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Lammastide

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A question about sexist PC double standards

So, a few minutes ago, my wife told me about a conversation she had with a family friend. That friend, a woman and a therapist, said that Condoleeza Rice should have been the GOP vice presidential pick, but that she was "too tight" and needed to go somewhere and have someone give her a toe-curling orgasm. giggle

I thought it was funny (and I don't necessarily disagree), but something immediately struck me...

Back in 2006, Russian Liberal Democratic Party leader Vladimir Zhirovsky said about Condoleezza Rice that "[She] is a very cruel, offended woman who lacks men's attention." He said "Condoleeza Rice needs a company of soldiers. She needs to be taken to barracks where she would be satisfied."

While the context in which a world-renowned political leader would make such comments certainly made his more offensive and potentially damaging, I think the content and implication are pretty identical to those of our friend! And, most importantly, I think there's a double standard in that Zhirovsky's comment raised complaints of sexism, but that my wife's friend's comments would not have.

My wife disagrees.

What do you all think? smile
[Edited 9/5/08 17:34pm]
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Reply #1 posted 09/05/08 5:45pm

Stymie

I'd say the same thing about an uptight man.
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Reply #2 posted 09/05/08 5:47pm

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Lammastide said:

So, a few minutes ago, my wife told me about a conversation she had with a family friend. That friend, a woman and a therapist, said that Condoleeza Rice should have been the GOP vice presidential pick, but that she was "too tight" and needed to go somewhere and have someone give her a toe-curling orgasm. giggle

I thought it was funny (and I don't necessarily disagree), but something immediately struck me...

Back in 2006, Russian Liberal Democratic Party leader Vladimir Zhirovsky said about Condoleezza Rice that "[She] is a very cruel, offended woman who lacks men's attention." He said "Condoleeza Rice needs a company of soldiers. She needs to be taken to barracks where she would be satisfied."

While the context in which a world-renowned political leader would make such comments certainly made his more offensive and potentially damaging, I think the content and implication are pretty identical to those of our friend! And, most importantly, I think there's a double standard in that Zhirovsky's comment raised complaints of sexism, but that my wife's friend's comments would not have.

My wife disagrees.

What do you all think? smile
[Edited 9/5/08 17:34pm]



I think they're equally as bad. Some people might see your wife's friend's comment as more acceptable because it came from a woman. But to me, the fact that a woman said something that dumb and sexist made it as bad as when a high-profile figure did.
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Reply #3 posted 09/05/08 6:43pm

Anxiety

both comments seem equally knuckle-scrapey to me. shrug
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Reply #4 posted 09/05/08 6:49pm

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I'm winning so far. She owes me gelato tomorrow. woot!
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Reply #5 posted 09/05/08 7:05pm

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No double standard, they're both awful.
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Reply #6 posted 09/06/08 12:22am

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Lammastide said:

While the context in which a world-renowned political leader would make such comments certainly made his more offensive and potentially damaging, I think the content and implication are pretty identical to those of our friend! And, most importantly, I think there's a double standard in that Zhirovsky's comment raised complaints of sexism, but that my wife's friend's comments would not have.


Context counts for a lot.

And Condi needs to get fucked.
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Reply #7 posted 09/06/08 12:57am

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I suppose you mean Vladimir Zhirinovsky... He is known for his flamboyant, totally off comments, but not much more...
Anyway, there is no such thing as political correctness in Russia, at least not yet.






Lammastide said:

So, a few minutes ago, my wife told me about a conversation she had with a family friend. That friend, a woman and a therapist, said that Condoleeza Rice should have been the GOP vice presidential pick, but that she was "too tight" and needed to go somewhere and have someone give her a toe-curling orgasm. giggle

I thought it was funny (and I don't necessarily disagree), but something immediately struck me...

Back in 2006, Russian Liberal Democratic Party leader Vladimir Zhirovsky said about Condoleezza Rice that "[She] is a very cruel, offended woman who lacks men's attention." He said "Condoleeza Rice needs a company of soldiers. She needs to be taken to barracks where she would be satisfied."

While the context in which a world-renowned political leader would make such comments certainly made his more offensive and potentially damaging, I think the content and implication are pretty identical to those of our friend! And, most importantly, I think there's a double standard in that Zhirovsky's comment raised complaints of sexism, but that my wife's friend's comments would not have.

