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PrintableSCNDLS said: Tremolina said: That's true, but chances that he will cheat decrease when he is truly "in love". You know, all that serotine, dopamine and endorphines rushing through his body when he sees HER. 
You are right tho', it's not a guarantee. Hmmmmm, I don't agree that that will keep a man from cheating but okay, cuz most men that cheat say they love still love their wives and don't want a divorce. On the other hand, I think that women that cheat do so after the love is gone or they want payback.  There is no guarantee he won't cheat, but neither is there with women. To be clear, I'm talking about that crazy feeling called "being in love", not "loving" somebody, like you could love your wife after 20 years of marriage but not sleep with her anymore. One thing is for sure, when a man is in love with a woman, he will definitely want to do her as much and as good as he possibly can. Well, a good man that is. | |
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Tremolina said: ZombieKitten said: tell me more about the last one, I don't know why I like the sound of that one so much  Having an "open" relationship depends on your defintion and the rules you agree upon. When you are clear from the beginning and in agreement that that's what it is, you will still have to be able to bare the thought of your partner sleeping with somebody else, which can get worse when you actually know that they have and with whom. In order to not fall into the usual patern of blaming and hating your partner for doing that, you will have to be sure that you actually, truly are "OK" with that. Being "in love" can make that jump a lot harder to make. But when you are not so in love but more physically attracted and very fine with the idea that you and s/he can "cheat"it can be a great relief. No more stress about these issues, which could actually lead to a very stable relationship. But I don't think that happens a lot. It's a pretty hard one for most people. what about for a couple long past their in love phase? I don't trust myself to be honest, I'd be going and falling in love with the first person I fuck 
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ZombieKitten said: Tremolina said: Having an "open" relationship depends on your defintion and the rules you agree upon. When you are clear from the beginning and in agreement that that's what it is, you will still have to be able to bare the thought of your partner sleeping with somebody else, which can get worse when you actually know that they have and with whom. In order to not fall into the usual patern of blaming and hating your partner for doing that, you will have to be sure that you actually, truly are "OK" with that. Being "in love" can make that jump a lot harder to make. But when you are not so in love but more physically attracted and very fine with the idea that you and s/he can "cheat"it can be a great relief. No more stress about these issues, which could actually lead to a very stable relationship. But I don't think that happens a lot. It's a pretty hard one for most people. what about for a couple long past their in love phase? I don't trust myself to be honest, I'd be going and falling in love with the first person I fuck
That's one of the risks you take in an open relationship. A couple really needs to be on the same level, be honest with eachother and want the same things in order for it to work out like that. | |
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Tremolina said: ZombieKitten said: what about for a couple long past their in love phase? I don't trust myself to be honest, I'd be going and falling in love with the first person I fuck
That's one of the risks you take in an open relationship. A couple really needs to be on the same level, be honest with eachother and want the same things in order for it to work out like that. bummer  | |
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ZombieKitten said: Tremolina said: That's one of the risks you take in an open relationship. A couple really needs to be on the same level, be honest with eachother and want the same things in order for it to work out like that. bummer I know, it's a tough one. | |
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Tremolina said: ZombieKitten said: you've tried most combinations so, which did you like best? The best were the first and the last. so the 'honest' relationships were the best. | |
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angelcat said: Tremolina said: The best were the first and the last. so the 'honest' relationships were the best. Imagine that  | |
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Mach said: angelcat said: so the 'honest' relationships were the best. Imagine that there is hope yet. | |
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angelcat said: Tremolina said: The best were the first and the last. so the 'honest' relationships were the best. Yup, definitely. | |
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SCNDLS said: Tremolina said: That's true, but chances that he will cheat decrease when he is truly "in love". You know, all that serotine, dopamine and endorphines rushing through his body when he sees HER.
You are right tho', it's not a guarantee. Hmmmmm, I don't agree that that will keep a man from cheating but okay, cuz most men that cheat say they love still love their wives and don't want a divorce. On the other hand, I think that women that cheat do so after the love is gone or they want payback. | |
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Stymie said: SCNDLS said: Hmmmmm, I don't agree that that will keep a man from cheating but okay, cuz most men that cheat say they love still love their wives and don't want a divorce. On the other hand, I think that women that cheat do so after the love is gone or they want payback. men do that too.
and some women cheat for other reasons as well. | |
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Tremolina said: Stymie said: Bingo!!!
men do that too.
and some women cheat for other reasons as well. | |
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Stymie said: Tremolina said: men do that too.
and some women cheat for other reasons as well. I know one who did... just saying. As for me - the reason for cheating really doesn't matter. Cheating is cheating, period. |
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Stymie said: Tremolina said: men do that too.
and some women cheat for other reasons as well. I know a man who did that. But you are right that women do that more. Men think with their dicks, women with their hearts, or so they say... :; | |
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Mach said: Sowhat said: So you are saying what....you haven't been faithful...????? (Proper punctuation goes a long way in communicating)  
Don't come up in here trying to tell me how to express myself and shit   "Always blessings, never losses......"
