Good Morning Steve and the Morning show family, I actually do not know where to start with my letter. I guess I will start will saying I have been in tears everyday for the last 4 months. I guess I will also start by giving you a little history. First of all, my husband and I have been married for almost 2 years. We met in college when I was a freshman and he was a junior. When we met, we realized we had a lot in common. We both grew up in the same city just on different sides of town. So we didn't know each other.

We were raised by strong single black women that made sure we had the best, we were raised in the church, and we both wanted to get legal degrees. We got married shortly after I graduated college and we relocated to Chicago in hopes of attending law school. When we got to Chicago, I became a nurse instead and my husband got a position at a legal firm (long story short, we didn't make it to law school).

We both are devout Christians and we have been for most of our life. We decided that in order to really move foward in our spiritual life, that we needed to forgive all the people we had problems with includeing our fathers. We didn't realize how much that unforgiveness impacted our own lives. I made it a point to forgive my father in my heart because I knew it would be difficult to find him. My husband, however, got in touch with his father and made arrangements to meet up with him when we went home for our family reunion.

They decided to meet up at the park where the reunion was to be held because they felt that was a neutral spot. We went home for the family reunion in May.. To my surprise, my father was there. Even though I hadn't seen him in almost 16 yrs, I knew it was him. I remembered the goal me and my husband had set for ourselves so I agreed to go somewhere and talk with him as long as we remained in the park.

After about 45 minutes of catching up, I finally asked him what he was doing at the park on that day of all days. He mentioned that he was there to meet someone special in his life. I figured it was probably just another women. Just then, my husband walked up and said, I see you met my father.

At that point, I did pass out (literally). I woke up in the hospital a couple of hours later. After a week, my husband went back to Chicago. I remained in our hometown with my mother. I was not ready to face all the issues on my plate and I couldn't just go back to Chicago with my husband/brother.

After 3 mons, I am absolutely confused about what to do. Even though we have only been married for 2 years, we have been together for almost 5. I can't imagine my life without him. However, I get sick to my stomach when I think about the fact that I have been sleeping with my brother for so long. I know deep down it isn't really our fault. I mean we did everything right.

I know the obvious thing to do is divorce him. But that is easier said than done. I am not torn between divorce and my religious beliefs because we got married under false pretenses. My problem is, I am torn between doing the obvious thing and dealing with all these emotions at the same time. Please tell me what to do. I don't think I have anymore tears left to cry.

I'd stay married since I already KNOW him. and adopt if children are desired.

Yeah, that shit ain't gonna work out.

JuliePurplehead said:

So, what would you do?

paintedlady said:

Would you REALLY??? Damn.

This shit could not possibly be real. No one in FIVE years mentioned their faither's name to the other?

This shit could not possibly be real. No one in FIVE years mentioned their faither's name to the other?

Stymie said:

I'm not saying it couldn't possibly be fake but this does happen. Wasn't there a story earlier this year about a brother and sister in England that married but didn't know they were related.
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What did Harvey say anyway? I'm dying to know.

morningsong said:

he said: 'imma ack like some old people, nyuk nyuk nyuk.'

thats cool

its not like they knowingly chose to fuck their brother/sister.

many royal blood lines were insectuous, i dont see what the problem is on this rare occasion other than outsider peoples fears and prejudices inflicting doubts about the legitimacy of their relationship.
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Stymie said:

Both children knew their dad.... no pictures? Doesn't add up.
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Stymie said:

Both children knew their dad.... no pictures? Doesn't add up.
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horatio said:

Since they now know, shouldn't they stop?

Stymie said:

i dont think so

paintedlady said:

I know my father but I don't have pics of him. And I was in a relationship with a guy for three years and my father's name never came up. I can TOTALLY see this happening. My Papa Was a Rolling Stone. . .

SCNDLS said:

Its too late... this is why it is important to let all your children know who their daddies are, so that all possible siblings are known. Many women that keep secrets and lie about paternity, put their children in these situations.

I wasn't raised by my father. This is one of the reasons why I don't do Rican men... while dancing at a wedding, I liked a guy I never met. We danced and laughed, then my aunt walks up as we are about to kiss, "Oh, that's your cousin on your father's side"

They been fucking for five years... let them stay together and keep that knowledge "in the family".