Okaaay lol....

Here's the thing: you can't "know" you could "get it" without the experience of actually getting it...It's like you can't "know" you're generous without actually experiencing the act of being generous. Otherwise it's all vague concepts.

That means the pleasure and intensity of the physical act of "getting it" is what drives and supports whatever pleasures you get from just knowing you could get it...like I said earlier, one leads to the other. In that regard, the physical act of "getting it" HAS to be more pleasureable than just knowing you "could" get it. It can't be the equal of the physical act, either. The pleasure of the physical has to be such that it drives the desire to experience it again, which is the "knowing" part you're talking about...and that can only realistically happen if the physical out-pleasures the concept of knowing you "could" have the physical. Sometimes "knowing" is enough, but that doesn't mean it's equal.

So the way I see it, just the "knowing" by itself that you could get it, without the physical act OF getting it connected to it, would be far less pleasurable...physically, mentally, spirutially, metaphysically, and all other "allys" I didn't mention yet lol...because it would only remain a concept.

granted, knowledge of your own desirability can enhance sex...but, hypothetically speaking, is the pleasure you receive from either one really that different in intensity?

(we're talking strictly metaphysically here, not what your body can feel)

Andy Warhol said “The most exciting attractions are between two opposites that never meet.”

I think there’s something to be said for an attraction that never gets to be fulfilled. Tension and build up and fantasy and whatnot. It’s utterly safe and can be very exciting.

I agree

But it also can be totally sad and heart-breaking.

I agree

But it also can be totally sad and heart-breaking.

But it also can be totally sad and heart-breaking.

Don't be scared. So is Ricky Martin.

Well, this rebuttal comes as no surprise. Both sides of the table are definitely intriguing and deeply perceptive on these parts. I feel ignorant about this subject as a whole, though. Sad thing about that fact is.....I've envisioned and contemplated without the full-on act of intercourse intervening the mental state. Even as volatile as I am, I often tend to ingest these thoughts within my cerebral and indulge on the vain quite a bit. Shit, I type too much! Sorry, fellas. Hope that wasn't too intervening.

But something that never was usually isn't as bad as something you had and lost.

gawd! I wanna have a 3some with Ricky Martin and his manslut

That may be true in most cases. But if you have feelings for a person it can be just as heart-breaking, at least for me. And something you could have had and didn't go for it can be as sad as losing something you had.

RE: 'KNOWING you could "Get it" is just as good as GETTIN IT....{?NSFW?}'


Yay. I concur.

Can someone please tell me in plain english and in two sentences what this thread is about?