Have you ever thought to yourself?

Man if this dont work out..IM GOING BACK TO MEN / WOMEN!!!

???


Just a afterthought

no i've only dated men.

Never. Same as Ehuff Although I have wished I was sexually attracted to women because I have relationships with women down pat. It's relationships with men I can't master!

Nope I never thought that. If I did, then I'd consider myself bisexual.

I did vow eternal singlehood,
if only for a month.

I've never been with a girl either.
[Edited 9/15/08 13:43pm]

back?

what do you mean back? you imply i ever was heterosexual.

yeah, maybe in another fucking dimension.

'Going back' is a concept that only works people that believe they are doing something wrong, often under the influence of insecurity and/or religion.

It took me some time to come to grips with who and what I am, but I never even considered once that the way I am is wrong. It just simply is.

Never. Men may be the biggest bastards on the planet but women don't have a dick.

I've never known any men who went "back to women," but I know many women who have gone back to men.

No.

that ship sailed a long ass time ago. it's in some other galaxy far far away chasing wookiees or something at this point.

Thats like asking straight men/wimen trying the same sex for better luck.
[Edited 9/15/08 15:39pm]

Gimmesomehorns said:

well, people HAVE been known to win millions in cash and prizes, and it's easier than catching a leprechaun.

This is one of the ways straight America has been socialized - i.e., that gay people are gay because they've chosen to be gay (like they choose where to buy a house or go to school) - Gay (or lesbian, which is how "gay women" like to be referred to) is not a choice, it's an orientation. And let's also take "sexual preference" out of the equation too, because it falls in the same line as calling deaf people "hearing imapired".

As a former roommate of mine said, "I'm gay by nature, proud by choice."

Ya dig?

paisleypark4 said:

eaglebear4839 said:

it would be at least as difficult as if i decided to quit being left handed and start doing everything right handed. not only would it feel weird and i would be screwing everything up, but it would just be going against my natural inclination of how i do things.

Anxiety said:

haven't you known anyone who has ever dated one sex for a time and then dated another? I guess you might call that bisexual

but i have known women who have lived as gay women for a time (not saying they were bi but gay), only to marry a man or start dating men again. I wouldn't call that choosing as much as feeling differently
[Edited 9/15/08 16:08pm]

Hell No!!!

NDRU said:

yeah, but they're following their own sea change. good for them, but i've known people with somewhat similar histories and they just got tired of one thing and decided to go back to the other. i'm not saying it isn't possible to "revert", but i think the large majority of people who consider themselves exclusively homosexual tend to be in it for the long haul. it's not like taking a vow of exclusivity or something...it's just something you know, just like a heterosexual knows they want the opposite sex.

Gimmesomehorns said:

That happens a lot with straight women.

JustErin said:

You tried?

Gimmesomehorns said:

I haven't but I know 3 straight women who have.

Anxiety said:

yeah I hear you. I wonder if that's even more true for men. It has to be a difficult decision to come out, and unlikely to happen if you're not sure. I feel like women are more likely to dabble, saying they're gay when they're just in grad school.

HamsterHuey said:

Oh ..i guess in my sense I never thought about men until I was about 11. I looove being gay but I find myself wondering what it would be like with a woman.

paisleypark4 said:

I had that too. That's probably what we call bi-curious, in your case. No one will stop you trying, esp not the ladies, heeheh.

If you can 'make it there', yer probably bi-sexual. I tried twice, suceeded only once, but that was probably cuz I was older, could not give a damn and so high on various substances that my brain translated 'pussy' as 'whatever', instead of the usual 'aaaaa'.

After that, I never felt the urge again; it only confirmed what I am; dick-man all the way.

I've wished and prayed I could be sexually attracted to women in general -- it'd be one less social headache, I reckon. But my orientation has never been a matter of choice or strategized pairing with anyone. Nor would I characterize consciously pursuing a woman as going "back to" anything that was intrinsically me to begin with.

I have a wife... and it's hardly because I sought out a female. (Off the record, she pursued me. ) It's because she is the only soul -- male or female -- to whom I'd want to devote my heart and soul in lifelong union. My penis sort of fell in line.

HamsterHuey said:

Yes..I have a huge urge to ..um .. perform oral on a woman for a long time.










I was confused there for a second. So you are saying that it wouldnt have mattered to you if it were a man or a woman you fell for as long as your soul matched theirs.

paisleypark4 said:

That's pretty much what I'm saying.

I mean, I wanted a man. I expected to be single forever. But I got a woman -- the most amazing one walking the planet as far as I can tell. And while I still love me a yummy dude, I feel totally content and honored and blessed with my wife.

...Not that I'd recommend everyone try this at home.
[Edited 9/16/08 8:54am]

Lammastide said:

Then you maybe are more like pansexual?: http://en.wikipedia.org/w...nsexuality

Gimmesomehorns said:

Interesting, but I'm inclined not to think so. My attraction is near exclusive to men. My wife is really the only woman to whom I've ever found myself seriously attracted.

Lammastide said:

that is a great great story. I never heard of such a thing! Maybe things like that happen often and we dont even know about it.