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Printabledag said: Thanks for the nice replies everybody...
Of course, if I was single and never getting any I would be miserable....  Maybe that´s the problem. 
I´ve got one more question to those who wrote that they have been single for a while because they want to: Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert? [Edited 9/3/08 5:57am] Depends how many drinks I have. Normally I'm a big mouth but if I'm interested I get all girly shy. It's so annoying. | |
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missfee said: dag said: Thanks for the nice replies everybody...
Maybe that´s the problem.
I´ve got one more question to those who wrote that they have been single for a while because they want to: Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert? [Edited 9/3/08 5:57am] Well I'm an introvert and I'm fine with that. Are u an introvert and not okay with it? Is that what u r really asking? Well if it is, then u have to figure out why u feel that way. I don't think it should matter either way if u r extro or intro but how u see yourself as a single person. I've read some of your posts on other sites and u seem to be a decent & nice person...u just have be a little more patient and in the meantime have fun being u with u.  Well, the reason why I brought up the introvert/extrovert question is because I think it is related. I think that introverts are the onew who are able to choose to be single and be OK with it because they don´t have the need to be around people to be happy. I am definately a complete introvert. I am just like CarrieMpls. And another thing connected to this itnrovert/extrovert side is that introverts do not like going out much therefore have little opportunities to meet people and find a partner. That´s exactly me. I was totally not surprised to find out that JustErin is extrovert because as an introvert she would have troubles to "get some" as she wrote. Well, I am an introvert and I am happy about it, but I just really long for an intimate relationship. I´ve never really been in a steady long intimate relationship and I really would love to have it. It´s been too many years. But on the other hand, it´s better being single than being with someone just for the sake of it. [Edited 9/3/08 11:11am] "When Michael Jackson is just singing and dancing, you just think this is an astonishing talent. And he has had this astounding talent all his life, but we want him to be floored as well. We really don´t like the idea that he could have it all." | |
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CarrieLee said: dag said: Thanks for the nice replies everybody...
Maybe that´s the problem.
I´ve got one more question to those who wrote that they have been single for a while because they want to: Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert? [Edited 9/3/08 5:57am] Depends how many drinks I have. Normally I'm a big mouth but if I'm interested I get all girly shy. It's so annoying. Well, I don´t think shyness is connected to that. Being introvert means being uncomfortable around people, gettin easily tired by people and being turned inside yourself and being extrovert means that you need to get out, meet people and constantly do something. You can be shy whatever you are. but it is harder for an extrovert to be shy, because as I said extrovert need people in order to be happy and if you´re shy, you get frustrated. It might be less of a problem for an introvert who does not need to be in constant contact with others. "When Michael Jackson is just singing and dancing, you just think this is an astonishing talent. And he has had this astounding talent all his life, but we want him to be floored as well. We really don´t like the idea that he could have it all." | |
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dag said: Well, I am an introvert and I am happy about it, but I just really long for an intimate relationship. I´ve never really been in a steady long intimate relationship and I really would love to have it. It´s been too many years. But on the other hand, it´s better being single than being with someone just for the sake of it. [Edited 9/3/08 11:11am] This describes me to a tee. Well, I did have one long-term relationship, but it started when I was 17, lasted solid for one year, then we did another year of making up and breaking up all the time till it was finally over. I haven't had a relationship last more than, oh, 4 months or so since then. And I'm 33 now.
I'm thinking it's not in the cards for me. It is most certainly something I want, but experience tells me it's not going to happen. ah well. Here's to being a crazy cat lady!  |
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dag said: I´ve been single now for about 2 years and would really love to get involved in a steady relationship and whenever I see a pair in love, it just brings me down. Last weekend I met my cousin´s new girlfriend and they kept of hugging etc and I realized that after that I felt sad. It´s not that you don´t want those people to be happy, but it just reminds you so much of what you long for and can´t seem to find. It´s like being starving at a fiest, watching people eat, smelling the food, but not be allowed to touch it.
Have you felt the same way? No. I'm now single for 14 years It was a choice I made, while raising my son. He's now a man & I'm on the 2nd part of my living. I'll continue being single & not lonely. If I want affection I have several good friends. There are so many things I want to do with the rest of my life. Especially work on myself (abandonment issues, anger issues = unsolved pain) If, however I meet someone decent (who can roll with me & I with him), I'd be willing to give us a chance. Before my son was born I had all sorts of relationships - the longest being 11 years with a dude who chose to cheat. <=more angry with myself than him. Aaahaaa! 
Invest this time of being without a mate on yourself, beloved. @)-}---- Those public hugs and outward signs of unity could be a show. Or a "block". Only the couple knows for sure. I'll ♥️ "LemonDrop" 2DN 💋 your "Sugar"
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Why are you leaving us FuNkeNsteiN? What made you so sad? "When Michael Jackson is just singing and dancing, you just think this is an astonishing talent. And he has had this astounding talent all his life, but we want him to be floored as well. We really don´t like the idea that he could have it all." | |
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dag said: Why are you leaving us FuNkeNsteiN? What made you so sad?
