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PrintableMy sister in law has been single for 13 years , maybe thats why she is such a bitch and insists on staying over every fucking weekend stirring up trouble and just generally being a pain in the ass .
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MarySharon said: grimnt said: pardon my ignorance but what's RI? lol... and you will! [b][i][color=mediumpurple]The smallest state, easy to get out of it  It sucks you in!!!! Ok ok it is easy to get out of but I'm too chicken shit to leave. | |
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errant said: dag said: I´ve been single now for about 2 years and would really love to get involved in a steady relationship and whenever I see a pair in love, it just brings me down. Last weekend I met my cousin´s new girlfriend and they kept of hugging etc and I realized that after that I felt sad. It´s not that you don´t want those people to be happy, but it just reminds you so much of what you long for and can´t seem to find. It´s like being starving at a fiest, watching people eat, smelling the food, but not be allowed to touch it.
Have you felt the same way? hmmm. Yeah, I know what you mean, kind of. Before I fell head over heels in love for the first time (for real, rather than just infatuation or obsession or lust or settling), I'd come to the realization that though I was actually pretty content being alone, there was a sort of hunger in my heart for something. Since I'm alone again, I've come to recognize that as a sort of "incompleteness" that I was feeling and have been feeling lately, though by no means is it a sadness or a fear/anxiety about being alone. But it's turned into a sort of hunger for something more with someone. Though I'm still pretty confident being alone, and realizing it's the best thing right now, that sort of hunger has returned to my heart. But be careful, because knowing that the person you're spending time with to maybe quell that feeling is completely the WRONG person for you is very strange. The heart says "I want something more." The brain says "Are you kidding me? No way." And the libido, well... it certainly likes making friends and can take over the whole show. pardon my rambling, but yeah, I kind of know what you mean. [Edited 9/4/08 23:48pm] Totally same here. Even though, I got lost in the bold part. Did you mean that it is wrong to be with someone you feel that maybe could help,, but you´re not sure yet. Cause I´ve been seeing some guy recently, who probably is interested an even though we share a lot in common and I feel really comfrotable with him, I am NOT in love. I fear spending too much time for him because I don´t want to give him too much hope because I do like him, but not love him yet and I don´t know if those feelings that i have can turn into that kind of romantic love. And yes, I am a girl. FuNkeNsteiN, why did you think I was 21? Do I "sound" young? "When Michael Jackson is just singing and dancing, you just think this is an astonishing talent. And he has had this astounding talent all his life, but we want him to be floored as well. We really don´t like the idea that he could have it all." | |
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dag said: errant said: hmmm. Yeah, I know what you mean, kind of. Before I fell head over heels in love for the first time (for real, rather than just infatuation or obsession or lust or settling), I'd come to the realization that though I was actually pretty content being alone, there was a sort of hunger in my heart for something. Since I'm alone again, I've come to recognize that as a sort of "incompleteness" that I was feeling and have been feeling lately, though by no means is it a sadness or a fear/anxiety about being alone. But it's turned into a sort of hunger for something more with someone. Though I'm still pretty confident being alone, and realizing it's the best thing right now, that sort of hunger has returned to my heart. But be careful, because knowing that the person you're spending time with to maybe quell that feeling is completely the WRONG person for you is very strange. The heart says "I want something more." The brain says "Are you kidding me? No way." And the libido, well... it certainly likes making friends and can take over the whole show. pardon my rambling, but yeah, I kind of know what you mean. [Edited 9/4/08 23:48pm] Totally same here. Even though, I got lost in the bold part. Did you mean that it is wrong to be with someone you feel that maybe could help,, but you´re not sure yet. Cause I´ve been seeing some guy recently, who probably is interested an even though we share a lot in common and I feel really comfrotable with him, I am NOT in love. I fear spending too much time for him because I don´t want to give him too much hope because I do like him, but not love him yet and I don´t know if those feelings that i have can turn into that kind of romantic love. Yeah, I suppose that's one part of it. It's one angle to it. The other side of it is is being on the verge of letting those feelings yourself when you know it's probably the wrong thing to do. | |
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I've been single for a very long time and now I'm in a relationship that I very much want to.....I'm coming to find out that it's hard work to make it happen and quite an adjustment from being single. All of a sudden, there is someone who critisizes me.... This is good & bad at the same time, I'm not used to that and eventhough I like it, it requires work! | |
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dag said: FuNkeNsteiN, why did you think I was 21? Do I "sound" young?
