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Thread started 08/23/08 5:51pm

questionofu

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Looking for a shoulder ...

....to cry on! sad I just ended my marriage after 19 years. I am so beside myself I honestly don't know what to do next. I've been with the org since forever, mostly lurking, posting here and there. I've been here since the get go ... I feel like I have no where else to turn. I don't know any of you, yet I know all of you. I am simply looking for advice from those that have been in the same situation. If you don't have advice, have a drink with me, keep me company tonight, help me stay sane! lol This is so very hard, and it's just not me not to know what to do, I know there is no right and wrong on how to handle this, but at this point I'll take any and all advice you can give.
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Reply #1 posted 08/23/08 5:55pm

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I'm in the chat if you wanna talk hug
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Reply #2 posted 08/23/08 5:56pm

ZombieKitten

oh no! cry
you poor thing hug
I think there are lots of orgers who have been through similar things who can sympathise with you.
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Reply #3 posted 08/23/08 5:57pm

hokie

I just got out of an almost 13 year marriage. hug


I understand how you are feeling.


Some days are still hard. The best advice I can give you is take it one day at a time and allow yourself....give yourself permission to feel what you feel.

Let it out and if possible seek out a support group or go to therapy.


rose
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Reply #4 posted 08/23/08 6:02pm

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questionofu said:

....to cry on! sad I just ended my marriage after 19 years. I am so beside myself I honestly don't know what to do next. I've been with the org since forever, mostly lurking, posting here and there. I've been here since the get go ... I feel like I have no where else to turn. I don't know any of you, yet I know all of you. I am simply looking for advice from those that have been in the same situation. If you don't have advice, have a drink with me, keep me company tonight, help me stay sane! lol This is so very hard, and it's just not me not to know what to do, I know there is no right and wrong on how to handle this, but at this point I'll take any and all advice you can give.



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Reply #5 posted 08/23/08 6:04pm

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This happened to me... I got very drunk and very depressed.

...I know now I shouldn't have let that happen, but seen it as a new beginning and a fresh way forward... The memories will hurt for sometime... but there is always a positive and better way foreward rose


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Reply #6 posted 08/23/08 6:06pm

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Thank you all .. it is just so very hard, I'm not getting drunk, got the kiddies in da house, just trying a little to ease the pain
The only LOVE there is, IS the LOVE WE MAKE ~ Prince
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Reply #7 posted 08/23/08 7:53pm

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Never been married before, so I don't really have any constructive advice to give. A hug will have to do.
RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you.
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Reply #8 posted 08/23/08 7:56pm

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psychodelicide said:

Never been married before, so I don't really have any constructive advice to give. A hug will have to do.


Thank You for the hug! Believe me, that's appreciated too .. funny how you have family and friends, yet I'm on here pouring out my soul! The org is the greatest!
hug
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Reply #9 posted 08/23/08 7:59pm

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Yeah, don't worry, we've got your back. hug

It'll get easier in time. Just do everything you can to get through this bit right here and keep yourself going. You can get yourself together in a little bit and things will be alright.
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Reply #10 posted 08/23/08 8:00pm

Muse2NOPharaoh

You are going to be ok. hug Did the same after 15 years of marriage 7 years ago.
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Reply #11 posted 08/23/08 8:02pm

questionofu

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NoodleSoup said:

Yeah, don't worry, we've got your back. hug

It'll get easier in time. Just do everything you can to get through this bit right here and keep yourself going. You can get yourself together in a little bit and things will be alright.


Thank you .. shoulda used your sig as advice lmao!!!
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Reply #12 posted 08/23/08 8:02pm

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questionofu said:

....to cry on! sad I just ended my marriage after 19 years. I am so beside myself I honestly don't know what to do next. I've been with the org since forever, mostly lurking, posting here and there. I've been here since the get go ... I feel like I have no where else to turn. I don't know any of you, yet I know all of you. I am simply looking for advice from those that have been in the same situation. If you don't have advice, have a drink with me, keep me company tonight, help me stay sane! lol This is so very hard, and it's just not me not to know what to do, I know there is no right and wrong on how to handle this, but at this point I'll take any and all advice you can give.

I'm ending my marriage of 37 years. It's never easy but when you get to the other side of it I hope you find all of the dreams you haven't yet fulfilled. Hug your children and love yourself. Walk with grace and peace as much as possible. Post more! Seriously ~ there are some amazing people here who will help you through this. hug rose, n
Music is the language of the spirit. It opens the secret of life bringing peace, abolishing strife. --Kahlil Gibran
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Reply #13 posted 08/23/08 8:04pm

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Muse2NOPharaoh said:

You are going to be ok. hug Did the same after 15 years of marriage 7 years ago.


thanks for the hug Muse .. how long did it take for you to be "okay?" 2night is the first night, it just seems so "hard" which way to go, what to do, am I maiking the right decision? Uggh, I hate to be so not in control .. but I know I gotta do it, it just hurts so very bad...
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Reply #14 posted 08/23/08 8:06pm

Muse2NOPharaoh

questionofu said:

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

You are going to be ok. hug Did the same after 15 years of marriage 7 years ago.


thanks for the hug Muse .. how long did it take for you to be "okay?" 2night is the first night, it just seems so "hard" which way to go, what to do, am I maiking the right decision? Uggh, I hate to be so not in control .. but I know I gotta do it, it just hurts so very bad...