Ya te dije....no manches guey!!!!!  I'm a guy!!!!
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CarrieMpls said: Stymie said: i don't know a single man that cheated to get payback but I know plenty of women who have. Women also cheat because they want attention...from the man that's probably out cheating.
I know one who did... just saying. As for me - the reason for cheating really doesn't matter. Cheating is cheating, period. | |
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Sowhat said: Mach said:
Don't come up in here trying to tell me how to express myself and shit
sowhat ? | |
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Mach said: Sowhat said:
sowhat ? I just wanted clarification. I mean you are the one who wrote "I am not Going on 23 yrs of being Faithful and it's grand" 
(I know, I can be annoying at times )"Always blessings, never losses......"
Ya te dije....no manches guey!!!!! I'm a guy!!!!
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ZombieKitten said: Tremolina said: I don't think so. Plenty of guys hate to admit it tho'. Think that makes them look weak, wanna be a playa and shit. Some even deny their feelings because of that. silly men  they don't know how attractive it makes them  I beg to differ... A working class Hero is something to be ~ Lennon |
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moderatorAlej said: MIGUELGOMEZ said: I have cheated. Yes it was wrong. I told my boyfriend at the time and broke up with him at the same time.
Did you cheat on him because you didn't want to be with him anymore?  Yeah, but you know what? I should've broken up with him before. I kinda went out really mad, and the opportunity arose. I was like 19 years old when that happened. I hate to say it but that sex was goooood!!!!! MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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RenHoek said: ZombieKitten said: silly men they don't know how attractive it makes them I beg to differ... I agree. It's very unattractive in any way.
"Sign of the times, will mess with your mind. Hurry before it's too late." Prince "Sign of the times, will mess with your mind. Hurry before it's too late." Prince | |
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paisley43 said: RenHoek said: I beg to differ... I agree. It's very unattractive in any way.
"Sign of the times, will mess with your mind. Hurry before it's too late." Prince I think you missed the point.....  | |
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paisley43 said: RenHoek said: I beg to differ... I agree. It's very unattractive in any way.
"Sign of the times, will mess with your mind. Hurry before it's too late." Prince Wait, lemme get this straight... You find that when a man is in love with a woman there is NO beauty to be found in that? Really??? A working class Hero is something to be ~ Lennon |
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MIGUELGOMEZ said: Alej said: Did you cheat on him because you didn't want to be with him anymore? Yeah, but you know what? I should've broken up with him before. I kinda went out really mad, and the opportunity arose. I was like 19 years old when that happened. I hate to say it but that sex was goooood!!!!! amazing | |
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mdiver said: paisley43 said: I agree. It's very unattractive in any way.
"Sign of the times, will mess with your mind. Hurry before it's too late." Prince I think you missed the point..... Very rarely do I miss the point - thank you, you did. and to RenHoek-If you'll actually READ my post, I nowhere said that "a man being in love with a woman wasn't a beautiful thing." My philosophy is if he's sleeping with someone different all the time (and this goes for anyone- for that matter), THAT is what I find unattractive. I feel anyone who is "in love" with someone is a "beautiful thing" and I think both sexes should be faithful. Thanks. [Edited 8/8/08 13:06pm] [Edited 8/8/08 13:08pm] [Edited 8/8/08 13:09pm] [Edited 8/10/08 18:06pm] "Sign of the times, will mess with your mind. Hurry before it's too late." Prince | |
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AlienX2050 said: .
I'm going to say this and it's something that I wouldn't say before. There's nothing better than being faithful to the one you love. There were times when I screwed up some shit. Didn't have much to care for but I did. And for those of you who are in a relationship and have this urge to get with someone else...  I would rethink it unless you're sure your relationship is over. Quit it before you start some shitty love affair.
Being faithful goes many ways and a long way...just don't be a jackass and fuck up something. And no, 2 wrongs don't make shit right and revenge never pays off...assholes.
Are you faithful? . ..if i care about him, and im 'in love' with him and im totally content with everything about him..... yes, im quite faithful ... i have no reason to look anywhere else.... i dont care how fine other men are, my heart sticks to one .. | |
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