By "approach", I mean the way a man or woman who's interested in you goes about trying to win you over...



For the women...which approach do you think tends to be your weakness:

- The complimenting romantic approach. Always complimenting you on everything about you...perfume, clothing, your intelligence, your humor...I mean, nothing you do is EVER wrong in their eyes, and everything about you causes their heart to soar. They say men fall in love with their eyes and women fall in love with their ears, and you're loving everything you're hearing.

- The aloof approach. Doesn't really seem to notice you, and on those rare occasions when he DOES interact with you, it doesn't seem to leave a lasting impression on him because he barely acknowledges you the next time you guys meet up. It ends up driving you crazy and makes you HAVE to get his attention, almost like a challenge.

- The insanely confident approach. He knows you want him, he's not even concerned about it one iota. Deny it all you want, but he knows you'll end up with him. He "knows" he has the perfect smile, the perfect job, the perfect car and makes the perfect amount of money. Nothing you say or do to convince him otherwise matters, he knows you want to be his...to the point that you actually find yourself indeed wanting to be his.

- The whoa is me approach. The guy just seems to always have everything go against him in life...loses his job, dog runs off, car is stolen, whatever. He constantly doubts his self worth and if he is even lovable to anyone, anywhere...and your natural nurturing instincts come out in full force against your will, and take over. You'll make sure he's loved.

- The "always available" approach. No matter what you need this guy for--help you move, drop you off at the airport, paint your living room, pick up your dry cleaning--he says "No problem! Be right over!". In fact, you could ask him to pick up your current boyfriend from work because his car is in the shop and he says "No problem! Where does he work?". He makes himself so dependable and necessary to your everyday doings that you find yourself wondering if he just might be "the one".




For the men, which one tends to be your weakness:

- The I love sex approach. You know, when a woman seems to give off that "vibe" that sex is always a possibility, and dresses the part. When she leaned over to grab that ashtray at the bar...she knew she'd be giving you a closer look at her body, and it's actually why she grabbed the ashtray to begin with. Even the way she laughs is meant to convey sexuality. She wants you to look down her top...it's ok. Doesn't matter what her personality's like....you find yourself wanting more and more of her attention.

- The prim and proper approach. She will not give off a single signal that indicates she wants you...or any man. Distant, aloof, even slightly cold. Everything is meticulous to her look, from her hair to her outfit. And you can't help but imagine her naked. You're gonna get past that well-manicured outer shell and get her to laugh at your jokes or confide in you...anything. You just gotta have her.

- The care free approach. She's all over the place, one moment leaning into you as if there's an unstoppable attraction, the next moment she's hanging onto another guy trying to get him to dance with her. She bounces from one mood and one person to the next, never really staying in one mood or with one person very long...and it's driving you crazy. You find yourself wanting her to just "choose", and for her to "just choose" you.

- The best friend approach. She's the one who pals around with you, and doesn't seem to care whether or not you want her as "more than a friend" or even if you find her attractive. She'll come over with some beers and watch the game with you. She'll call you up and see if you want to go to the movies with her. She'll comment on your past and present girlfriends and tell you how much "better off" you are whenever one of them dumps you. You wish your gfs were more like her...to the point that you're wishing she was your gf.

- The fawning approach. She never misses an opportunity to tell you how much you impress her, how strong you are, how talented you are, how smart you are, how funny you are, how sexy you are, how handsome you are. Your ego is in constant stroke mode around her...and you're a sucker for that, admit it.


So, do any of the approaches tend to work with you? lol...

The whoa is me approach. The guy just seems to always have everything go against him in life...loses his job, dog runs off, car is stolen, whatever. He constantly doubts his self worth and if he is even lovable to anyone, anywhere...and your natural nurturing instincts come out in full force against your will, and take over. You'll make sure he's loved.


No that would in no way cue my "natural nurturing instincts" to take over

ever

I'd be more on the verge of slappin him - hard


[Edited 9/4/08 15:14pm]

Mach said:

- The complimenting romantic approach. Always complimenting you on everything about you...perfume, clothing, your intelligence, your humor...I mean, nothing you do is EVER wrong in their eyes, and everything about you causes their heart to soar. They say men fall in love with their eyes and women fall in love with their ears, and you're loving everything you're hearing. No ~ just ick

- The aloof approach. Doesn't really seem to notice you, and on those rare occasions when he DOES interact with you, it doesn't seem to leave a lasting impression on him because he barely acknowledges you the next time you guys meet up. It ends up driving you crazy and makes you HAVE to get his attention, almost like a challenge. No

- The insanely confident approach. He knows you want him, he's not even concerned about it one iota. Deny it all you want, but he knows you'll end up with him. He "knows" he has the perfect smile, the perfect job, the perfect car and makes the perfect amount of money. Nothing you say or do to convince him otherwise matters, he knows you want to be his...to the point that you actually find yourself indeed wanting to be his. Nope

- The whoa is me approach. The guy just seems to always have everything go against him in life...loses his job, dog runs off, car is stolen, whatever. He constantly doubts his self worth and if he is even lovable to anyone, anywhere...and your natural nurturing instincts come out in full force against your will, and take over. You'll make sure he's loved. NOT !!

