Hmm that might work for some people, but it doesn't work for me. But thanks for explaining. With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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ZombieKitten said: Ace said: Not sure what you mean by #2. But #1 and #3? well you know people who expect everyone else to be the ones that bend (knowing full well they won't) and pretty much let other people shape their lives? they can always blame someone else for their misery. Hard to explain what I mean exactly
Take for example my mum, all she ever does is whine about my dad. Not once has she taken a stand and made a decision for herself - her life is basically just going along with what he decides, and I know for a fact he is not an unreasonable person, it's just with no resistance (from her) he really does think his way is the only way. So she lives in a house (a NEW house) that she doesn't really like Goes to holiday destinations she doesn't much care for etc. Ask her why, she can always say "you know, your father "I don't mean to offend you or anything, but it sounds like you mom is just settling for your dad. How can she ever be happy just going along with what he wants to do all the time? Its like she is throwing a big piece of her away just to make somebody else happy instead of making herself happy. I can say this because this use to be me in my last relationship that I just broke off. I can say that I did voice the things that I wanted to do with him, but he always used a bunch of excuses on we could do this next week, or that next year, but that was all bullshit because he just wanted me to go along with whatever he wanted to do all the time, and I did. It took me a while to realize what was "really" going on, but thank god I finally opened my eyes and left that behind for good. Life is too short being miserable at somebody else's expense. [Edited 10/13/08 15:50pm] I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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missfee said: ZombieKitten said: well you know people who expect everyone else to be the ones that bend (knowing full well they won't) and pretty much let other people shape their lives? they can always blame someone else for their misery. Hard to explain what I mean exactly
Take for example my mum, all she ever does is whine about my dad. Not once has she taken a stand and made a decision for herself - her life is basically just going along with what he decides, and I know for a fact he is not an unreasonable person, it's just with no resistance (from her) he really does think his way is the only way. So she lives in a house (a NEW house) that she doesn't really like Goes to holiday destinations she doesn't much care for etc. Ask her why, she can always say "you know, your father "I don't mean to offend you or anything, but it sounds like you mom is just settling for your dad. How can she ever be happy just going along with what he wants to do all the time? Its like she is throwing a big piece of her away just to make somebody else happy instead of making herself happy. I can say this because this use to be me in my last relationship that I just broke off. I can say that I did voice the things that I wanted to do with him, but he always used a bunch of excuses on we could do this next week, or that next year, but that was all bullshit because he just wanted me to go along with whatever he wanted to do all the time, and I did. It took me a while to realize what was "really" going on, but thank god I finally opened my eyes and left that behind for good. Life is too short being miserable at somebody else's expense. not at their expense, my dad is really happy! she does everything for him. I totally agree with everything you've said We have been telling her for years, stop the whining and leave him if he is that bad, but she won't. | |
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