My wife disagrees.

What do you all think? smile
[Edited 9/5/08 17:34pm]
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Reply #8 posted 09/06/08 1:00am

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Lammastide said:

I'm winning so far. She owes me gelato tomorrow. woot!
[Edited 9/5/08 18:49pm]


What Anx said...

Enjoy your Gelato!
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Reply #9 posted 09/06/08 1:29am

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It's always about SEX when it comes to women, as if a woman is somehow OK or accepted if she's being "satisfied" by men. ill Are these comments said in referral to businessmen? Of course not.

Both comments are rude and uncalled for.

We shouldn't excuse our friends for saying the same thing as someone in power.

Both are nasty, sexist comments and both should be ashamed.
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Reply #10 posted 09/06/08 1:37am

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Lammastide said:

So, a few minutes ago, my wife told me about a conversation she had with a family friend. That friend, a woman and a therapist, said that Condoleeza Rice should have been the GOP vice presidential pick, but that she was "too tight" and needed to go somewhere and have someone give her a toe-curling orgasm. giggle

I thought it was funny (and I don't necessarily disagree), but something immediately struck me...

Back in 2006, Russian Liberal Democratic Party leader Vladimir Zhirovsky said about Condoleezza Rice that "[She] is a very cruel, offended woman who lacks men's attention." He said "Condoleeza Rice needs a company of soldiers. She needs to be taken to barracks where she would be satisfied."

While the context in which a world-renowned political leader would make such comments certainly made his more offensive and potentially damaging, I think the content and implication are pretty identical to those of our friend! And, most importantly, I think there's a double standard in that Zhirovsky's comment raised complaints of sexism, but that my wife's friend's comments would not have.

My wife disagrees.

What do you all think? smile
[Edited 9/5/08 17:34pm]


To me the two are very different.

The difference between finding a someone for her own personal pleasure vs. being gangbanged, great for porns, but in real life shake that's degrading.

Granted neither is nice to say. But I think men have outlets so they don't appear uptight at times.
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Reply #11 posted 09/06/08 8:49am

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I think Condoleezza Rice presents a bit of an issue for a Western society that tends to have limited views of women, or really, women of color in general. Far smarter people than I have more eloquently talked about overtly sexual pictures of black women in pop culture. If she's not a freak, she's a mammy character (see Oprah).

Western society doesn't know what to make of such a presumably single, allegedly celibate, powerful woman. Especially a black one.

Is it sexist to suggest that Rice is in need of sexual liberation because she comes off as being very businesslike, professional and stiff? Yeah, I'd say it's sexist, especially when the context is of that liberation coming from men "having their way with her." The very concept is all about subjugation: "Yeah, you might be secretary of state, but you won't be 'right' or 'whole' until I ravage you..." Aaron MacGruder's Boondocks strip suggested something similar about her during Bush's first term.




No one suggests President Bush or Dick Cheney's questionable policies would be reformed, if they spent some time being dominated by their wives. It's a sexist model.

But the popular argument is she's frigid. The whole thing is inappropriate to me. The drooling I hear conservative radio hosts do over her is equally so. So, she gets turned into the personification of some frigid wasteland that needs conquering by men. It's a beat away from suggesting a woman who rejects a man is a lesbian.

For all we know, Rice has us all fooled and has a healthy, satisfying sex life. I'm more concerned with her relative failure on the foreign policy front not being acknowledged enough to silence this foolish talk about her being qualified for higher office.
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ThreadBare said:



I think Condoleezza Rice presents a bit of an issue for a Western society that tends to have limited views of women, or really, women of color in general. Far smarter people than I have more eloquently talked about overtly sexual pictures of black women in pop culture. If she's not a freak, she's a mammy character (see Oprah).

Western society doesn't know what to make of such a presumably single, allegedly celibate, powerful woman. Especially a black one.

Is it sexist to suggest that Rice is in need of sexual liberation because she comes off as being very businesslike, professional and stiff? Yeah, I'd say it's sexist, especially when the context is of that liberation coming from men "having their way with her." The very concept is all about subjugation: "Yeah, you might be secretary of state, but you won't be 'right' or 'whole' until I ravage you..." Aaron MacGruder's Boondocks strip suggested something similar about her during Bush's first term.