- The "always available" approach. No matter what you need this guy for--help you move, drop you off at the airport, paint your living room, pick up your dry cleaning--he says "No problem! Be right over!". In fact, you could ask him to pick up your current boyfriend from work because his car is in the shop and he says "No problem! Where does he work?". He makes himself so dependable and necessary to your everyday doings that you find yourself wondering if he just might be "the one". Not a chance

those are the only options ? Ick

Mach said:

Steadwood said:

YOU mr cutie would get the

Okay let's not jack Byron's really cool thread


[Edited 9/4/08 15:21pm]

flattery will get you everywhere with me in terms of flirty flirty talk. i can't help it, i'm a leo - we like our egos stroked before anything else gets stroked.

The aloof approach and insanely confident approach work on me

Byron said:

Is this thread for single and seeking people only ?

Mach said:

Yes Boss

Mach said:

I had a female friend who basically boiled down the three main approaches that she said seemed to work the most often on the most women lol...she said it was the "hopeless romantic" approach (think Pepe Le Pew lol), the "troubled hoodlum hiding the little boy inside" approach (think Allen Iverson), and the very direct "let's fuck" approach (think Quagmire on "Family Guy") . She didn't say they worked all the time or with all women, but if you took all the various approaches men thought up to win over women, that they'd fall under one of these categories ...I just wondered how many of them actually worked ...(uh, not for myself, that is )

- The "always available" approach. No matter what you need this guy for--help you move, drop you off at the airport, paint your living room, pick up your dry cleaning--he says "No problem! Be right over!". In fact, you could ask him to pick up your current boyfriend from work because his car is in the shop and he says "No problem! Where does he work?". He makes himself so dependable and necessary to your everyday doings that you find yourself wondering if he just might be "the one".

Anxiety said:

WE SURE AS FUCKING DO!!

JessieJ said:

And you're bothered that it does, it seems lol ...

Mach said:

Nah, for anybody ...We've all been single at one point in our lives, so we all can relate...

Byron said:

Perhaps a small amount of those aspects with a TON of more healthy positive ones

That would at least catch my attention

veronikka said:

There are men out there like that lol ...

Mach said:

A little bit of this...



mixed in with a little bit of this...

Byron said:

Yeah, sometimes.

That always available approach reminds me so much of a friend of mine.

Byron said:

yeah! and there is something very wrong with those people

None of the above - past them ALL!! Mostly

To cut to the chase... someone who's genuine, kind, sexy, independent and loves me for me, no more mind games.... seems to be hard to find though...

Byron said:

I have ZERO clue who that nude guy is

Byron said:

This TOTALLY works on me, but I've gotta believe him. I've heard smarmy, sleazy smack talk and I've heard the real deal.

Works every time!

well that and plenty of Jaeger, Tequila, Mojito or Wine... pick her a poison and a position and it's SO on...

For the women...which approach do you think tends to be your weakness:

- The complimenting romantic approach. Always complimenting you on everything about you...perfume, clothing, your intelligence, your humor...I mean, nothing you do is EVER wrong in their eyes, and everything about you causes their heart to soar. They say men fall in love with their eyes and women fall in love with their ears, and you're loving everything you're hearing.

- The aloof approach. Doesn't really seem to notice you, and on those rare occasions when he DOES interact with you, it doesn't seem to leave a lasting impression on him because he barely acknowledges you the next time you guys meet up. It ends up driving you crazy and makes you HAVE to get his attention, almost like a challenge.

- The insanely confident approach. He knows you want him, he's not even concerned about it one iota. Deny it all you want, but he knows you'll end up with him. He "knows" he has the perfect smile, the perfect job, the perfect car and makes the perfect amount of money. Nothing you say or do to convince him otherwise matters, he knows you want to be his...to the point that you actually find yourself indeed wanting to be his.

- The whoa is me approach. The guy just seems to always have everything go against him in life...loses his job, dog runs off, car is stolen, whatever. He constantly doubts his self worth and if he is even lovable to anyone, anywhere...and your natural nurturing instincts come out in full force against your will, and take over. You'll make sure he's loved.

- The "always available" approach. No matter what you need this guy for--help you move, drop you off at the airport, paint your living room, pick up your dry cleaning--he says "No problem! Be right over!". In fact, you could ask him to pick up your current boyfriend from work because his car is in the shop and he says "No problem! Where does he work?". He makes himself so dependable and necessary to your everyday doings that you find yourself wondering if he just might be "the one".




Crap are they the only options .....none of that would work on me ....I prefer...a smart wit with a great sense of humor, someone whos actions support their words....they give me their time and I know Im loved....

Byron said:

That sounds like me.

KidaDynamite said:

Hello there...

RenHoek said:

Is that a good thing?!

the clown car approach...