Nobody knows me because I'm a lurker. I temporarily came out of lurkdom because I read this message on another site. This message explains exactly how I feel.


To all the desperate women out there: Stop it. You’re making it hard for the rest of us. I’m tired of encountering men who seem to believe all they have to do is look good, have a degree and smile to have my panties fall off.

I’m tired of the men who’s first question seems to be: Can you to cook? To which I reply: Yes. I can. But I won’t be doing it for you.

I’m tired of the men who call at all times of night, asking to come over and “chill” as I let them know that it’s too late to be at my crib and what ever “chilling” they want to do can be done between the hours of 9 and 10.

Or how about the men who don’t have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of but seem to think it’s their right in life to have a “dime.” And that my extra fly *** should be grateful that they even said hello to me and can’t possibly understand why I’m not leaping up and down at the prospect of being with them.

And please, don’t get me started on all of the men who tell me that I want them as much as they want me. Right. So all those texts and phone calls I didn’t return didn’t send the message that I wasn’t interested , huh?

The reason why so many men today think that they have to do so little to attract quality chicks, is because they don’t. Too many women out here will do whatever it takes to find, get and keep a man, turning the whole natural order of the dating world on its head. Women are doing the chasing and men are doing the choosing. And apparently I’m the only one who seems to think something is wrong with that.

I’m old school. I may only be 28, but I was raised to believe that it’s a man’s job to court me. He does the chasing. I do the choosing. Simple. And effective. But now, because of the very real demographic differences among a certain section of the Black community, women are doing whatever it takes to get a man. And I do mean whatever.
If that means cooking, cleaning, sexing, cow towing, begging, pleading, giving money to, letting live with, catching a case for (no lie) or just being a 21st century rendition of a Geisha with none of the perks who completely takes Destiny’s Child “Cater to You” to heart with little to no reciprocation, then so be it. If that’s what it takes to get and keep a man, then that is what too many women are willing do.

I’m sorry, but I just can’t get down like that. As I have had to tell one too many men: I am not your wife. And even if I was, I wouldn’t be bending over backward to cater to you. If you want 150% from me, then you better be giving me 150% in return. But don’t expect to operate on 10% and expect me to give you 150. If you’re operating on 10%, I’m operating on 20 and that’s just because I’m nice–sometimes.

To put simply: I give as good as I get. You wanna wife, you need to put a ring on my finger. I don’t play wife, unless you’re playing husband. A sentiment I wish more young women would take to heart.

I didn't read the whole thing but I agree, Paula Abdul is getting a little chunky ...

Why care...if u don't want to act like that then don't ....if others do ...thats their business .....there are good and bad qualities in both men and women. We are each responsible for our own actions aren't we ...so why would it bother u what someone elses relationship is like

Ocean said:

So it's not about Paula Adbul?..

Byron said:

Thanks for breaking it down for us.

Really you need to post a pic of yourself so we can see if you're hot before we can even consider reading all that.

Byron said:

Fauxie said:

Thats right!

Fauxie said:

Fauxie said:

it must be hard being so damn fabulous, though, really.

evenstar3 said:

It must have taken a lot to stop lurking and descend to the org to post with us, knowing it can sully one's ability to be so fabulous. I wouldn't wish that fabulousness on anyone. It's lonely being fabulous, you see.

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Fauxie said:

but she's sharing her sage wisdom! we must be grateful!

I have a hunch which site this might be from

BOOBIES!!!

nope I was wrong

Who's desperate?

Stop being so bitter.

Surround yourself with those that think like you do on this topic and distance yourself from those that do not.

The end.

FUCK.

I hate it when you strange assholes come out of the woodwork. Everybody ends up thinking it's one of my alters and I get shit about it in orgnotes for weeks.




Go away.

JustErin said:

Public service announcement for the Human Race

What? How are desperate women to blame for this? Sounds more like desperate men.

Can someone summarise that for me please,by orgnote and then orgnote me when we have a pic of this person posted. I will then return and give my input.

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This sounds like a joke.

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Seriously, I thought this thread was going to be about all the photowhores on here.

JustErin said:

Trust you to turn up then

Fauxie said:

So that's why no one reads my posts....

Imago said:

mdiver said:

To make fun?

JustErin said:

jeami said:

your rant (which reads like a blog somewhere, btw) is actually directed at men who annoy you with their behavior.

so why did you direct your rant to 'all the desperate women out there'?

do you really think 'desperate women' are to blame for the way these guys behave?

just my 2c

I don't understand why a woman would blame men's bad behavior on other women. If a man can "get away" with something with a woman he can't get away with with you, then that's on him to choose.

And if you want to empower women to make better choices in their lives, berating them for their behavior isn't the way to do it.