No one suggests President Bush or Dick Cheney's questionable policies would be reformed, if they spent some time being dominated by their wives. It's a sexist model.

But the popular argument is she's frigid. The whole thing is inappropriate to me. The drooling I hear conservative radio hosts do over her is equally so. So, she gets turned into the personification of some frigid wasteland that needs conquering by men. It's a beat away from suggesting a woman who rejects a man is a lesbian.

For all we know, Rice has us all fooled and has a healthy, satisfying sex life. I'm more concerned with her relative failure on the foreign policy front not being acknowledged enough to silence this foolish talk about her being qualified for higher office.
[Edited 9/6/08 8:51am]

Good stuff. And not one, but TWO visual aids!

A lotta free time this weekend, eh? lol
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Reply #13 posted 09/06/08 8:55am

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Thanks for the comments so far, all. Interesting to see your positions.
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Reply #14 posted 09/06/08 8:59am

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Lammastide said:

Good stuff. And not one, but TWO visual aids!

A lotta free time this weekend, eh? lol


brick

lol. I'm an overachiever.

Except when I'm not.

Yeah, free time. Long week, and I'm in super chill mode.
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Reply #15 posted 09/06/08 9:01am

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poor condi. she came to canada and all
anyone could do was muse about whether she
was getting it on with the foreign affairs minister.



she must have a pretty thick skin to it after all these years.
but at least canadians dreamed of a love affair! biggrin we're just
big ol' romantics lol

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Reply #16 posted 09/06/08 9:22am

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emm said:

poor condi. she came to canada and all
anyone could do was muse about whether she
was getting it on with the foreign affairs minister.



she must have a pretty thick skin to it after all these years.
but at least canadians dreamed of a love affair! biggrin we're just
big ol' romantics lol


Well, as we know, Maxime Bernier apparently does like dangerous women. biggrin
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Reply #17 posted 09/06/08 9:51am

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They're both saying she needs to be fucked so I see little difference except for who is saying them. Of course a world leader will receive more scrutiny, but your wife's friend isn't going to show up on CNN is she?

When you're speaking of a bottom feeding piece of shit like this bitch that supports a murderous regime for her own personal gain, you can say whatever you want about the stupid cunt in my book.
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Reply #18 posted 09/06/08 10:21am

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Mars23 said:

They're both saying she needs to be fucked so I see little difference except for who is saying them. Of course a world leader will receive more scrutiny, but your wife's friend isn't going to show up on CNN is she?

When you're speaking of a bottom feeding piece of shit like this bitch that supports a murderous regime for her own personal gain, you can say whatever you want about the stupid cunt in my book.

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emm said:

poor condi. she came to canada and all
anyone could do was muse about whether she
was getting it on with the foreign affairs minister.



she must have a pretty thick skin to it after all these years.
but at least canadians dreamed of a love affair! biggrin we're just
big ol' romantics lol




I think the public reaction says a lot about our two countries. Americans are imagining her getting freaky with whoever, Canadians are imagining some grand, if politically strange, love affair.
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Reply #20 posted 09/06/08 10:36am

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Condi, along with quite a few women, could use a right propper shagging.


Of course, that's true with alot of men too. I don't see where those statements are offensive.
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Reply #21 posted 09/06/08 11:11am

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Lammastide said:

So, a few minutes ago, my wife told me about a conversation she had with a family friend. That friend, a woman and a therapist, said that Condoleeza Rice should have been the GOP vice presidential pick, but that she was "too tight" and needed to go somewhere and have someone give her a toe-curling orgasm. giggle

I thought it was funny (and I don't necessarily disagree), but something immediately struck me...

Back in 2006, Russian Liberal Democratic Party leader Vladimir Zhirovsky said about Condoleezza Rice that "[She] is a very cruel, offended woman who lacks men's attention." He said "Condoleeza Rice needs a company of soldiers. She needs to be taken to barracks where she would be satisfied."

While the context in which a world-renowned political leader would make such comments certainly made his more offensive and potentially damaging, I think the content and implication are pretty identical to those of our friend! And, most importantly, I think there's a double standard in that Zhirovsky's comment raised complaints of sexism, but that my wife's friend's comments would not have.

My wife disagrees.

