relationship-wise.


broad topic, i know, but i'm interested in seeing what everyone else has to say, especially those who have been happy with their partner for a long time.

how do you know when your in a good spot?


mind you, i'm not asking how do you know if he/she's the one...just how you know when you've got it pretty good





if your posting and your currently in a relationship or marriage, please post how long you've been with who you've been with

I have been with Michael for 23 yrs - married almost 20


#1 - he was an still is my very best friend

#2 - I am reminded often how good( whatever that really means :lol ) we are when I catch myself still finding reasons to love him deeper

#3 - Our children are well adjusted and very happy - that speaks volumes

So i dunno if that helped you any or not

Mach said:

i officially love you. ...i thought it was rather interesting how my pornography/children thread got more attention.


thanks!

SirPsycho said:

I officially love her too!

How so I know when I've got something good? I don't know, never really had it I sure as hell know when I don't have it good though

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SirPsycho said:

I love you too

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I love you too

SirPsycho said:

Why not accept that it is good and work from there?
By definition if you are always questioning it it can't be good.
If you accept that you have good that can become great, then you don't have to ask.

SUPRMAN said:

easy there cube.

i was just curious to see what people what say...i have choice but to accept what is and move foward obviously and i do so.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

does it really suck that much, you remind me more and more of my boy from school

SirPsycho said:

Is it Friday yet?

I think a really good way of knowing is that you want to cultivate the relationship whether it be in the good times or the bad. That desire to give it your best is usually brought out by someone good. Hopefully it is Maybe this isn't true though cuz I've gone the distance for guys who ultimately didn't give a shit.

I think I'll leave this thread to the experts

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

That is why I did not bother commenting though I am very happy and have something good.
I am the other half of an org relationship so I must be

In all honestly, I have learned that some of us just take longer to find that something good. That is ok because it is quality, not quantity that counts.
I know that after you have been through crap in your life, then you do find YOUR something good, you will cherish and appreciate it so much more. Well, I do anyways, we all know that I am not an expert but I speak from my heart.

I know I have something good because it is 50-50 finally. I am not in this alone. I have someone who will talk all night long if that is what I need.
I know some will say, well it is because you are newlyweds, maybe so. Though I must say that we met in Nov 2006 and had to communicate and rely on one another from 5000 miles away until last Sept. I could go on for days about all of the good things I get from our relationship but that is not necessary.
Considering the struggles we have had, I know that we have something good.
It is something you just know when you have it.

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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Zero such thing my friend

know it alls perhaps

Even the so called educated "Experts" are full of bullshit now and then


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