That's bad - I am being disrespectful. I should also learn, after this many years not to bring anything up that will put her in a fully armed, gun-cocked position.

She was going OFF. I told her let's drop it, I shouldn't have said anything and I am not going to discuss it further.

I'm putting it out there. I had an eating disorder as a teen. My mother found out, but still rode my ass about my weight. Flash forward years of therapy and somewhat healthy lifestyle later, I am now cool. My weight is also a topic that is OFF limits. She took it there. I told her to stop and I wasn't going to talk about it. She went OFF. Mid screams, I just hung up.

Now I am sipping a wonderful Chocolate Raspberry coffee and working on my paper. Feeling good. Happy Birthday from Mom (oh yeah tomorrow's my birthday)

Who else here just lets this bullshh roll off? Like, it doesn't even bother me any more. It used to. A lot.. But now, I'm CHILLIN.

I'll be hearing from her in a few days.

Happy Birthday!

I wish I still had a Mom, she would get on my last nerve. I miss her though.

PaisleyPark5083 said:

See? Oh damn! Yeah. I'm gonna leave heated issues ALONE!

Oh and thanks!

Its hard for mom to see you as an adult, I hate being talked down to as well. It was weird, but I still remember when I first saw my mother as a woman and not someone I could only look up to. I adore my mom, and yes she gets on my nerves at times, but she now has started listening to me as a woman and not her child.

Now if I can only do that with my older sister


and kudos for you for having a healthy life style now , some people don't understand issues we go through, and maybe your mom is acting out in frustration because she doesn't have the answers that you need.

Happy early Birthday hun!

As a Mother...I find myself forgetting that my daughter's are grown women. I still see them as my babies, and I will end up putting my foot in my mouth. Makes them mad, which then upsets me, and we end up fighting. I am very lucky that both girls know that I am just being Mom, and let it go, just as you are. So good for you...Just remember life is short.

OH!! and Happy Birthday to you beautiful!

happy birthday.

First; ¡Felíz cumpleaños!

Second; maybe she's having a bad day? Listen, parents are SUPPOSED to nag you to death. Means that they care. My wife is 36 and her mom STILL nags her about her weight. So don't get too upset about it. But the next time that you (calmly) speak to her, make sure to impress upon her how much [whatever she said] hurts you.

my relationship with my mom is so/so at the moment. for the past 6 years we have argued like crazy! she can say some really rude things to me! and she loves bring up and live in the past. and i'm just in a total different place in my life. i want to live in the here and now. and move on into the future. the past has nothing for me to ponder. i honestly don't understand my mom's mind!!! every since i married, and started my own life and family, she just can't deal with it. and she's done many things that are hard for me to forgive, yet i have.

at this point, i just try to be as respectful as i can towards her, but that doesn't mean i have to agree with everything she says or does. we e-mail one another, and see each other once in a while, that's fine for me right now.

Happy Birthday!!!

kimrachell said:

Thanks! that is exactly how mine is. Maybe they all stay in the past? It brings me down listening to her pine about the past and boo hoo about how everyone was so mean to her. It brings me down, dude.

PurpleJedi said:

Thank you! She's a mess. It is what it is. My weight along with politics and religion is off limts in family conversation. There's more to life than that!

You know, I think it is a competition underneath interaction of mothers and daughters. Weight causes a lot of issues among mothers and daughters. And if your kids end up doing better than they did, that is another issue as well. Women!

We better have a separate birthday thread.

I think it is good to have boundaries, especially when you warned her before hanging up that the topic was off-limits. God love her but she can't just say whatever she wants because she is your mother.

MoniGram said:

You are the best Monie. Thanks!

You set a boundary that hopefully she will respect in the future. You loved yourself enough to say I am drawing a line on this subject...that's not disrespectful but painfully necessary!

Her over reaction is likely that of guilt on the subject. This to shall pass..give it a little time lady!

Happy B day!

I think I would've done the same thing. I have a Dr Jekyll/ Mr. Hyde relationship with my mom. She's always pointing out the negative too. I guess that's why I'm pessimistic most of the time. Could be the genes. Hope you have a good birthday despite the argument.

KatSkrizzle said:

LOL Happy B-day!

Happy B-day! Eating disorders are usually a no-no topic, she should understand that.



Smooches;)