I'm single and lonely as hell. Actually, I've only been single for like +3 months, but hell, it already feels like it's been too long
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FuNkeNsteiN said: dag said: Why are you leaving us FuNkeNsteiN? What made you so sad?
I'm single and lonely as hell. Actually, I've only been single for like +3 months, but hell, it already feels like it's been too long
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DanceWme said: FuNkeNsteiN said: I'm single and lonely as hell. Actually, I've only been single for like +3 months, but hell, it already feels like it's been too long
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FuNkeNsteiN said: dag said: Why are you leaving us FuNkeNsteiN? What made you so sad?
I'm single and lonely as hell. Actually, I've only been single for like +3 months, but hell, it already feels like it's been too long
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FuNkeNsteiN said: dag said: Why are you leaving us FuNkeNsteiN? What made you so sad?
I'm single and lonely as hell. Actually, I've only been single for like +3 months, but hell, it already feels like it's been too long
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JustErin said: FuNkeNsteiN said: I'm single and lonely as hell. Actually, I've only been single for like +3 months, but hell, it already feels like it's been too long
Too long for what? I've been on my own for too long. I need somebody in my life. Also, it doesn't really help that pretty much all of my friends live in a different city, so in addition to not having a girl in my life, I also have very few friends here. It is not known why FuNkeNsteiN capitalizes his name as he does, though some speculate sunlight deficiency caused by the most pimpified white guy afro in Nordic history.
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JessieJ said: FuNkeNsteiN said: I'm single and lonely as hell. Actually, I've only been single for like +3 months, but hell, it already feels like it's been too long
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FuNkeNsteiN said: JustErin said: Too long for what? I've been on my own for too long. I need somebody in my life. Also, it doesn't really help that pretty much all of my friends live in a different city, so in addition to not having a girl in my life, I also have very few friends here. I know EXACTLY how you feel. I do not have that many friends, but they all live in different cities (those I consider close friends). I have only one friend who lives nearby. But she´s been in a relationship for 2 years now, of course, giving all her time and energy there, so we meet here and there, but I have noone to go on vacation with etc. I am 28, would love to have kids one day and I feel that with each year it is going to be more difficult to find someone because guys in my age who are worth something are usually married, or already have partners. My two only relationship lasted longest 2 or 3 months and I just really wanna be with someone. [Edited 9/3/08 13:51pm] "When Michael Jackson is just singing and dancing, you just think this is an astonishing talent. And he has had this astounding talent all his life, but we want him to be floored as well. We really don´t like the idea that he could have it all." | |
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dag said: I´ve been single now for about 2 years and would really love to get involved in a steady relationship and whenever I see a pair in love, it just brings me down. Last weekend I met my cousin´s new girlfriend and they kept of hugging etc and I realized that after that I felt sad. It´s not that you don´t want those people to be happy, but it just reminds you so much of what you long for and can´t seem to find. It´s like being starving at a fiest, watching people eat, smelling the food, but not be allowed to touch it.
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dag said: FuNkeNsteiN said: I've been on my own for too long. I need somebody in my life. Also, it doesn't really help that pretty much all of my friends live in a different city, so in addition to not having a girl in my life, I also have very few friends here. I know EXACTLY how you feel. I do not have that many friends, but they all live in different cities (those I consider close friends). I have only one friend who lives nearby. But she´s been in a relationship for 2 years now, of course, giving all her time and energy there, so we meet here and there, but I have noone to go on vacation with etc. I am 28, would love to have kids one day and I feel that with each year it is going to be more difficult to find someone because guys in my age who are worth something are usually married, or already have partners. My two only relationship lasted longest 2 or 3 months and I just really wanna to be with someone. Yea, well I actually also only have one friend who lives nearby. She is my best friend, though.... and she also happens to be my ex girlfriend
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Well I've always been single (not by choice though) and I feel the same way like dag and Funkenstein talked about. I'll be 26 at the end of this month and I really am getting desperate. | |
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CarrieMpls said: I've been single the vast majority of my life. I don't really know how to be any other way.
Sure, I get jealous of couples sometimes. It can be depressing. But there are many, many advantages to being single too. I could have typed this posts myself word for word. Music washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life. ~Berthold Auerbach | |
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dag said: I´ve been single now for about 2 years and would really love to get involved in a steady relationship and whenever I see a pair in love, it just brings me down. Last weekend I met my cousin´s new girlfriend and they kept of hugging etc and I realized that after that I felt sad. It´s not that you don´t want those people to be happy, but it just reminds you so much of what you long for and can´t seem to find. It´s like being starving at a fiest, watching people eat, smelling the food, but not be allowed to touch it.
