Well, mine´s not good, i have too adapt my opinions and how i dress whenever i meet them.
Even though my brother recently had a son, and im glad cause of that, i cant stand him cause he leans towards beeing a neo-nazi, he sometimes sais things like "Hitler was right"
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Do you mind if I ask how old you are?

I'm not sure I understand why you'd have to change your clothes to be around your family...

CarrieMpls said:

I live in my own apartment, thats all ill tell you.

Superb, thanks for asking gimmesomehorns!

ahhh... well, here's the thing.

I had a hard time with my family when I was younger. I didn't need to change my clothes around them, though they undoubtedly thought I dressed weird as a teen and into my 20's (heck, maybe even now). And I don't agree politically with any of them on anything. My brother's pretty much a redneck and my parents are both very conservative, politically anyway.

But as I got/get older, I realize they are the only family I've got and that does mean something. (I didn't always used to think that...) So I focus on talking about the things we won't fight over, and I've noticed they do too over the years. I accept them for who they are even though I didn't always feel they accepted me for me (but more and more, it seems they do, even my brother who I thought never would).

I had to do a fair bit of tongue-biting, but it's worth it in the end-all. Sometimes getting along is more important than proving you're "right".

CarrieMpls said:

Well, my brother is impossible getting along with, if you dont agree with, you are likely geeting yealed at or in worst case he will beat you.
Even my parents are scared of him, youve seen how i look here on the org? Well, my brother never seen my like that and he would probably beat the shit out of me if he saw me like that

I get along fine with my mom, but she knows so little about me that she completely adores me. Sure, I curse and belch and fart in front of her. My sister and I don't tense up and fear that we'll offend her sensabilities. In her age, she's grown to like the chaos that having rambunctious children and grandchildren can add to her life. That being said, she has no idea I'm fucking a another man.



In your situation , though, there's no point in hiding anything. Your parents and brother already suspect you're gay. And so does your mother. Just go with it. At least you're in Sweeden, which is socially more liberal--things could be worse. You could be in Poland where you'd get harassed mercilessly, or here in the US where you'd have to confine yourself to art districts.
Either way, it will be ok.

Gimmesomehorns said:

it seems to me like you need to get comfortable with yourself

you like to dress girly/glammy/whatever... big deal... it's like you need to bring attention to it.... get over it and just do your thing... whatever that may be

if your family can't accept you for who you are... oh well

it sounds like your brother isn't too hung up on what people think... with ignorant bullshit like that...so why worry about his opinion



my family digs me.... warts and all

Gimmesomehorns said:

Well, violence is another story altogether. I simply wouldn't see my family if any of them were violent towards me, or I was afraid they would be.

I love my mom to death.
I dont tell her everything, of course. And if she knew everything about me, i probably wouldnt be able to type right now. BUT... I wouldnt have our relationship any other way.

As for my brothers..they are my best friends.
We laugh like crazy together, we cry together, its all love whenever we're around each other. Yeah we fight and argue but two minutes later we are sitting down playing UNO. (yes i win all the time)



As for the rest of my fam... i love them.
They are the ones God has blessed me with.

Its all good.

Gimmesomehorns said:

Now this fascinates me.
You live close enough to your family to where you have to be "in the closet" about your appearance?

So are you basically playing 'dress up' in the dark? Or is it that you are yourself, until they come around?

Either way, you may want to either just come out to them, or move further away. Whatever situation you're in now, it's not sustainable.

As far as the violent brother, boy--you need to get your ass to the gym.
I'll fuck a jock up if he tries to mess with my ass.

DanceWme said:

Perfect mom, perfect family, perfect vagina--you really are blessed.

Imago said:

Imago said:

Well my mom and dad knows my style, we just have agreed that i dress casual when im with them, my dad dont mind but hes too coward bitching with my mom about it.

Gimmesomehorns said:

I get along pretty well with my family, except for my older sister. I had a lot of problems with my parents while I was growing up, but I think they're pretty cool now. My younger sister is one of my best friends and probably knows me better than anyone else does. My older sister is my complete opposite and she can't stand me, so I try to avoid her as much as possible. There have been times that I've tried to get along with her and work things out, but she can be really negative, argumentative, and at times, childish, so I don't really talk to her anymore.

I am always fascinated with people who who are close with their families. Neither my husband and I are. Not for any particular reason. Both families are just spread out and the contact is minimal. I watch friends go through so much family drama.

My family has the outside appearance of being so well put together. For years I thought of myself as the black sheep. When my mom passed away in 2000, I got a much closer look into all of their lives. I realized that they were so dysfunctional, and it turns out that I am the closest thing to being normal in the family. Imagine that!

They love me, but since no one pays my bills, opinions and drama don't interest me.

Awesome.

I my family.

And they all me.

My dad used to be a pain before he had his aneurysm but there is no drama in my family at all. My brothers and I all get along and are very close. It's great.

Palatable, we get along well enough. I can survive just about two days at the most with them and that's with spending most of the time visiting others. After that I've had enough and have to get away from them, I love'em to death but from a comfortable distance.

My relationship with my family is interesting. I love my dad to death but he moved to Mexico after he remarried. Moms died in 1994, we were super close.

The people I'm really close to are my 2nd cousins. We spend all holidays together and they're like my brothers and sisters. There are 6 of them. Actually 5 now. My cousin, the one I was the closest to died. We have the best time together. They now have kids and they're just like we used to be.

It's funny 'cause my 1st cousins on my mom's side live in a 2 block radius from me. We don't hang out at all. It's not that we hate each other either, it just doesn't happen.

My relationship with my family is an interesting one. I found that I am alot closer to my folks since I moved 13 hrs away from them. My Mom was very abusive, and hateful would tell me that she wished she never adopted me etc... My Dad was awesome, and that's why I am probably far closer to him, he did everything he could to keep my Mom under control. Sadly in my Mother's old age...she is seeing what she did wrong and is doing her best to make up for it.

I hadn't spoken to my sister in like 8 yrs until this past summer when I went home. Was very weird, but I did it for my Dad. He said he wanted to see his two girls talk again before he died. So I talked to her and hadn't talked to her since. I don't talk to any of my Uncles, Aunts, or cousins...they really didn't take to me, and always had to bring to the table that I was adopted and only half Mexican.

So I think interesting pretty much sums it up.