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I am having a pity party I have teenagers. A lot. I am sick of them. It is causing so my stress at home and with my relationship. I joke about it a lot, but the situation can and does get ugly. I am the only one who always fixes everything. I will call a family meeting and run it. I will come up with rules and consequences. I will sit down with my husband and find some common ground. His game plan is to leave everything alone and it will work itself out. It's like I was put on earth just for other people. I am exhusted and want to be even slightly appreciated. Sorry. I just needed to vent. [Edited 10/10/08 8:51am] Peace. Love. Prince | |
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I appreciate you.
at least you are trying to teach your kids right from wrong. You are trying to raise them the best way you know how to. I commend you for taking the time. They hear you, they may not admit it, act like it or want to, but they do. Later when they are older you will see what a difference you made. Hang in there mama, it really is for the good.  
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we have four of them, so I understand.
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I am so emotionally on the edge right now, that resonse brought me to tears. I appreciate that. It feel strange to reach out to total strangers. Peace. Love. Prince | |
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I have two youngun's 5 & 2 but I have no teens (yet) so I can't fathom what you might be going through. Just keep being the great parent you are...
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RenHoek said: I have two youngun's 5 & 2 but I have no teens (yet) so I can't fathom what you might be going through. Just keep being the great parent you are...
Thank you. You'll need my support someday and I am so there for you!! Peace. Love. Prince | |
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tell that man if he values your sanity he will stand up and get involved
btw i saw your "photo that has special meaning"  beautiful
ultimately they will grow and fail and learn and become wonderful adults.  She couldn't stop crying 'cause she knew he was gone to stay | |
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emm said: tell that man if he values your sanity he will stand up and get involved
btw i saw your "photo that has special meaning" beautiful
ultimately they will grow and fail and learn and become wonderful adults. I really believe they will. And I think we are doing a good job. I need to take better care of my own mental health. I take things too personally. Nothing we are going through is abnormal. It's just exaggerated because of the numbers. It's like mob mentality. Tomorrow I will wake up feeling like super mom again. Peace. Love. Prince | |
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One day, they will appreciate you for all you do for them! 
but for now you need to take care of yourself, and try to get some stress relief or else you'll go mad! Good luck hun If you will, so will I | |
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I definitely feel for you... 
I have three teens and one pre-teen... They ACT LIKE i'm the dumbest person on earth. and to think i had children so i wouldn't be alone. I wanted a BIG family to care for .  They do a little less than kick the dust from under their feet AT YOUR HOUSE! after you've SLAVED for them all those years.THE B EST BE YOURSELF AS LONG AS YOUR SELF ISNT A DYCK[/r]
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rnljs said: emm said: tell that man if he values your sanity he will stand up and get involved
btw i saw your "photo that has special meaning" beautiful
ultimately they will grow and fail and learn and become wonderful adults. I really believe they will. And I think we are doing a good job. I need to take better care of my own mental health. I take things too personally. Nothing we are going through is abnormal. It's just exaggerated because of the numbers. It's like mob mentality. Tomorrow I will wake up feeling like super mom again. This always help me get through a tough day... 
 [Edited 10/10/08 10:56am] A working class Hero is something to be ~ Lennon |
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| it's hard when you don't have the support of your significant other to back you up when trying to set rules & limits. its like playing "good cop / bad cop" with the exception that you hardly ever get to play good cop. instead you get the "well, daddy doesn't mind..." or "daddy said it was okay..." etc.
so, i took up running. its like running away without actually running away. hang in there RN, alas there's light at the end of the tunnel. they eventually grow out of it! | |
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I appreciate you  and I admire your strength ...all will work out for you.. | |
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Thank you all so much! I feel better today. Crisis averted!
 Peace. Love. Prince | |
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You Are Super Mom | |
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for the future...
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you will probably need more.. we'll be back... i have three... i asked for an extra one!!! she's a foster child... what was i thinking??? 
its easing up now tho..they are 22, 19,18 so...  [Edited 10/12/08 10:16am]  'why y'all trying to say goodbye? I didn't go anywhere, I'm right here, im all around you,always..'
in a line from my dream, I heard a voice and saw a silhouette in a chair.. | |
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rnljs said: I have teenagers. A lot. I am sick of them. It is causing so my stress at home and with my relationship. I joke about it a lot, but the situation can and does get ugly. I am the only one who always fixes everything. I will call a family meeting and run it. I will come up with rules and consequences. I will sit down with my husband and find some common ground. His game plan is to leave everything alone and it will work itself out. It's like I was put on earth just for other people. I am exhusted and want to be even slightly appreciated. Sorry. I just needed to vent.
[Edited 10/10/08 8:51am] Sometimes when I would feel overwhelmed with 2 teens and 2 gradeschoolers - or then later 2 teens and My Mom with the basic mentality of a spoiled 6 yr old ... I would remember that it is imprtant for me to step back - even away for a weeks vacation and let others handle things on their own It IS OKAY to take a break and step back and away to gain perspective and to give others the chance to gain perspective best wishes | |
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rnljs said: Thank you all so much! I feel better today. Crisis averted!
Glad you are feeling better 
I have one teen and feel overwhelmed at times, I cant imagine having to deal with more than one Rhythm floods my heart♥The melody it feeds my soul | |
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peb319 said: for the future...
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you will probably need more.. we'll be back... i have three... i asked for an extra one!!! she's a foster child... what was i thinking???
its easing up now tho..they are 22, 19,18 so...
[Edited 10/12/08 10:16am] I am impressed with adding a foster child!!! They really don't seem to be getting any easier though. I am so going to get even with the grandkids. Peace. Love. Prince | |
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rnljs said: peb319 said: for the future...
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you will probably need more.. we'll be back... i have three... i asked for an extra one!!! she's a foster child... what was i thinking???
its easing up now tho..they are 22, 19,18 so...
[Edited 10/12/08 10:16am] I am impressed with adding a foster child!!! They really don't seem to be getting any easier though. I am so going to get even with the grandkids. u know that just might work... 
im gonna have to keep that in mind..as i just learned that the foster child is now pregnant 
does that make me. a. grandma??!!  'why y'all trying to say goodbye? I didn't go anywhere, I'm right here, im all around you,always..'
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At my job, I've worked with teenagers for the last 17 years.
My conclusion is that every single one of them needs to be punched in the face first thing in the morning, just to set the tone and straighten their asses out before they get any ideas. And that includes myself when I was a teenager working that job. I know they've got a lot going on in their heads and their hormones, but seriously, a sucker punch would do wonders for their attitude. And every year, the newest batch is worse than the last. | |
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errant said: At my job, I've worked with teenagers for the last 17 years.
My conclusion is that every single one of them needs to be punched in the face first thing in the morning, just to set the tone and straighten their asses out before they get any ideas. And that includes myself when I was a teenager working that job. I know they've got a lot going on in their heads and their hormones, but seriously, a sucker punch would do wonders for their attitude. And every year, the newest batch is worse than the last.  | |
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Ocean said: errant said: At my job, I've worked with teenagers for the last 17 years.
My conclusion is that every single one of them needs to be punched in the face first thing in the morning, just to set the tone and straighten their asses out before they get any ideas. And that includes myself when I was a teenager working that job. I know they've got a lot going on in their heads and their hormones, but seriously, a sucker punch would do wonders for their attitude. And every year, the newest batch is worse than the last. Ironically, I abhor violence. But, you know... teenagers....  [Edited 10/12/08 22:47pm] | |
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errant said: Ocean said: Ironically, I abhor violence. But, you know... teenagers....
[Edited 10/12/08 22:47pm] There is a time for acceptions. Peace. Love. Prince | |
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