No idea! 
For some reason, I just pictured you being around the same age as I am It is not known why FuNkeNsteiN capitalizes his name as he does, though some speculate sunlight deficiency caused by the most pimpified white guy afro in Nordic history.
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FuNkeNsteiN said: dag said: FuNkeNsteiN, why did you think I was 21? Do I "sound" young?
No idea!
For some reason, I just pictured you being around the same age as I am OK. "When Michael Jackson is just singing and dancing, you just think this is an astonishing talent. And he has had this astounding talent all his life, but we want him to be floored as well. We really don´t like the idea that he could have it all." | |
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I've been single my whole life, though I have been in a few relationships. I'm 40 now, and I find myself vacciliating between loneliness and solitude depending on my mood. Like whoever said it earlier, being single really sucks, especially when I really need some intimate relations and can't get any or don't want to deal with the fallen fruit from the proverbial dating pool. More importantly, I don't fell like I'm at a place in my life where I have anything to offer a potential partner.  On some nights the loneliness can be so stifling that I get really depressed and practically cry myself to sleep.   Then on others I talk to my best friend, who has a daughter of her own but is in the midst of getting a divorce, and she talks to me about all of her frustrations with her husband or with her daughter when she acts up, and it reminds me that I am fortunate to be single.  
I guess because I put such high standards on myself, I look for those standards in a potential mate. What makes it odd for me is then when I see a really hot young babe of college age or just slightly older, she may get my loins stimulated a bit, but when I talk to her I find it difficult to relate to her on an emotional or intellectual level. But a lot of the women closer to my age who I find attractive are either already married or in relationships, and the ones who are single either are divorced and/or tend to have families of their own. I'm not against dating single parents - the last woman I was interested in was a really hot single Puerto Rican chica with three kids - but you have to realize that even as much as that person may love and cherish you, you will still be a lower priority in her life because of her children, which is understandable and actually quite expected. So I guess I'm saying that I'm in the same boat as a lot of people here on this thread. I would like to find that special woman someday, get married, and start a family, but I'm in no hurry to do it yet.  | |
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728huey said: I've been single my whole life, though I have been in a few relationships. I'm 40 now, and I find myself vacciliating between loneliness and solitude depending on my mood. Like whoever said it earlier, being single really sucks, especially when I really need some intimate relations and can't get any or don't want to deal with the fallen fruit from the proverbial dating pool. More importantly, I don't fell like I'm at a place in my life where I have anything to offer a potential partner.
On some nights the loneliness can be so stifling that I get really depressed and practically cry myself to sleep. Then on others I talk to my best friend, who has a daughter of her own but is in the midst of getting a divorce, and she talks to me about all of her frustrations with her husband or with her daughter when she acts up, and it reminds me that I am fortunate to be single.
thats some deep depression there  I've never felt that bad about not finding the one, well at least not yet  Rhythm floods my heart♥The melody it feeds my soul | |
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My father has a friend who´s over 50, I think, been single all his life (or at least his friends were never aware that he´d have a girlfriend and last year, he finally introduces them a girlfrined (who is 20 years younger than him) and now they are married and few weeks ago had their first child and that man is in heaven. He cherishes his wife and enjoys every minute with her and his son becaise he has never had it and has waited for that all his life. And I always think to myself that it can happen anytime and that it´snot like that if you don´t get married before 30 or 40, you never will, but I still hope I find it sooner. I can´t imagine waiting for so long, plus for a woman, the time goes faster because past certain age, you can´t have kids, right. "When Michael Jackson is just singing and dancing, you just think this is an astonishing talent. And he has had this astounding talent all his life, but we want him to be floored as well. We really don´t like the idea that he could have it all." | |
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I have felt that same way before but I must admit for me, it has been a GOOD WHILE ago. I would LOVE to find something that good with someone again. My ex and I seemed to have that for the longest time and then it all went sour. At this point, I feel like if it happens again, it happens and if it doesn't so be it. I have been so hurt by some in relationships that I'm not too eager to jump right in at this point. I don't trust too easily to begin with and then when your "faith" is ruined by someone (who apparently it was all a game to at the time, etc.), you just don't wanna jump in head first afterwards. It HAS been a while for me yes and I WOULD eventually love to have that with someone,am just not looking forward to being hurt, used again. So it can take it's time for me.