What do you all think? smile
[Edited 9/5/08 17:34pm]



How do you know how your wife's friend's comments would have been taken? By whom?
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Reply #22 posted 09/06/08 11:12am

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purplesweat said:

It's always about SEX when it comes to women, as if a woman is somehow OK or accepted if she's being "satisfied" by men. ill Are these comments said in referral to businessmen? Of course not.

Both comments are rude and uncalled for.

We shouldn't excuse our friends for saying the same thing as someone in power.

Both are nasty, sexist comments and both should be ashamed.
[Edited 9/6/08 1:30am]



They are said about businessmen. Guys tell other guys they need to get some also.
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Reply #23 posted 09/06/08 12:06pm

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SUPRMAN said:

Lammastide said:

So, a few minutes ago, my wife told me about a conversation she had with a family friend. That friend, a woman and a therapist, said that Condoleeza Rice should have been the GOP vice presidential pick, but that she was "too tight" and needed to go somewhere and have someone give her a toe-curling orgasm. giggle

I thought it was funny (and I don't necessarily disagree), but something immediately struck me...

Back in 2006, Russian Liberal Democratic Party leader Vladimir Zhirovsky said about Condoleezza Rice that "[She] is a very cruel, offended woman who lacks men's attention." He said "Condoleeza Rice needs a company of soldiers. She needs to be taken to barracks where she would be satisfied."

While the context in which a world-renowned political leader would make such comments certainly made his more offensive and potentially damaging, I think the content and implication are pretty identical to those of our friend! And, most importantly, I think there's a double standard in that Zhirovsky's comment raised complaints of sexism, but that my wife's friend's comments would not have.

My wife disagrees.

What do you all think? smile
[Edited 9/5/08 17:34pm]



How do you know how your wife's friend's comments would have been taken? By whom?

Good question. Essentially, that statement is based on how my wife received both comments... and I sort of took for granted that her position might characterize how other people of similar political position, exposure, etc. would react. It's speculative, for sure.
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Reply #24 posted 09/06/08 8:10pm

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purplesweat said:

It's always about SEX when it comes to women, as if a woman is somehow OK or accepted if she's being "satisfied" by men. ill Are these comments said in referral to businessmen? Of course not.

Both comments are rude and uncalled for.

We shouldn't excuse our friends for saying the same thing as someone in power.

Both are nasty, sexist comments and both should be ashamed.
[Edited 9/6/08 1:30am]



They are said about businessmen. Guys tell other guys they need to get some also.


But do public figures announce it to the world?
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Lammastide said:

So, a few minutes ago, my wife told me about a conversation she had with a family friend. That friend, a woman and a therapist, said that Condoleeza Rice should have been the GOP vice presidential pick, but that she was "too tight" and needed to go somewhere and have someone give her a toe-curling orgasm. giggle

I thought it was funny (and I don't necessarily disagree), but something immediately struck me...

Back in 2006, Russian Liberal Democratic Party leader Vladimir Zhirovsky said about Condoleezza Rice that "[She] is a very cruel, offended woman who lacks men's attention." He said "Condoleeza Rice needs a company of soldiers. She needs to be taken to barracks where she would be satisfied."

While the context in which a world-renowned political leader would make such comments certainly made his more offensive and potentially damaging, I think the content and implication are pretty identical to those of our friend! And, most importantly, I think there's a double standard in that Zhirovsky's comment raised complaints of sexism, but that my wife's friend's comments would not have.

My wife disagrees.

What do you all think? smile
[Edited 9/5/08 17:34pm]


i think this criticism is often used again powerful women to 1) slyly attack them in a manner and in an arena which can never be fully acknowledged or addressed publicly; 2) weaken public perception of them as in "oh, she's a frigid bitch, unnatural and cold, immune to even her own body's needs"; and 3) remove them from power by undermining their support base and projecting a perception of imbalance in them*.

remember how bill clinton's infidelity was blamed on hillary? as in: if she hadn't been so frigid, bill woulddn't have had to look elsewhere.
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Reply #26 posted 09/07/08 2:00pm

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both comments are atrocious, tabloid gossip baiting and useless

what's a double standard is to imply that a woman can't be chosen to be VP because she is not sexually active enough

when you know that if a single woman were sexually active, that would be held against her too and framed as making her unfit for a position of power

Basically to tie a woman's sexual behavior to her political career and her success in it is sexist.
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