Sowhat said:

That other thread was far worse than this thread. Bitches get CRAZY when you talk about Prince. C-R-A-Z-Y.

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Okay, ya'll tripping. Where are the black women? Because a black woman would fuck some shit up. Well, hell my friend is white and she would fuck my shit up...so scratch that.

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NDRU said:

AlienX2050 said:

oh my god, i can't wait for stymie to respond to this.

AlienX2050 said:

Black woman here. Sorry to keep busting up your stereotypes.

I have never fought for or over a man and I never will. I don't trust most men enough to think they won't cheat anyway.

Stymie said:

How did I know you were going to say this.

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Anxiety said:

As much as I love you sarcasm.... ofcourse I understand... I am a pretty smart guy.....my response is by no means meant to invalidate anyone else's response anx... it just seems a more "intense" outward response would be warranted in this specific instance....that's all I meant... I would hope that any of my people (and that means most of you here) my friends and loved ones would let it out is all.... I wouldn't want any of my people feeling victimized in any way...

Imago said:

There are "other" pics from this day that show more... you're gonna have to ask for her blessing first....

Imago said:

pardonme4livin said:

and i can see that you don't "get" some of the responses on this thread because their reactions don't pack the (literal) punch that yours would. and yeah, sometimes it's hard to understand how people wouldn't react in a certain way in a certain situation. but i guess, i dunno, my reaction would be a lot like carrie's or stymie's and i'm a guy. it doesn't mean that i would be passive or that i would go sit in a corner and be all emo and shit. i'd be livid. but i have a different way of expressing my anger and rage. it works for me. probably wouldn't work so well for you. but again...we're two separate people, aren't we?

if i need to let someone know how much they hurt me...if i want to bounce some of that pain back on them for whatever reason...believe me, i know how to do that in ways that would make them WISH all i did was beat the crap out of them or post naked pictures of them to their parents. sometimes the most painful thing you can do is hold a mirror up to them, and once you know they've had a good look, just walk the hell away from them. i know that sounds euphemistic and hoity-toity, but like i've been saying throughout this thread...a person's conscience can be their worst tormentor. if i'm going to a dark enough place that i want someone to hurt, i want to make sure it means something deeper than physical pain or humiliation. i want them to UNDERSTAND what they did and live with it. that fucking hurts.

I wouldn't do anything

pardonme4livin said:

But why wouldn't you want them to feel victimized? They were. Someone they've placed all their trust in and love has betrayed them in possibly the worst way someone can be betrayed. Of course you're going to feel victimized. And horribly sad. And according to some people (on this very site even) hey - it's probably at least partly my fault that person did that to me (which I think is utter bullshit, PS). But turning it back on them and making someone else a victim of violence isn't going to change what happened. And frankly, would only make me feel worse.

I reckon I would puke

there is something as bad as walking in on my parents about that

ZombieKitten said:

That would certainly spoil their mood!

First of all, I would NEVER fight over no man. I have been married for a very long time now, and if he would ever do some shit like this, my ideal reasponse would be this.


1. Walk away silently without letting my presence be known

2. Leave the front door open so he would guess I'd been there and can spend time sweating--wondering what the fuck I'm up to

3. Let the air out of at least one of his and one of her tires on my way out (to slow them down)

4. Empty all bank accounts except for $10 while he gets air for his tires

5. After I know he has gone to the station to get air, enter the house, put his shit that I dont want on the side porch, call a locksmith and set up an appointment

6. When he returns and tries to enter, I would tell him he doesn't live here anymore, and to please leave the premises. If he tried to open the front door through the chains, I'll call 911 because he's forcibly entering. Anyway, when they arrive, by then I'd have knocked him the fuck out if he didn't smarten up and drive away like I would hav asked him to because no way his ass would be in the same house with me after some shit like that

7 Get a restraining order if he starts that begging, emailing, calling and sending flowers shit. I wouldnt be open to an apology or explanation and would have asked him to leave me alone, I dont want to hear shit. Just want him gone.
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NDRU said:

the sensible thing would be take the kids to my mother's, but she lives too far away, so I would have to insist HE go home to his mother.