When it comes, it comes and I don't intend on rushing it. Especially after a recent experience. Of course, it will be nice if it does though. SOME things are worth waiting for. For me, I just don't hold out forever for someone. Not anymore anyways. [Edited 9/6/08 18:13pm] "Sign of the times, will mess with your mind. Hurry before it's too late." Prince | |
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728huey said: I've been single my whole life, though I have been in a few relationships. I'm 40 now, and I find myself vacciliating between loneliness and solitude depending on my mood. Like whoever said it earlier, being single really sucks, especially when I really need some intimate relations and can't get any or don't want to deal with the fallen fruit from the proverbial dating pool. More importantly, I don't fell like I'm at a place in my life where I have anything to offer a potential partner.
On some nights the loneliness can be so stifling that I get really depressed and practically cry myself to sleep. Then on others I talk to my best friend, who has a daughter of her own but is in the midst of getting a divorce, and she talks to me about all of her frustrations with her husband or with her daughter when she acts up, and it reminds me that I am fortunate to be single.
I guess because I put such high standards on myself, I look for those standards in a potential mate. What makes it odd for me is then when I see a really hot young babe of college age or just slightly older, she may get my loins stimulated a bit, but when I talk to her I find it difficult to relate to her on an emotional or intellectual level. But a lot of the women closer to my age who I find attractive are either already married or in relationships, and the ones who are single either are divorced and/or tend to have families of their own. I'm not against dating single parents - the last woman I was interested in was a really hot single Puerto Rican chica with three kids - but you have to realize that even as much as that person may love and cherish you, you will still be a lower priority in her life because of her children, which is understandable and actually quite expected. So I guess I'm saying that I'm in the same boat as a lot of people here on this thread. I would like to find that special woman someday, get married, and start a family, but I'm in no hurry to do it yet. I get that. Hang in there, man. But, please, believe you have a lot to offer a mate, despite how things might look. [Edited 9/6/08 18:26pm] | |
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I have been single for almost 6 years now(yes I looked) and I LOVE it!!! There is no law saying anyone HAS TO get married so why push it if your happy being single -be single! If your happy with/ or sharing your life with- then so be it  Smurf theme song-seriously how many fucking "La Las" can u fit into a dam song 
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728huey said: I've been single my whole life, though I have been in a few relationships. I'm 40 now, and I find myself vacciliating between loneliness and solitude depending on my mood. Like whoever said it earlier, being single really sucks, especially when I really need some intimate relations and can't get any or don't want to deal with the fallen fruit from the proverbial dating pool. More importantly, I don't fell like I'm at a place in my life where I have anything to offer a potential partner.
On some nights the loneliness can be so stifling that I get really depressed and practically cry myself to sleep. Then on others I talk to my best friend, who has a daughter of her own but is in the midst of getting a divorce, and she talks to me about all of her frustrations with her husband or with her daughter when she acts up, and it reminds me that I am fortunate to be single.
I guess because I put such high standards on myself, I look for those standards in a potential mate. What makes it odd for me is then when I see a really hot young babe of college age or just slightly older, she may get my loins stimulated a bit, but when I talk to her I find it difficult to relate to her on an emotional or intellectual level. But a lot of the women closer to my age who I find attractive are either already married or in relationships, and the ones who are single either are divorced and/or tend to have families of their own. I'm not against dating single parents - the last woman I was interested in was a really hot single Puerto Rican chica with three kids - but you have to realize that even as much as that person may love and cherish you, you will still be a lower priority in her life because of her children, which is understandable and actually quite expected. So I guess I'm saying that I'm in the same boat as a lot of people here on this thread. I would like to find that special woman someday, get married, and start a family, but I'm in no hurry to do it yet. I am a female and thats me to a tee. I always put such pressure on myself to be the best and only the best and have high goals for myself. Like for instance, I moved out of my mother's house and bought a townhouse this year, and I'll be 26 the end of this month. I think thats a high acheivement especially for someone my age. I do have a boyfriend, but he isn't "high maintenance" like I am, and thats where we clash at. He still isn't quite sure where he wants to go in his life or what he wants to do with it and he's two years older than me. He's a good person, but he doesn't have any goals, and thats where my frustration lies with him, though I can't make him set any goals for himself, he has to do that on his own. Yet, here I am making, and achieving my goals to be more than what I am today a year from today. Each year I should be a step higher than where I am today. I definitely achieved that this year, and I will again next year because I will be earning my MBA in Marketing. And thats exactly what I want in a mate, for him to have high goals for himself as well...but like you said it doesn't happen that way. I have yet to meet a SINGLE guy who has high goals and standards but isn't already married or a psycho. Some of them don't know if they are gay or not, has 3 kids or more, or trying to be a play pimp. So yes it is very hard out here....but I know i'm destined to be somebody's wife someday I won't ever give up on that.I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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missfee said: 728huey said: I've been single my whole life, though I have been in a few relationships. I'm 40 now, and I find myself vacciliating between loneliness and solitude depending on my mood. Like whoever said it earlier, being single really sucks, especially when I really need some intimate relations and can't get any or don't want to deal with the fallen fruit from the proverbial dating pool. More importantly, I don't fell like I'm at a place in my life where I have anything to offer a potential partner.
