People have told me:

1) Stay surrounded by friends
2) Cry and get it out
3) Stay busy
4) Focus on yourself
5) Don't drink and dial
6) If he calls or texts you within the next two weeks, ignore it

anymore to add?

Date someone else.

I'm gonna be gross


Girl, "strange dick". Get you some for the first time that is not his. It feels weird as hell and it makes you even madder that mother fucker couldn't see what you all could be. Then you don't want him back...cause you'll be like, "hell I got me some strange dick!"

Since I have done it b-4. Gave my precious poon poon away. It's not HIS anymore! Make sure you use a condom.


But whatever you do DO NOT CALL HIM - EVER!!!!!
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oh yes, go shopping and buy a "Fuck him" dress. You know the dress Martin Lawrence talked about - when the girls say "fuck him - wear that dress!".

Get some new things - don't go over board, but buying new clothes or shoes always make me feel better.

missfee said:

I am sorry to hear of your break up...I think you covered most of it...I agree with Kat, don't call him, or answer the phone. Guys think it helps us, but it only makes it harder to let go.

And I hate to sound like everyone else..but the only real thing that will help is time...

missfee said:

working out, exercising helps alot... forget men and allow yourself to heal and just focus on you... your emotions need to heal and your emotions need a break ...

Pray. A lot.

KatSkrizzle said:

you know I had forgot about that.

KatSkrizzle said:

WORD!

Flowers2 said:

Thanks. I'm relieved that I'm not with him anymore because of all the stress, but now i'm left with the memories of the "good times", and that is what hurts right now. But i'll be fine in time I guess.
[Edited 9/18/08 19:47pm]

missfee said:

get a haircut, get a new outfit, rearrange your furniture, get fucked, move on

sorry about your break-up. you will be fine with time. i agree stay focused on yourself. he's gonna call but don't answer and prayer helps too. ask God to help you get over him and he will. he's listening!!!

1. Find a rebound STAT. People may disagree with this but when you're having fun with someone else you forget about that other shitty person.

2. Go shopping! New clothes, shoes, bag....buy it. You'll feel great.

3. Force yourself to smile, especially when you are out and about.

Good Luck! As time goes on you'll realize it's not the end of the world and it was most likely for the best!

missfee said:

Get a one month gym membership and go as often as possible, not forgetting to take your butt into the steam bath after you work out so you can sweat all of his toxic influence out of you.

Now is also the time to make some music mixes for yourself. Start by making 3 mixed cds: one for YESTERDAY, TODAY, and TOMORROW.

The YESTERDAY cd can be filled with your sorrows, crushed hopes about the relationhip, and your overall life regrets.

TODAY's cd needs to be about YOU, and show the true essence of the ideas you embrace and who you feel you truly are in your spirit whether good or bad...but take the opportunity to embrace your authentic self and the ideas you hold dear, no matter how straight, no matter how skewered.

Lastly, the cd of TOMORROW needs to be affirmative and indicative of where you want to see yourself in the FUTURE. So even if it includes a romantic song, or a positive song about being a strong person...no matter...throw ALL that shit on there

[Edited 9/19/08 7:51am]

ThreadBare said:

Yes, Lawd, peace be still...cause once you go inside yourself, reach back out and then up to whatever Higher Power you believe in, you WILL discover like the line in the Prince song says;

"I'm here to tell you...THERE'S SOMETHING ELSE..."

Ottensen said:

GREAT idea!!! Music can make or break you at a time like this!

-I started dating immediately after I left my ex fiance.

Worked for me. Helped me get my mind off of him and showed me what I had been missing.

-Prayer

-Good Friends & family who like to cuss

ThreadCula said:

I relate to ALL of this, espcially that LAST one

ThreadCula said:

Thanks everyone so much for you support and advice. Today I woke up with a clear mind and went to the gym for an hour and exercised. Also on yesterday I used my hour lunch break and walked around the building numerous times until my hour was up, and I have to say that it was really theraputic. I'm about to jump in the shower and refresh after my workout so I can go out and make some errands...but not before I take a couple of hours and relax myself in my new home!!! It's been a week without him, and now it finally feels good to enjoy life finally...now I know what the bad seed in my life was that kept me feeling stressed and doubtful all the time...HIM.

I'm also looking forward to going to Atlantic City for my birthday next weekend (my b-day is Sept. 30th) and also to go see Raphael Saadiq in NC on Oct. 3rd!!!!
[Edited 9/20/08 9:45am]

Spend time with friends and by yourself , try not to dwell too much on the past , look forward

missfee said:

exercising .. Congrats on your new home... and for Raphael Saadiq .. enjoy!

don't communicate at all. it does help, no matter how much you want to talk to them and try to figure out what went wrong or fix it.
fuck everything that walks of your chosen gender.
get very social with your friends.
get drunk a lot.
do all the things that you wanted to do while you were in the relationship but couldn't (including any of the above).
don't hang out on the same websites.

I'm still trying to move on my damn self, so good luck!

I'm going to just say "TIME."

But then again, my Ex keeps on wanting to be my "friend" and shit. :le sigh: My New York drama.

missfee said:

Good luck, my breakup happened this summer and it's still drama. I feel where you're coming from and I hope you the best in getting though the situation.

My Ex is still trying to play the whole "Friends" card and trying to have me on the side to keep tabs on me and shit. It's not cool. But, yes, stay focused on you whatever you do.

Also, don't be afraid to cry when it hits you, you know? Let it out. You have a heart and it needs to heal.

Mara said:

thanks for the advice. my ex hasn't contacted me yet, but even if he did, I don't even know if I would respond. I'm just really angry and frustrated with his sorry ass. I just want to get over him as quickly as possible. I try to keep busy but sometimes, my thoughts of all of this get in the way, and I end up in tears at my desk at work. He better not come at me with some "let's be friends" bullshit if he ever contacts me again, because really, he doesn't deserve my friendship.

I just broke up with my boyfriend like half an hour ago

Ottensen said:

Fuck that unclefucker two times with a rhinoceros dick! He never deserved you anymotherfucking way, so he can just shit in a pan and call it dinner goddammit.