Im pretty sure thankfully that I will never be in a violent relationship, because as a man the chances are that I would be the aggressor and seen as that is never going to happen I think Im pretty save. Although if a woman did start attacking me I would just leave simple as that.

Yes.

yes.

JustErin said:

Sorry to hear that just erin. You know when ever I hear about women being abused I always feeling like saying hey come with me Ill treat you good.

rolling said:

I wasn't really abused like some women are...he was just a violent person and liked and got off on being really crazy rough with me.

JustErin said:

What you talking about, in the bedroom???

In seriousness of the thread title yes I have
and NO I dont want to explain.

Thankfully, I haven't.

toots said:

That's my answer too.

rolling said:

And out.

yes. with Imago.

Yes
Mentally and physically

No, I was raised with an abused mom, when I became 15, I went from being her human shield to her defender. I was taught to sleep with a weapon under my pillow, to always be prepared to help her in the middle of the night when he would come home high or drunk. I have fought off a couple of her boyfriends off of her in my life and will continue to do so if it ever happens again. I am a violent person because of it, and stay clear of overly confident cocky men.

I hate "finger fuckers" .... those men that have to absolutely touch your skin and stroke you and your ego every single moment they are with you. tugging at your blouse, your hair, holding you close, even when first meeting you. Needy (with abandonment issues) women fall prey to this amorous attention easily.

Men that have to touch you with their hands while talking to you are the same men that argue with their fists and not words. This is a red flag to me and I always steer clear of men with that habit. I have been verbally abused though, and I got rid of that asshole too. I learned the hard way to be strong. I broke the cycle of violence and my kids never had to be shields for me. But my mom is still abused, I live close by, and I always fear that one day she will be on the news. I love her, I hope that never happens.

If this helps one woman for her child, then sharing this painful and personal shit was worth it. Stay strong ladies (and abused men).... you are in my heart, get away as soon as you can.

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Yes,physically,mentally,and emotionally.

Yes, a few years ago, and I did rise above it...

union119 said:

I believe that. Just by the way Imago talks n here, its stupid. I'll pray 4 u all.

Yes But I'm Stronger Now

Yes

Yes, long ago, I managed to get by. We always leave enriched from hell. It's called resiliency.

No, cos I got out of it before it got serious..

Of course. I married a Thai woman.

NoodleSoup said:

off topic: I heard Samak is a bad cook!!!

Yes

No...nor would I stay in one..whether it was physical or emotional

I have always tried 2 understand people that tolerate violence in a relationship. I just don't understand it.

Graycap23 said:

Women stay because they are manipulated into doing so... threats are made and fear makes them stay. Men that like to hit women are charming and are good at making women swoon and women fall for them easily.... but once they "have you" they instill fear in you to keep you. After the beatings... its always "apologies, bargains, gifts, and excuses" until the next altercation which will almost certainly get worse.

Abusive men don't walk up to you and slap you... they are the masters of seduction, and then a slap or snatching you up happens when he's angry.
I lived this with my mother... I can even tell when a fight is about to happen. The nicer these men are, the worse those men end up being.

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paintedlady said:

I hear u. The 1st mofo that attempts 2 hit my daughter.....will be his last. My son bet not even THINK about hitting a woman.

Yes for five years

I've been blessed that I was never exposed to any violent situations growing up. However, I have had a couple of guys get a look in their eyes like they were thinkin' about getting physical and I let their asses know that I will do my best to fuck 'em up in a permanent way and they didn't try it. I wear my crazy proudly if necessary.

Graycap23 said:

Teach your daughter the warning signs and to stay away from the "touchy feelie" attentive men that blow up the cell phone and try to dominate her time by pulling her away from friends and family.
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