On some nights the loneliness can be so stifling that I get really depressed and practically cry myself to sleep. Then on others I talk to my best friend, who has a daughter of her own but is in the midst of getting a divorce, and she talks to me about all of her frustrations with her husband or with her daughter when she acts up, and it reminds me that I am fortunate to be single.
I guess because I put such high standards on myself, I look for those standards in a potential mate. What makes it odd for me is then when I see a really hot young babe of college age or just slightly older, she may get my loins stimulated a bit, but when I talk to her I find it difficult to relate to her on an emotional or intellectual level. But a lot of the women closer to my age who I find attractive are either already married or in relationships, and the ones who are single either are divorced and/or tend to have families of their own. I'm not against dating single parents - the last woman I was interested in was a really hot single Puerto Rican chica with three kids - but you have to realize that even as much as that person may love and cherish you, you will still be a lower priority in her life because of her children, which is understandable and actually quite expected. So I guess I'm saying that I'm in the same boat as a lot of people here on this thread. I would like to find that special woman someday, get married, and start a family, but I'm in no hurry to do it yet. I am a female and thats me to a tee. I always put such pressure on myself to be the best and only the best and have high goals for myself. Like for instance, I moved out of my mother's house and bought a townhouse this year, and I'll be 26 the end of this month. I think thats a high acheivement especially for someone my age. I do have a boyfriend, but he isn't "high maintenance" like I am, and thats where we clash at. He still isn't quite sure where he wants to go in his life or what he wants to do with it and he's two years older than me. He's a good person, but he doesn't have any goals, and thats where my frustration lies with him, though I can't make him set any goals for himself, he has to do that on his own. Yet, here I am making, and achieving my goals to be more than what I am today a year from today. Each year I should be a step higher than where I am today. I definitely achieved that this year, and I will again next year because I will be earning my MBA in Marketing. And thats exactly what I want in a mate, for him to have high goals for himself as well...but like you said it doesn't happen that way. I have yet to meet a SINGLE guy who has high goals and standards but isn't already married or a psycho. Some of them don't know if they are gay or not, has 3 kids or more, or trying to be a play pimp. So yes it is very hard out here....but I know i'm destined to be somebody's wife someday I won't ever give up on that.[Edited 9/7/08 8:18am] I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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missfee said: 728huey said: I've been single my whole life, though I have been in a few relationships. I'm 40 now, and I find myself vacciliating between loneliness and solitude depending on my mood. Like whoever said it earlier, being single really sucks, especially when I really need some intimate relations and can't get any or don't want to deal with the fallen fruit from the proverbial dating pool. More importantly, I don't fell like I'm at a place in my life where I have anything to offer a potential partner.
On some nights the loneliness can be so stifling that I get really depressed and practically cry myself to sleep. Then on others I talk to my best friend, who has a daughter of her own but is in the midst of getting a divorce, and she talks to me about all of her frustrations with her husband or with her daughter when she acts up, and it reminds me that I am fortunate to be single.
