Graycap23 said:

LoL...very true. We also don't do well with the responsibilities of being truthful, either. One encourages the other...kind of a chicken/egg thing.

Byron said:

A man, or woman, is not obligated to divulge their mastubatory habits IMO.

Graycap23 said:

Oh well, too bad, so sad.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

That's why I said the guy wasn't being dishonest if he merely felt that his partner would have no issue with him doing so occasionally.

Byron said:

Truthfulness is overrated.
Example: The wife is in a great mood and is getting dressed 4 an event that the both of u are about 2 attend. While getting dressed she asks u how dinner was. U know full well that u did not care 4 her cooking that night and if u tell her the truth, u will ruin her mood and the evening. Which is the better answer?
Honey, dinner was good
or
honey, I really did NOT like that dinner?

Graycap23 said:

so many times people do not want to hear the truth even when they say they do.

horatio said:

Exactly right.

horatio said:

i've met monogamy gene and he is a lecherous pervert.

Graycap23 said:

The reality is that you don't know if it would ruin her good mood...maybe her good mood will cause her to laugh and say "oh well" and continue on with her evening. It's probably more likely that we wouldn't tell her the truth because we would feel guilty if her mood changed. So we don't tell the truth in order to eleviate our own discomfort in that situation as much as to help them avoid theirs.

Plus, asking someone's opinion is different than asking someone to give you facts. In cases like that, the "truth" becomes more irrelevant. I could say "The asparagus tasted terrible", but only relative to my own tastes. Someone else could say "the asparagus tasted fantastic" and mean it sincerely. So in your example, it could simply be that at some level you realize telling your wife that YOU didn't like the dinner doesn't mean that the dinner wasn't good...so you decide (maybe more on a subconscious level) that your opinion isn't fact, so what you say doesn't really matter.

Byron said:

lol.....U don't KNOW my wife.

Graycap23 said:

Variety and a dick you've never had before. Do you keep buying the same porno movie or magazine over and over again? Hell no, your next purchase is one you've never had before. Same with dicks. After having the same one a few times, I need a new one to get me hard.

Byron said:

Oh man....SOOOOO true.

Not sure how I can follow up THAT post but...

1) selfishness (not caring about anybody else)
2) ignorance (she'll never know anyway)
3) arrogance (my big dick needs more women because what's at home isn't enough)

vainandy said:

JustErin said:

I can make the hammer connect to the nail head on occasion lol ...

Byron said:

You're not kidding.

Deep.

Byron said:

Tell my wife u did not like that dinner.....and u will need that hammer.

Graycap23 said:

So you married a cunt.

That sucks.







Just kidding!

Graycap23 said:

So then you ARE lying to eleviate your own discomfort lol ...

JustErin said:

Lol.....she is cool.....she puts up with me.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

being selfish is not always bad, sometimes in order to have self preservation one has to be selfish.

vainandy said:

I call it Different Dick
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Byron said:

lol.....it's a JOKE.

I think what this entire thread ends up saying, at least to me, is that the best relationships (relatives, friendships and romantic) are the ones in which both people can feel vulnerable with each other yet still feel safe as well, often at the same time. I think that if you have that within a family, a friendship or a relationship, you're gonna find yourself being far more honest far more often. Doesn't mean you still won't hold back on things...I think everyone needs their privacy and their private moments, and both should be respected without condition. But if there's that trust of each other's hearts and each other's love, then you'll be more likely to say "I'm having feelings within our relationship that I shouldn't be having" when you find your affections going towards someone you're not involved with.

And let's face it, it's rare to find that type of relationship, sometimes even within one's own family. Without that sense of trust in each other, it might feel like you're jumping out of an airplane with a possibly defective parachute...."will it or won't it open when I pull the chord?".

someone once told me that nothing is written in stone. You can make all the promises you want, but at the end, its up to that person on that certain day and that certain time. And how willing that person is to make it work

If that person decided he/she doesnt want to at that very moment, then that is up to them. That is what divorce and break ups are for.


so sad.....

thank god im not with this person anymore!!!

CarrieMpls said:

I feel ya there! I'm single too. Trust can be a lifelong thing sometimes.
Lack of trust I mean. (btw Interesting article on the monogamy gene
thing Horatio-not saying I agree with it 100% BUT it was interesting nonetheless).
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JustErin said:

1. jealousy
2. trolls
3. he just gets on my gat dayum nerves

...and furthermore...WHAT Partner????