Thanks for the kind words Genesia, toots and superspaceboy ...I don't want it to sound like I'm perfect, though, or anything of the sort (hopefully it didn't). I give all the credit in the world to my ex-wife...she had to come to grips with who I am, who "we" really were together, and she had to find the strength to forgive me and even herself (to a smaller degree). That she was able to do all those things is what helped us create that type of environment that allowed both of us to move forward and have the type of relationship that I described above. I'll never forget or overlook that when it comes to her...

Wow. Lame.

All my son's father has to do is pay a measly $265 a month and he doesn't even do that. He just fucks off and does his own thing - doesn't give a shit about his son at all - since he makes no effort to see him or even check up on him.

And he thinks that he's paying WAAAAY too much a month too (when he actually does pay it - which he hasn't in months).

I'll never feel sorry for those that complain that they have to pay child support. They usually have no idea just how much the full time parents has to spend to maintain a household.

JustErin said:

Exactly. And I don't think they care.

Wow. Lame.

All my son's father has to do is pay a measly $265 a month and he doesn't even do that. He just fucks off and does his own thing - doesn't give a shit about his son at all - since he makes no effort to see him or even check up on him.

And he thinks that he's paying WAAAAY too much a month too (when he actually does pay it - which he hasn't in months).

I'll never feel sorry for those that complain that they have to pay child support. They usually have no idea just how much the full time parents has to spend to maintain a household.

JustErin said:

Wow Erin

I feel bad for your son I honestly do.

IMHO If they dont want to help support a child I say put a raincoat on

toots said:

yeah...poor lil man! His dad is missing out on a great experience, and he is depriving his son of a great experience too. I hope someday he makes amends somehow

yeah...sounds like she's just mad. I mean if he went to court and all that and 700 is what they came up with..then they should be able to swing it. She really doesn't have a place to complain....if she didn't want this to be an issue in her life...she perhaps should not have taken him back. They could always fight for more custody? Usually the price (you pay to the ex) goes down the more you actually have the child in your care, ofcourse you still pay cause now you have to take care of the child...but it must seem easier when you're paying to support your household rather than just forking over 700 bucks.

do they have kids together too?
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Shorty said:

Thing is, even though he's not the best influence on my son - I never cut him out of our lives because I felt it was really important for him to know his father. Actually, you wouldn't believe just how accommodating I have been with this guy - working around his schedule, not going after him for certain things he owes, etc.

However, after 3 years of him paying then not paying, seeing him (at a bare minimum) then deciding to not see him for how ever long he wants to fuck off, I told him that he needs to at least pay up the money he owes me for recent months or he is no longer welcome to see his son - at all.

Since saying that I have received no money and have not heard a word from him. He could be dead for all I know.

Luckily my son is surrounded by many others who love him.

JustErin said:

It's good you put your foot down. My mom did that with my dad and he simply left the state.

You know, sometimes it's not about the money, it's about giving a shit about your son. And seeing your kid periodically whenever just can't be good for anyone. I say good riddance to bad rubbish!

Erin,
Sounds like your doing a wonderful job with your son, IMHO.All you can do is do your best

Byron said:

If more Dads could be like you, the world would be a better place.

Wow. Lame.

All my son's father has to do is pay a measly $265 a month and he doesn't even do that. He just fucks off and does his own thing - doesn't give a shit about his son at all - since he makes no effort to see him or even check up on him.

And he thinks that he's paying WAAAAY too much a month too (when he actually does pay it - which he hasn't in months).

I'll never feel sorry for those that complain that they have to pay child support. They usually have no idea just how much the full time parents has to spend to maintain a household.

Everyone. I have a friend who is married. Her spouse has a child (outside the marriage) that was conceived while they were "separated" for a time.
He was recently ordered to pay $700.00 a months for child support and SHE (my friend) is griping about this- complaining that it is too much.

What the hell?! For some reason people (mainly men) are stuck on "$500.00 is enough[/i]" bullshit. While I agree that the kid will not starve if she gets $500.00 per month I fail to see how $700.00 is too much. For $700.00 a month HE gets to have someone ELSE take this kid to daycare/school... pick him up from daycare/school. He gets someone to stay home with his ass when he's sick.. evening care, meals 3 times a day... and babydaddy doesn't have to do any of this. For his $700.00, HE gets to focus on rebuilding his marriage and only has to play daddy every other weekend and send the kid home with a bag full on dirty laundry when his weekend is over.
Now because I disagreed with this friend of mine saying that I WISH I had someone to do all that for me for ONLY $700.00 a months, she is mad at me because I "sided with the other woman." I was like "maybe we shouldn't talk about stuff like this anymore." But seriously, Who the hell thinks that $700.00 a month is too much for child support? I am not talking aout just buying shoes and lunches (which is all she's thinking about in my opinion). Time is what I am talking about; doesn't TIME has value too?
wow.

Shorty said:

I think she has a place to complain...and that's to her husband. This sounds like he slipped and found out after they got back together...though that would be THE reason to break up again, if he did that to me.

Shorty said:

Thing is, even though he's not the best influence on my son - I never cut him out of our lives because I felt it was really important for him to know his father. Actually, you wouldn't believe just how accommodating I have been with this guy - working around his schedule, not going after him for certain things he owes, etc.

However, after 3 years of him paying then not paying, seeing him (at a bare minimum) then deciding to not see him for how ever long he wants to fuck off, I told him that he needs to at least pay up the money he owes me for recent months or he is no longer welcome to see his son - at all.

Since saying that I have received no money and have not heard a word from him. He could be dead for all I know.

Luckily my son is surrounded by many others who love him.

Everyone. I have a friend who is married. Her spouse has a child (outside the marriage) that was conceived while they were "separated" for a time.
He was recently ordered to pay $700.00 a months for child support and SHE (my friend) is griping about this- complaining that it is too much.

What the hell?! For some reason people (mainly men) are stuck on "$500.00 is enough[/i]" bullshit. While I agree that the kid will not starve if she gets $500.00 per month I fail to see how $700.00 is too much. For $700.00 a month HE gets to have someone ELSE take this kid to daycare/school... pick him up from daycare/school. He gets someone to stay home with his ass when he's sick.. evening care, meals 3 times a day... and babydaddy doesn't have to do any of this. For his $700.00, HE gets to focus on rebuilding his marriage and only has to play daddy every other weekend and send the kid home with a bag full on dirty laundry when his weekend is over.
Now because I disagreed with this friend of mine saying that I WISH I had someone to do all that for me for ONLY $700.00 a months, she is mad at me because I "sided with the other woman." I was like "maybe we shouldn't talk about stuff like this anymore." But seriously, Who the hell thinks that $700.00 a month is too much for child support? I am not talking aout just buying shoes and lunches (which is all she's thinking about in my opinion). Time is what I am talking about; doesn't TIME has value too?
wow.