I guess because I put such high standards on myself, I look for those standards in a potential mate. What makes it odd for me is then when I see a really hot young babe of college age or just slightly older, she may get my loins stimulated a bit, but when I talk to her I find it difficult to relate to her on an emotional or intellectual level. But a lot of the women closer to my age who I find attractive are either already married or in relationships, and the ones who are single either are divorced and/or tend to have families of their own. I'm not against dating single parents - the last woman I was interested in was a really hot single Puerto Rican chica with three kids - but you have to realize that even as much as that person may love and cherish you, you will still be a lower priority in her life because of her children, which is understandable and actually quite expected. So I guess I'm saying that I'm in the same boat as a lot of people here on this thread. I would like to find that special woman someday, get married, and start a family, but I'm in no hurry to do it yet. I am a female and thats me to a tee. I always put such pressure on myself to be the best and only the best and have high goals for myself. Like for instance, I moved out of my mother's house and bought a townhouse this year, and I'll be 26 the end of this month. I think thats a high acheivement especially for someone my age. I do have a boyfriend, but he isn't "high maintenance" like I am, and thats where we clash at. He still isn't quite sure where he wants to go in his life or what he wants to do with it and he's two years older than me. He's a good person, but he doesn't have any goals, and thats where my frustration lies with him, though I can't make him set any goals for himself, he has to do that on his own. Yet, here I am making, and achieving my goals to be more than what I am today a year from today. Each year I should be a step higher than where I am today. I definitely achieved that this year, and I will again next year because I will be earning my MBA in Marketing. And thats exactly what I want in a mate, for him to have high goals for himself as well...but like you said it doesn't happen that way. I have yet to meet a SINGLE guy who has high goals and standards but isn't already married or a psycho. Some of them don't know if they are gay or not, has 3 kids or more, or trying to be a play pimp. So yes it is very hard out here....but I know i'm destined to be somebody's wife someday I won't ever give up on that.You know, reading my comment above, I've answered a lot of the questions that I've been asking myself lately (and others for their opinion)....and I have my answer now. It's not the answer I want to hear, but it's time I face the truth. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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dag said: I´ve been single now for about 2 years and would really love to get involved in a steady relationship and whenever I see a pair in love, it just brings me down. Last weekend I met my cousin´s new girlfriend and they kept of hugging etc and I realized that after that I felt sad. It´s not that you don´t want those people to be happy, but it just reminds you so much of what you long for and can´t seem to find. It´s like being starving at a fiest, watching people eat, smelling the food, but not be allowed to touch it.
Have you felt the same way? I've been single for about 8 years. I've dated but it is what it is. I don't envy others or feel sad because of they are experiencing or doing. Right now, I'm not even looking. I don't want you to think like me. I just want you to think. |
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FuNkeNsteiN said: NWF said: I know just how you feel, buddy. That's been the story of my life.dag is a girl  Duh, the word "buddy" isn't gender-specific. [Edited 9/8/08 0:57am] NEW WAVE FOREVER: SLAVE TO THE WAVE FROM THE CRADLE TO THE GRAVE. | |
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NWF said: FuNkeNsteiN said: dag is a girl Duh, the word "buddy" isn't gender-specific. bud·dy (bd) Informal n. pl. bud·dies 1. A good friend; a comrade. 2. A partner, especially one of a pair or team associated under the buddy system. 3. Friend or comrade; chum. Used as a form of familiar address, especially for a man or boy It is not known why FuNkeNsteiN capitalizes his name as he does, though some speculate sunlight deficiency caused by the most pimpified white guy afro in Nordic history.
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CarrieMpls said: I've been single the vast majority of my life. I don't really know how to be any other way.
Sure, I get jealous of couples sometimes. It can be depressing. But there are many, many advantages to being single too. Same here. As awesome as it would be to actually HAVE someone, I dunno if I would really know what to do...I've been a loner for so long. Facebook, I haz it - https://www.facebook.com/Nikster1969
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dag said: I´ve been single now for about 2 years and would really love to get involved in a steady relationship and whenever I see a pair in love, it just brings me down. Last weekend I met my cousin´s new girlfriend and they kept of hugging etc and I realized that after that I felt sad. It´s not that you don´t want those people to be happy, but it just reminds you so much of what you long for and can´t seem to find. It´s like being starving at a feast, watching people eat, smelling the food, but not be allowed to touch it.
Have you felt the same way? I use to feel that way, but not anymore. For those that truly find it I'm happy for them, but to get envious doesn't help me in the long run, in fact it makes things harder and makes me more likely to make bad choices in a partner. | |
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There's a beautiful song about the search for soulmate:
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morningsong said: dag said: I´ve been single now for about 2 years and would really love to get involved in a steady relationship and whenever I see a pair in love, it just brings me down. Last weekend I met my cousin´s new girlfriend and they kept of hugging etc and I realized that after that I felt sad. It´s not that you don´t want those people to be happy, but it just reminds you so much of what you long for and can´t seem to find. It´s like being starving at a feast, watching people eat, smelling the food, but not be allowed to touch it.
