CarrieMpls said:

My oldest is definately in the late bloomer catagory.

O.M.G.

This is adorable. She in band...embraces being a band nerd ... and she was at the football game about a week ago for spirit band...anyway...this guy asks her if he can take her to the next football game...not realizing she'd have to be there anyway...and she says...this is so damn cute...

"I like pancakes"



She was mortified....she didn't even understand WHY she said that...she just blurted it out.

But I digress...

She's very private with her emotions. So as much as I talk to her about love, relationships, boys, sex etc...my biggest fear is that she will become overwhelmed and not talk to me about it.

So while I don't THINK I need to really worry for her regarding this at 15 per se...she is my baby and I know this whole subject is looming out there.

Nothinbutjoy said:

Thats right! just because girls dont mention or seem uninterested in boys and sex doesnt mean they really aren't. As a teenager I never found it easy to talk to my parents about boys and sex and it was going on and I would totally deny it just not to disappoint them. Yet I ended up having a child at 16. I swore I would never let that happen with my daughter yet the day I found out she was interested in boys I freaked out, I didnt want to hear about it! and told her she was too young and just stay away from them, well she didnt! and kept things from me that she probably wouldnt have had I not freaked out. Luckily with time I got used to the idea and realized this is reality and I cant avoid it. My daughter is almost 15, has had boyfriends and I can tell she is much more at ease with talking to me about them Ive asked her several times if she is secxually active and she keeps saying no! so I hope she's not lying to me and hope that if she is having sex that the talks Ive had with her have helped her made the right choices and that she is protecting herself.

Nothinbutjoy said:

omg, I love it!!!!!

oh, we all know how mortifying that is, but gosh it's so darn funny too!!!!

With my son, when he was 10, I had "the talk" with him and informed him that when he turned 12, he would start carrying a condom with him, that while I would rather he wait to have sex, that I know eventually he will find himself in a situation in which he feels he's ready (and that I know I can't be with him 24/7 telling him he's not ready and he would make the decision regardless of what I wanted him to do), and I would rather have him protected, than to come home one day and tell me that he has AIDS. I bought him condoms at the age of 12 and he carried them with him. I'm sure at first it was a big joke, but years later he informed me that he started having sex at 13, and that he always remembered my "talk" and made sure to always use condoms. The one thing I've realized while working with adolescents, they are starting at younger and younger ages.

As for my daughter, I won't put her on the pill, but will discuss other birth control options with her. I took the pill for a month when I was 17 because I had to, was in a group home and any female 13 years old or older had to be on the pill. I began cheeking them and flushing them down the toilet after that first month because they scared me. My mom and grandma died from blood clots. A month and a half later I was in the hospital for 22 days, in ICU twice, with a clot that ran the entire length of my leg and even went higher into my stomach area. I had thrown some embolisms to my lungs as well. I almost died a couple of times. My daughter won't be taking the pill.

My advice would be:

eikonoklastes said:

Ocean said:

U're a good Mum!
[Edited 9/7/08 17:37pm]

125 seems like a good age 2 me!