Imago said:

It is rubbing off on you mate.

THIS IS THE EVERLASTING NOW !

BlueZebra said:

If that song gets stuck in my head all day... you are in so much trouble!

shanti0608 said:

BlueZebra said:

All my relationships had an expiry date, unless for one maybe. They all ended at some point, but that one.

Ocean said:

Yes.

minneapolisgenius said:

Easy to say for two women who are happily married.

I never thought I wanted marriage so I've always lived in the moment. And I have no regrets, most certainly. But I realized a few years ago marriage is something I want, so now I need to start planning for my future. Expiration dating is definitely a thing of my past. I think it's something for the young and the very old. I'm somewhere in the middle.

sammij said:

"all great lovers must part and all great loves must end, even if only in death"


...to know or even speculate the future would only distract you from the beauty of the present, so think on it no further...


...if great art indeed lives in tension, make art of love and engulf yourself in the possibilities of both fulfillment and dissatisfaction, euphoria and misery, stimulation and stillness, and turn the moment, each moment, on the moment until the outcome declares itself "a work completed"...

wherever the ball stops, i know for a fact you'll end up with a pretty "peice", for no one can love as we do when moved...

and even deeper still, love has no expiration date...ALL relationships (acknowledged or not) serve to teach us about the greater truth, which is of a continuous love that exists apart from our fears and failures..

should the two of you see an "end" it will and can only be when it must


besides 2 years is long enough to bring about anything. just keep smiling.

Trust me... journalists would love to marry architects, these days. The news world is dying fast.

sammij said:

I don't believe that romantic relationships are necessary for contentment or likely to endure.

Love yourself first, know that you are always in control of your own happiness and take 'em as they come.

sammij said:

Way to invite differing opinions by calling them "square."

sammij said:

Depends on what you mean by forever.

"I will feel exactly the same way about you and our relationship every day for the rest of my life" would be a pretty hard promise to fulfill.

But I look at my kids and know that even when I want to kill them, I will love them and work at having a good relationship with them until one of us dies.

That's how I approach my relationship with the person I promised "forever" to. Of course things around us and inside us will change. But the "forever" part is a decision. It's not a wish or a hope. It's a decision to nurture the relationship every day until death do us part.

THAT BEING SAID, I've had a relationship that had an expiration date. I enjoyed it and took every day for what it was. It was nice.

I guess I'm about to find out....

SirPsycho said:

you know i love you for that...


see? i knew you'd have something to put forward

CarrieMpls said:

could you explain that a bit more? that's an interesting way to put it

FunkMistress said:

sammij said:

FunkMistress said:

most certainly... now having slept on the matter - i'm wondering what other kinds of forever there could possibly be?

SirPsycho said:

sammij said:

I think when you're young and single each relationship is "practice". You're learning what you want and what you can and can't put up with. I definitely had relationships with men I knew I wouldn't be with forever, and didn't want to be.
And I think once you've reached a certain age, say, 65 or 70 or so, if you're single/divorced/widowed/whatever well, you don't have the whole of your life ahead of you anymore. I would think you're just appreciating good company along with other things. At that age, someone can die any moment, may as well be happy with someone in the short-term if that's what you happen to find.

I'm 33. I'm in the middle of all that. I want marriage and maybe even children. I want someone who'll be in it for the long haul. I don't need a lifelong commitment the minute I meet someone, but there's no point in continuing something with someone who knows for sure that they're not interested in that. I'm not getting any younger, I'd rather find someone who has the same goals and plans that I do. So I can't "live in the moment" any more. Not if I'm working towards what I want for the future.

CarrieMpls said:

I feel the same way. Must be the age.

CarrieMpls said:

well said.

I'm in some expiry shit right now, but I wouldn't refer to it as a "relationship" so I'm not sure it counts





It must end @ some point

Yes, and then he wanted to get back together two weeks later

Alej said:

sammij said:

I'm having trust issues though

Not cool

Alej said:

when that happens, you need to step back and re-evaluate, for sure hun

sammij said:

I just need to talk to him and he's living in another city which is just across the river but a lot of shit is making it hard for us to see each other

And I don't want to talk about it on the phone

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