I guess it would depend who it is too I just can't imagine it!

StillGotIt said:

I think you also need to leave some prawns in his car somewhere in an inaccessible crevice, and sew them into his curtain hems

ZombieKitten said:

what if it was Ocean?

NDRU said:

then I shall no longer be returning her texts

ZombieKitten said:

and cut one sleeve off of every shirt/Jacket before I put his stuff on the porch!

StillGotIt said:

When I was with my first boyfriend, I had a dream that I walked in on him and someone having sex in our bedroom. I was so shocked in the dream that I instantly woke up out of it and I slammed my boyfriend on the chest. It was totally knee jerk and something I had no control over. It was like a reflex. Woke up and hit.

So he is all startled and I realized that I actually hit him and I felt bad about it because I realized it was a dream and didn't happen so I just closed my eyes and started thrashing and mumbling wildly. He shook me:

Babe, babe. You're having a bad dream

where am I, OMG what's happening (still flinching)

you had a bad dream!

I then went to bed. 2 years after I broke up with him my best friend came to me and confessed that he and my boyfriend had been hooking up on his days off at our apartment while I was at work So it was happening and I knew it in my sleep. In waking life I would not hit someone who cheated on me, I would just leave. Hysterical, freaking out and in tears, but I wouldn't get physical. But I have to admit, I'm glad I socked him up

ZombieKitten said:

.....hmmmmm...after i tuck the prawns under the dashboard and into the cracks of the seats, maybe I should also conveniently pour some milk under the front seats of the car. That sour milk shit never goes away.....

Hmmmm, this is ironic being that I have a friend that this happened to a little less than a year ago. He came home from work really early and he said his wife and this dude was full on fucking on the floor right in the middle of the living room. He said that they didn't even hear him open the door and come in. He said the dude, who was on his back, was the one to first see him standing there. He said he just stood there, stunned and then turned and walked out. He said by the time he was walking to his car, he saw a neighbor across the street. The neighbor waved and asked how he was doing. He said when his neighbor asked that, he snapped. He turned right back around and went back in the house. He beat the shit out of this dude. I mean,...he fucked this cat up. BAD. His wife was hollering and shit telling her husband to stop. Folks on the street heard it cuz a few of them called the police. They took my friend down but they let him go and the other cat who got fucked up, wouldn't press charges. Word was he was scared to. My friend told me that while he was at the station, the cops told him, off the record, they would have done the same thing. So they let him bounce. They have 2 kids, 8 and 5. They seperated after that and now their getting a divorce. I've known this cat for years and I've never seen him like he is now. He said he wants to get back with her but he said he can't forgive her.

blackguitaristz said:

So he caught her full on fucking someone else that he beat the shit out of and he wants her back?

how fucked is it that cops are saying they'd do the same thing?

blackguitaristz said:

After it first happened, he would talk about it all the time. The dude that he caught with his wife, he put him in the hospital, he whooped his ass that bad. His two sisters wanted to jump on his wife..It was bad. He wouldn't let them because of their kids. But when he would talk to me about it, he would ask me what would I have done? If he was wrong for doing that..I told him straight out that I would have done the same thing. He said that if his wife wasn't all over him, trying to stop him and if the police hadn't shown up when they did, he said he believed he would have killed that dude. And then his life would have been ruined..his kids would have lost their father, the whole 9.

Stymie said:

Well, all the times he would tell me that he still loved her, I would think to myself "Whaaat?..Fuck that shit... Hell nah" Me, there is no way in hell I would have wanted her back. But that's me. I'm not standing in this cat's shoes though. He has two kids with her plus I know he was and still is in love with her. He adored his wife. He adored being married. He was a straight family man. I couldn't relate to him in that way cuz I never wanted to get married. I'm single till the end. But I respected his happiness and thought it was beautiful for him, what he had. And then this shit went down and it was all over for him.

blackguitaristz said:

Did the dude know the whore was married?

I know exactly what I would do.

I would say, "Nice" sarcastically and then leave.

I'd be pretty upset though...I'm just not one to make a huge scene.