I know every one of us has experienced a cat call. You're walking down the street and out of no where a stranger is yelling at you. A "hey baby!", a whistle, I even got a "hubba hubba" once.

A couple of days ago, I was strolling down the street, minding my own busniess, and I happened to be wearing a large black pair of sunglasses (a la Jackie O). I passed by a gay bar that had some patio seating on the side walk and all of a suddenly I hear

"Work it, Jackie!"

from someone who sounded exactly like that guy on America's Next Top Model. I looked up to see a gentleman looking right at me. I couldn't help but laugh to myself a little and as soon as he saw the hint of a smile happening, he took that as permission to continue on.

"That's right, Jackie! Work it! That's what I'm talking about!"

By this time I'm giggling out loud audibly. And he kept it up till I had long passed by. I mean, what exactly do you do when someone you don't know is commanding you to "work it"!?


So ladies - ever been gay cat called as such? This was a new one for me.

I like it, but then sometimes I wonder if they're just making fun of me.

FunkMistress said:

Ya, exactly.

JustErin said:

Fucking catty bitches!

Girl, you are person I know who owns a vagina that can have men all over you at a gay bar.




Whatever you got, you need to learn to bottle and sell that shit.

It's happened to me before. I think it's a compliment.

FunkMistress said:

Great. Now I'm wondering too.

Imago said:

For what purpose? I don't think women the world over are dying to be a fag hag.

CarrieMpls said:

Ah, it's best to just take everything as a compliment anyway.

Once my best friend and I were at a homo club and the boys in the girls room were calling me gorgeous and calling my best friend ugly. That shit pissed me off. It didn't feel like a compliment when they were basically using it to make my best friend feel like shit. And she's a very pretty girl. They were just drunk bitches.

Would you think it was a compliment coming from a hetero guy, or would it be more "harassment"?

DevotedPuppy said:

Hetero guys don't tell you to work your designer shades.

They tell you to work your ass and bounce your tits.

It's a totally different breed of catcall. One is encouraging, another is demanding.

FunkMistress said:

Good point.

CarrieMpls said:

There are plenty of women here who would love to be able to 'turn' a rushing07.

CarrieMpls said:

Ummmmm, you WORK it . . . damn-near to the point of breaking a hip or ankle. At least, that's what I do.

SCNDLS said:

SCNDLS said:

I'm not really a "working it" kind of girl. Particularly at 5pm on a Tuesday. I was in my work drag too.

CarrieMpls said:

All I need is a lil gay encouragement and it's ON! They prolly ARE laughing at me, though.

SCNDLS said:

Nah, I think there's always a compliment in there. Even when straight guys do it, it may be annoying, but they do it cause they liked something about you.

CarrieMpls said:

You're prolly right. I've noticed that the last few times I've been to gay clubs and was encouraged to work it afterwards people asked me if I was drag queen. I almost had to lift up my skirt to shut this one "girl" up. I THINK there's a compliment in there somewhere.

I think it is just you Carrie. From what I have seen and heard about you, you are just one of those ppl that lights up a room.

It is just something you will have to live with I am afraid.

If you figure out how to bottle it, I will buy a bottle or two.

shanti0608 said:

awww... thanks.

CarrieMpls said:

I am purely going by what Dan, Phil and Miguel said. They all have good taste from what I have seen.

I always seem to have eye contact with women like you, Cars. There is a reason gay guys zone in on you, even if they don't know you; you ooze style and gay guys cannot help but react and praise it whenever they spot classy chicks like you.

I cannot help but ogle women that have a personalised sense of style; is why I love you; you have that special eye for details that just spell out not only you are special and got style, but also you got that sense of humour.

Next time the gays comment on your glasses, just raise ONE hand to the side of the glasses, tip it to the point of your nose and look naughty and/or mysterious, like this;


Photography by Jeff Katz.

I'm sorry, but I'm a fag and I LOVE WOMEN.

If I see someone that is dressed up or is just wearing that certain thing that makes them look amazing, I will acknowledge it. I don't really say it that loud but I do say it to whoever is with me. Sometimes they hear and smile.

I think 99% of the time they are NOT making fun of you but showing solidarity in your fashion choice.

And Carrie, you always work it, without even trying.

HamsterHuey said:

You are far too kind, Goo.

And I'll remember the tip of the glasses trick!

i don't really like it when strangers try to give me unsolicited feedback about my look.

CarrieMpls said:

It works!
I did it on the train last week, smile and the woman blushed a hundred different hues of red.

CarrieMpls said:

I think he's looking to get a bottle for himself!

superspaceboy said:

a HA!

That makes more sense.

superspaceboy said:

I'll wear some the next time I'm in Cali