....to cry on! I just ended my marriage after 19 years. I am so beside myself I honestly don't know what to do next. I've been with the org since forever, mostly lurking, posting here and there. I've been here since the get go ... I feel like I have no where else to turn. I don't know any of you, yet I know all of you. I am simply looking for advice from those that have been in the same situation. If you don't have advice, have a drink with me, keep me company tonight, help me stay sane! This is so very hard, and it's just not me not to know what to do, I know there is no right and wrong on how to handle this, but at this point I'll take any and all advice you can give.

I'm in the chat if you wanna talk

oh no!
you poor thing
I think there are lots of orgers who have been through similar things who can sympathise with you.

I just got out of an almost 13 year marriage.


I understand how you are feeling.


Some days are still hard. The best advice I can give you is take it one day at a time and allow yourself....give yourself permission to feel what you feel.

Let it out and if possible seek out a support group or go to therapy.

questionofu said:

Thank you all .. it is just so very hard, I'm not getting drunk, got the kiddies in da house, just trying a little to ease the pain

Never been married before, so I don't really have any constructive advice to give. A will have to do.

psychodelicide said:

Thank You for the hug! Believe me, that's appreciated too .. funny how you have family and friends, yet I'm on here pouring out my soul! The org is the greatest!

Yeah, don't worry, we've got your back.

It'll get easier in time. Just do everything you can to get through this bit right here and keep yourself going. You can get yourself together in a little bit and things will be alright.

You are going to be ok. Did the same after 15 years of marriage 7 years ago.

NoodleSoup said:

Thank you .. shoulda used your sig as advice lmao!!!

questionofu said:

I'm ending my marriage of 37 years. It's never easy but when you get to the other side of it I hope you find all of the dreams you haven't yet fulfilled. Hug your children and love yourself. Walk with grace and peace as much as possible. Post more! Seriously ~ there are some amazing people here who will help you through this. , n

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

thanks for the hug Muse .. how long did it take for you to be "okay?" 2night is the first night, it just seems so "hard" which way to go, what to do, am I maiking the right decision? Uggh, I hate to be so not in control .. but I know I gotta do it, it just hurts so very bad...

questionofu said:

Orgnote...

MoonSongs said:

thanks for your advice Moon, you are right, I've been here forever, reading everyone's posts and threads, never commenting, but seriously taking it all in, I have friends and family, but I have turned to the org in my time of need, and here you all are with encouraging words, and words of experience and wisdom, you all are appreciated more than you know, and believe me when I say, you are all keeping me sane tonight, and for that I appreciate you all, you are family, just as my real family are ...

MoonSongs said:

thanks for your advice Moon, you are right, I've been here forever, reading everyone's posts and threads, never commenting, but seriously taking it all in, I have friends and family, but I have turned to the org in my time of need, and here you all are with encouraging words, and words of experience and wisdom, you all are appreciated more than you know, and believe me when I say, you are all keeping me sane tonight, and for that I appreciate you all, you are family, just as my real family are ...

oopsie .. didn't mean to double post .. enjoying the drinkie too much

blessings to you!!!!

An extra for you.

questionofu said:

I just wanted to say that I am so sorry. You are in my prayers.

I hope you're coping alright
I'm so sorry!

but use this time to find yourself and pplan your next move in life
think of it as the end of one chapter and the begining of a new and exciting one

questionofu said:

There are some really great people on this website, most definitely.

Thank you so very much to all who hung out with me last night. It's a crap morning, but I'm here to go through another day. The org is awesome. I truly appreciate everyone's words, and even though I may not know you on a personal level, you have all helped me in a tremendous way.

questionofu said:

Just remind yourself that "this is the worst part." The time immediately following the breakup is the very worst, and it does get better. Do whatever you can to cope in the meantime.

It sounds like it was a decision that had to be made, and it doesn't sound easy.

Been there,

I was a little different, more happy and relieved than sad because I was free to do some things I'd always wanted to do such as travel, read and write more. My sons were a great comfort too.

Remember...every door that closes, another one opens.

I wish you a bright and happy future...