Orgnote...
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Reply #15 posted 08/23/08 8:10pm

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MoonSongs said:

questionofu said:

....to cry on! sad I just ended my marriage after 19 years. I am so beside myself I honestly don't know what to do next. I've been with the org since forever, mostly lurking, posting here and there. I've been here since the get go ... I feel like I have no where else to turn. I don't know any of you, yet I know all of you. I am simply looking for advice from those that have been in the same situation. If you don't have advice, have a drink with me, keep me company tonight, help me stay sane! lol This is so very hard, and it's just not me not to know what to do, I know there is no right and wrong on how to handle this, but at this point I'll take any and all advice you can give.

I'm ending my marriage of 37 years. It's never easy but when you get to the other side of it I hope you find all of the dreams you haven't yet fulfilled. Hug your children and love yourself. Walk with grace and peace as much as possible. Post more! Seriously ~ there are some amazing people here who will help you through this. hug rose, n


thanks for your advice Moon, you are right, I've been here forever, reading everyone's posts and threads, never commenting, but seriously taking it all in, I have friends and family, but I have turned to the org in my time of need, and here you all are with encouraging words, and words of experience and wisdom, you all are appreciated more than you know, and believe me when I say, you are all keeping me sane tonight, and for that I appreciate you all, you are family, just as my real family are ...
The only LOVE there is, IS the LOVE WE MAKE ~ Prince
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Reply #16 posted 08/23/08 8:11pm

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MoonSongs said:

questionofu said:

....to cry on! sad I just ended my marriage after 19 years. I am so beside myself I honestly don't know what to do next. I've been with the org since forever, mostly lurking, posting here and there. I've been here since the get go ... I feel like I have no where else to turn. I don't know any of you, yet I know all of you. I am simply looking for advice from those that have been in the same situation. If you don't have advice, have a drink with me, keep me company tonight, help me stay sane! lol This is so very hard, and it's just not me not to know what to do, I know there is no right and wrong on how to handle this, but at this point I'll take any and all advice you can give.

I'm ending my marriage of 37 years. It's never easy but when you get to the other side of it I hope you find all of the dreams you haven't yet fulfilled. Hug your children and love yourself. Walk with grace and peace as much as possible. Post more! Seriously ~ there are some amazing people here who will help you through this. hug rose, n


thanks for your advice Moon, you are right, I've been here forever, reading everyone's posts and threads, never commenting, but seriously taking it all in, I have friends and family, but I have turned to the org in my time of need, and here you all are with encouraging words, and words of experience and wisdom, you all are appreciated more than you know, and believe me when I say, you are all keeping me sane tonight, and for that I appreciate you all, you are family, just as my real family are ...
The only LOVE there is, IS the LOVE WE MAKE ~ Prince
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Reply #17 posted 08/23/08 8:12pm

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oopsie .. didn't mean to double post .. enjoying the drinkie too much razz
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Reply #18 posted 08/23/08 8:37pm

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blessings to you!!!! comfort
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Reply #19 posted 08/23/08 8:45pm

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An extra hug for you.
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Reply #20 posted 08/23/08 8:46pm

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questionofu said:

....to cry on! sad I just ended my marriage after 19 years. I am so beside myself I honestly don't know what to do next. I've been with the org since forever, mostly lurking, posting here and there. I've been here since the get go ... I feel like I have no where else to turn. I don't know any of you, yet I know all of you. I am simply looking for advice from those that have been in the same situation. If you don't have advice, have a drink with me, keep me company tonight, help me stay sane! lol This is so very hard, and it's just not me not to know what to do, I know there is no right and wrong on how to handle this, but at this point I'll take any and all advice you can give.


I just wanted to say that I am so sorry. hug You are in my prayers. pray
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Reply #21 posted 08/23/08 8:51pm

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I hope you're coping alright
I'm so sorry! rose

but use this time to find yourself and pplan your next move in life
think of it as the end of one chapter and the begining of a new and exciting one hug
If you will, so will I
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Reply #22 posted 08/24/08 4:42am

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questionofu said:

psychodelicide said:

Never been married before, so I don't really have any constructive advice to give. A hug will have to do.


Thank You for the hug! Believe me, that's appreciated too .. funny how you have family and friends, yet I'm on here pouring out my soul! The org is the greatest!
hug


nod There are some really great people on this website, most definitely.
RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you.
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Reply #23 posted 08/24/08 6:11am

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Thank you so very much to all who hung out with me last night. It's a crap morning, but I'm here to go through another day. The org is awesome. I truly appreciate everyone's words, and even though I may not know you on a personal level, you have all helped me in a tremendous way. hug
The only LOVE there is, IS the LOVE WE MAKE ~ Prince
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Reply #24 posted 08/24/08 6:15am

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questionofu said:

Thank you so very much to all who hung out with me last night. It's a crap morning, but I'm here to go through another day. The org is awesome. I truly appreciate everyone's words, and even though I may not know you on a personal level, you have all helped me in a tremendous way. hug


Just remind yourself that "this is the worst part." The time immediately following the breakup is the very worst, and it does get better. Do whatever you can to cope in the meantime.

It sounds like it was a decision that had to be made, and it doesn't sound easy. hug
CHICKENS ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO DO COCAINE, SILKY HEN.
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Reply #25 posted 08/24/08 8:55am

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Been there, hug

I was a little different, more happy and relieved than sad because I was free to do some things I'd always wanted to do such as travel, read and write more. My sons were a great comfort too.

Remember...every door that closes, another one opens.

I wish you a bright and happy future... heart
Prince, in you I found a kindred spirit...Rest In Paradise.
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