I'm eliminating the temptation by steering clear of relationships. Although, I have to say that I cheated once and thought it was soooo not worth it. Too much telling lies to cover lies. Worrying about whether you can go here for fear of running into somebody she knows. Uh-uh.... That's just not me at all....

i guess all that depends on what the crowd thinks is acceptable

its fun to do the popular/acceptable things

If you are grown and mature you can simply state you are not happy and ready to do something/someone else. It's all about communication, no one could and should fault you for that. The key IS not letting your partner be the last to know; but most folks want to get away with it....Why I will never understand, when honesty is the easiest way.

I'd never dream of cheating on anyone I was serious about. And that includes even allowing feelings to develop, even if nothing physical were to happen. It's just completely impossible for me to undertsand. But at the moment, I'm completely 180 degrees from being able to be faithful to anyone or even wanting anything even approaching serious with anyone, so bring it on

CarrieLee said:

I did as well...with my ex. He was a selfish baby biatch. He was in one of them brooding emotional states so he didn't come out of his house for like weeks and would not come see me. And wouldn't let me see him. Much more to the story too...

But I called him...the dick in the glass jar. The one Chris Rock says you break in case of emergency. Gave him a call and he was over in 45 min.

It. was. so. good. Then I woke the next morning not regretful....angrier at my big baby of a man. We split up two months later...and guess who I called to help me get over a lonely night? .....

I am.

I've dated at least one woman who wasn't... I don't think...

Today's a real hard day. I found out that my two best friends here in Tennessee are separated because he had an affair and, though she'd caught him dead to rights, because he continues to lie about his mistress' identity.

I've been friends with her (my friend... not the mistress) for many, many years. I'm absolutely floored by it all. I'm always astonished that people who seemingly have everything (great life with wonderful spouse and awesome kids and phat house and career) will throw it away for something extra.
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ThreadBare said:

Sometimes they are just not happy for whatever reason. What looks good on the outside is not always whats going on in the inside. its really sad for all involved .

honeypot69 said:

Yeah, you're right.

i've never cheated in any of the relationships i've ever been in. but i've been cheated on prior to getting married with my previous boyfriends.....it sucks when you find out!

i do think that women now days cheat just as much as men....i mean who do you think most of these men are cheating with? other married women alot of times!

I have only been in two relationships
before and was faithful each time. I
can't see in blowing something for a
moment of foolishness so yes-I am.








"I often wonder why people read the Bible more as they get older.
Then it dawned to me; their studying for their final exam. George Carlin
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horatio said:

I often wondered about it, you know like those bucket lists of things to do before you die "have an incredible, mind-blowing secret affair" sounds so exciting.

I've been tempted, that's for sure.

AlienX2050 said:

That's what they want you to believe dude.
Women cheat just as much, if not more.
It depends on the chick tho'.

Tremolina said:

and how much she is in love

Better topic than yesterday's.

I have had relationships in which I was faithfull

I have had relationships in which I cheated

I have had relationships in which the girl was cheating with me on her boyfriend

I have had "open relationships" in which cheating is not "cheating"

Tremolina said:

you've tried most combinations
so, which did you like best?

ZombieKitten said:

That too.
Same goes for a guy. If he is madly in love chances are he won't cheat.
Depends on the guy tho'.

ZombieKitten said:

The best were the first and the last.

Tremolina said:

tell me more about the last one, I don't know why I like the sound of that one so much

Tremolina said:

I go soft thinking of a guy in love, is it as rare as I imagine?

Tremolina said:

What's love got to do with it? I don't think just being "in love" keeps a man OR a woman from cheating. Just cuz they've cheated doesn't mean they don't "love" the significant other and vice versa, just cuz they love their mate, doesn't mean they won't cheat.

SCNDLS said:

not love, that period of blinding "in love"
it renders you useless to anyone else

ZombieKitten said:

I don't think so. Plenty of guys hate to admit it tho'. Think that makes them look weak, wanna be a playa and shit. Some even deny their feelings because of that.

SCNDLS said:

That's true, but chances that he will cheat decrease when he is truly "in love". You know, all that serotine, dopamine and endorphines rushing through his body when he sees HER.
You are right tho', it's not a guarantee.

Tremolina said:

silly men they don't know how attractive it makes them

Sowhat said:

Don't come up in here trying to tell me how to express myself and shit

ZombieKitten said:

Tremolina said:

Hmmmmm, I don't agree that that will keep a man from cheating but okay, cuz most men that cheat say they love still love their wives and don't want a divorce. On the other hand, I think that women that cheat do so after the love is gone or they want payback.

SCNDLS said:

love and "in love" seem to be vastly different things

ZombieKitten said:

Having an "open" relationship depends on your defintion and the rules you agree upon. When you are clear from the beginning and in agreement that that's what it is, you will still have to be able to bare the thought of your partner sleeping with somebody else, which can get worse when you actually know that they have and with whom.

In order to not fall into the usual patern of blaming and hating your partner for doing that, you will have to be sure that you actually, truly are "OK" with that. Being "in love" can make that jump a lot harder to make. But when you are not so in love but more physically attracted and very fine with the idea that you and s/he can "cheat"it can be a great relief. No more stress about these issues, which could actually lead to a very stable relationship. But I don't think that happens a lot. It's a pretty hard one for most people.