Have you felt the same way? I use to feel that way, but not anymore. For those that truly find it I'm happy for them, but to get envious doesn't help me in the long run, in fact it makes things harder and makes me more likely to make bad choices in a partner. You´re right about the fact that envy does not help. I don´t think I am that envioes though. But just watching couples in love, you can´t help being reminded of what you are missing. I am trying to get it out of my head, sometimes more successfully sometimes less. It is not easy to control emotions through brains. "When Michael Jackson is just singing and dancing, you just think this is an astonishing talent. And he has had this astounding talent all his life, but we want him to be floored as well. We really don´t like the idea that he could have it all." | |
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dag said: morningsong said: I use to feel that way, but not anymore. For those that truly find it I'm happy for them, but to get envious doesn't help me in the long run, in fact it makes things harder and makes me more likely to make bad choices in a partner. You´re right about the fact that envy does not help. I don´t think I am that envioes though. But just watching couples in love, you can´t help being reminded of what you are missing. I am trying to get it out of my head, sometimes more successfully sometimes less. It is not easy to control emotions through brains. Seems to me that a certain amount of love and respect for self seems to be an excellent magnet. Maybe it's the positive vibes the attracts. I would guess keeping busy with those things that develop self, serve not only as a postive distraction, no not distraction, but a way of retraining your mind not to focus on that one aspect of life as well as adding interest to you as a person. Easier said than done, I know. | |
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toots said: I have been single for almost 6 years now(yes I looked) and I LOVE it!!! There is no law saying anyone HAS TO get married so why push it if your happy being single -be single! If your happy with/ or sharing your life with- then so be it
Preach that sh!t! Been single my entire life and loving it. Folks should stop worrying about society's 'rules' and just do their OWN thing, whatever makes them happy. | |
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uPtoWnNY said: toots said: I have been single for almost 6 years now(yes I looked) and I LOVE it!!! There is no law saying anyone HAS TO get married so why push it if your happy being single -be single! If your happy with/ or sharing your life with- then so be it
Preach that sh!t! Been single my entire life and loving it. Folks should stop worrying about society's 'rules' and just do their OWN thing, whatever makes them happy. Wanting to find a good relationship has nothing to do with society's rules. Sure, there may be some people who feel pressured to get married due to that, but the people expressing that on this thread are talking about something they want for themselves, not cause anyone else is expecting it from them. It's a different thing. |
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CarrieMpls said: uPtoWnNY said:
Preach that sh!t! Been single my entire life and loving it. Folks should stop worrying about society's 'rules' and just do their OWN thing, whatever makes them happy. Wanting to find a good relationship has nothing to do with society's rules. Sure, there may be some people who feel pressured to get married due to that, but the people expressing that on this thread are talking about something they want for themselves, not cause anyone else is expecting it from them. It's a different thing. That´s right. Seems to me that a certain amount of love and respect for self seems to be an excellent magnet. Maybe it's the positive vibes the attracts. I would guess keeping busy with those things that develop self, serve not only as a postive distraction, no not distraction, but a way of retraining your mind not to focus on that one aspect of life as well as adding interest to you as a person. Easier said than done, I know.
Well, yesterday, I started attending a dancing course - that´s a good distraction, isn´t it. We did some Vogue and Janet Jackson moves. I did not always catch on, but it was great. "When Michael Jackson is just singing and dancing, you just think this is an astonishing talent. And he has had this astounding talent all his life, but we want him to be floored as well. We really don´t like the idea that he could have it all." | |
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dag said: morningsong said: I use to feel that way, but not anymore. For those that truly find it I'm happy for them, but to get envious doesn't help me in the long run, in fact it makes things harder and makes me more likely to make bad choices in a partner. You´re right about the fact that envy does not help. I don´t think I am that envioes though. But just watching couples in love, you can´t help being reminded of what you are missing. I am trying to get it out of my head, sometimes more successfully sometimes less. It is not easy to control emotions through brains. I tend to think one doesn't get envious IF in fact, they ARE happy being single. There's no reason to be envious. I think we ALL want/need the good parts of a relationship (hugging, general affection, etc.) what I think I don't want is that feeling you get when something that was good turns bad. I can do without that personally. "Sign of the times, will mess with your mind. Hurry before it's too late." Prince | |
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dag said: I´ve been single now for about 2 years
i was single for 5 years before i met my current beau | |
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