Have you felt the same way? No, I didn't feel this way when I was single, and I was single for years. I hope whatever is making you feel this way gets better. I doubt it's just being single that is making you feel so "starved," as you put it.
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CarrieMpls said: dag said: Thanks for the nice replies everybody...
Maybe that´s the problem.
I´ve got one more question to those who wrote that they have been single for a while because they want to: Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert? [Edited 9/3/08 5:57am] Most definitely an introvert. And a shy person at that. Is that a big reason why I'm single? Probably. I don't meet men I'm interested in and I don't like talking to people I don't know, like, ever. You fit my story to a T Carrie. I've been single more than with somebody. I think within the last five years I've come to certain realizations within and out of relationships. The biggest thing for me is that I have LTFBS = low tolerance for bull****. So if the guy is more drama than paradise, hey I can move on. I would love to work the situation out first, but I'm not in a relationship and doing all the work. Now I've learned how to cut it off even quicker. I don't really attract guys, maybe cuz I have the powerwalk/don't bother me look most of the time. Also I tend to be interested in guys who wouldn't be an obvious choice and I'm mostly a homebody so of course it doesn't lead to meeting guys. Even when I do go out, it would be my friends who would get the attention."Funkyslsistah… you ain't funky at all, you just a little ol' prude"!
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I've been single for nearly 11 years now  damn time flies!
i totally understand what you are saying when you talk about seeing couples in love and how sometimes that can bring you down.... as mentioned above, all it really takes is one phone call to a friend who is arguing with their boyfriend and that usually makes it all better 
i dont know what the future holds for me as far as love is concerned  but for now, im ok where i am - sure its lonely every now and then but most of the time i like being in control of my world.....
hope you get to feeling better soon One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
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FuNkeNsteiN said: I'm single and lonely as hell. Actually, I've only been single for like +3 months, but hell, it already feels like it's been too long
3 months? Amateur! Give it a few years - then we'll talk. | |
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JerseyKRS said: Take a look you see I painted you a picture,
It's black and white except the blood's a little richer Down in the corner I gave it my signature And then I titled it "This one's for the Winter" Check it out, you see it's just a big disaster I dedicate it to the fact that it's so hard for you to dream, A million heartbeats around you make it hard to sleep Doesn't help you're freezing in your bed your blankets aren't enough All you want is some one there, all you say is so Love, Love, Kiss, Kiss, blah blah blah. You're making me sick, I wish you'd just stop showing off For the rest of us that no one wants to love It's hard enough trying to drink another Winter all alone Love, Love, Kiss, Kiss, blah blah blah. Well do you find you like to fall in love with people that you're never gonna meet? It's easier than breaking up and crying in the street Do you curse the happy couple? Do you cringe at wedding bells? Do you drink up all the punch while you wish 'em all to Love, Love, Kiss, Kiss, blah blah blah. You're making me sick, I wish you'd just stop showing off For the rest of us that no one wants to love It's hard enough trying to drink another Winter all alone Love, Love, Kiss, Kiss, blah blah blah. You can't escape this fatal case of melancholia It's in your face, in every place you go it's stalking you And there are days when we all say we feel we just can't go on But you've felt this way all along Love, Love, Kiss, Kiss, blah blah blah. You're making me sick, I wish you'd just stop showing off For the rest of us that no one wants to love It's hard enough trying to drink another Winter all alone Love, Love, Kiss, Kiss, blah blah blah.  you're getting cheezy!  | |
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never been in a relationship...i guess I decide of the possibility of something happening the second i meet them. unlucky7 reincarnated | |
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peacenlovealways said: never been in a relationship...i guess I decide of the possibility of something happening the second i meet them.
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Yeah, it can stink. Especially when you've routinely stuck it out in situations to try to make it work and when you can point to some real points in life when you made some real sacrifices for what turned out to be the wrong people. And, then you're told by well-meaning people that you don't do enough to find "the right person." Oy vey. It can stink. | |
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FuNkeNsteiN said: dag said: I know EXACTLY how you feel. I do not have that many friends, but they all live in different cities (those I consider close friends). I have only one friend who lives nearby. But she´s been in a relationship for 2 years now, of course, giving all her time and energy there, so we meet here and there, but I have noone to go on vacation with etc. I am 28, would love to have kids one day and I feel that with each year it is going to be more difficult to find someone because guys in my age who are worth something are usually married, or already have partners. My two only relationship lasted longest 2 or 3 months and I just really wanna to be with someone. Yea, well I actually also only have one friend who lives nearby. She is my best friend, though.... and she also happens to be my ex girlfriend
Oh and you're 28, huh? For some reason, I thought you were around my age. Which is what age? "When Michael Jackson is just singing and dancing, you just think this is an astonishing talent. And he has had this astounding talent all his life, but we want him to be floored as well. We really don´t like the idea that he could have it all." | |
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