I don't understand why a woman would blame men's bad behavior on other women. If a man can "get away" with something with a woman he can't get away with with you, then that's on him to choose.

And if you want to empower women to make better choices in their lives, berating them for their behavior isn't the way to do it.

FUCK.

I hate it when you strange assholes come out of the woodwork. Everybody ends up thinking it's one of my alters and I get shit about it in orgnotes for weeks.




Go away.

There are somethings I agree with on this, like the playing house thing, IMO, you can have a great relationship and not have to have him live with you. Stop the lazy men from sponging off of hard-working women! (This is about welfare pimps only.)

The bed-buddies thing, only do it if that what you really want, do not use your pussy as a lure for a meaningful relationship... it doesn't work that way for most men.

If you don't already know this, its because you are just young and inexperienced.

As far as the other stuff? Oh wait... I love to cook for people, I enjoy watching them enjoy my creations, it brings me joy to share myself that way, so I will cook for my man TY! And most men are generally good men that need a little discipline every now and then, can't worry about what others are doing, do you as best you can, and the man in your life will appreciate you.

O lawd, another thread about Erin?

Stop it already!

Nobody knows me because I'm a lurker. I temporarily came out of lurkdom because I read this message on another site. This message explains exactly how I feel.


To all the desperate women out there: Stop it. You’re making it hard for the rest of us. I’m tired of encountering men who seem to believe all they have to do is look good, have a degree and smile to have my panties fall off.

I’m tired of the men who’s first question seems to be: Can you to cook? To which I reply: Yes. I can. But I won’t be doing it for you.

I’m tired of the men who call at all times of night, asking to come over and “chill” as I let them know that it’s too late to be at my crib and what ever “chilling” they want to do can be done between the hours of 9 and 10.

Or how about the men who don’t have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of but seem to think it’s their right in life to have a “dime.” And that my extra fly *** should be grateful that they even said hello to me and can’t possibly understand why I’m not leaping up and down at the prospect of being with them.

And please, don’t get me started on all of the men who tell me that I want them as much as they want me. Right. So all those texts and phone calls I didn’t return didn’t send the message that I wasn’t interested , huh?

The reason why so many men today think that they have to do so little to attract quality chicks, is because they don’t. Too many women out here will do whatever it takes to find, get and keep a man, turning the whole natural order of the dating world on its head. Women are doing the chasing and men are doing the choosing. And apparently I’m the only one who seems to think something is wrong with that.

I’m old school. I may only be 28, but I was raised to believe that it’s a man’s job to court me. He does the chasing. I do the choosing. Simple. And effective. But now, because of the very real demographic differences among a certain section of the Black community, women are doing whatever it takes to get a man. And I do mean whatever.
If that means cooking, cleaning, sexing, cow towing, begging, pleading, giving money to, letting live with, catching a case for (no lie) or just being a 21st century rendition of a Geisha with none of the perks who completely takes Destiny’s Child “Cater to You” to heart with little to no reciprocation, then so be it. If that’s what it takes to get and keep a man, then that is what too many women are willing do.

I’m sorry, but I just can’t get down like that. As I have had to tell one too many men: I am not your wife. And even if I was, I wouldn’t be bending over backward to cater to you. If you want 150% from me, then you better be giving me 150% in return. But don’t expect to operate on 10% and expect me to give you 150. If you’re operating on 10%, I’m operating on 20 and that’s just because I’m nice–sometimes.

To put simply: I give as good as I get. You wanna wife, you need to put a ring on my finger. I don’t play wife, unless you’re playing husband. A sentiment I wish more young women would take to heart.

jeami said:

Sorry you feel this way. POA...Becareful of the additude because the right guy might come along with a ring but this "21st century" stuff might push him away. I might open every door and suck every toe but enjoy it and don't act like it's my job. A good man will cherish you and love you but he will only give as good as he gets it.

HamsterHuey said: