toots said:

You're not being attacked at all - not by me anyway.

But he is for stating his opinion and speaking his mind.

JustErin said:

By your post, yes I did feel attacked(the way it was worded)

He is stating his opinion and speaking his mind as I am as well.

I guess Ill put this topic to bed

i cant figure out women at all ??...why do they never tell you what it is they want ???...why do they almost never make the first move regarding sex or tell you want it is they want you to do...???...men like to feel wanted too...
[Edited 7/27/08 9:11am]

toots said:

I didn't quote you because I was talking to everyone in here.

But, ok.

JustErin said:

You didnt have to "qoute" me your responce was right below mine, and directed at me(the first line-I think people need to realize that he's not talking about you. ) Im not THAT dumb.

toots said:

Um, ok.

Believe me, I have no problem saying if something was specifically directed to someone. This wasn't. That's why I didn't quote anyone.

But ok, whatever you say.

PLEASE PLEASE...

Have a bitch fight.

JustErin said:

PLEASE PLEASE...

Have a bitch fight.

I'm noticing some comments here about how young girls are supposed to be more into good looks and money, the more "material" things while women over 25, especially over 30, are supposed to more into guys that treat them well. I'm not going to completely agree with these statements, but I will share with y'all some examples from my online dating "experiments" and you can make your own judgements.

I'm 25 years old. I wouldn't call myself "hot" or "good looking" although maybe there are women out there that might find me "cute".
Anywho, I've been trying my luck with a feature inside one of the social networks (Tagged, to be exact) called "Meet Me" which works like this:
I see the profile pics of women in my area (I narrowed the search to women in the age group 20-30) and I click "yes" when I see someone I might be interested in. When this happens, they get a message that someone (they don't know it's me specifically) clicked their profile pic and if they click "yes" when they see my pic in this game, we both get messages that we are a "match".
I've usually just clicked on pics of girls that I find attractive, usually the ones that are in their early 20s. Unfortunately I haven't got any "matches" from these girls, and I've said "yes" to about 200 profile pics! Last night I decided, just for kicks, to click pics of girls that I usually wouldn't go for but girls that I might be tempted to go home with after a drunken night out.

And what happened? Immediately I have TWO matches from girls that had clicked my profile picture before I did. And guess what? they are both single mothers in their late 20s. I haven't attempted to contact them yet, I'm still contemplating whether I should, but I'm wondering.... does this say more about me than it does about the single moms or the younger hotties that rejected me?

purplehippieonthe1 said:

I think your experience says a lot about the dating game as a whole... It also speaks volumes to what we are reduced to if we "only" use visual imagery as the "first step".

Sure, there are tons of anecdotes about beauty = skin deep and "It's what's inside that counts..." but our first encounter with our prospective partners is always visual first in one way or another. Therein lies the rub...

RenHoek said:

For me it is very important what a man looks like. If he is not attractive to me I won't fall in love with him. That may be superficial, but that's the way it is. Of course what is attractive to me doesn't equal good-looking by society's standards. On the other hand I don't care at all if he has money or not.

I'm noticing some comments here about how young girls are supposed to be more into good looks and money, the more "material" things while women over 25, especially over 30, are supposed to more into guys that treat them well. I'm not going to completely agree with these statements, but I will share with y'all some examples from my online dating "experiments" and you can make your own judgements.

I'm 25 years old. I wouldn't call myself "hot" or "good looking" although maybe there are women out there that might find me "cute".
Anywho, I've been trying my luck with a feature inside one of the social networks (Tagged, to be exact) called "Meet Me" which works like this:
I see the profile pics of women in my area (I narrowed the search to women in the age group 20-30) and I click "yes" when I see someone I might be interested in. When this happens, they get a message that someone (they don't know it's me specifically) clicked their profile pic and if they click "yes" when they see my pic in this game, we both get messages that we are a "match".
I've usually just clicked on pics of girls that I find attractive, usually the ones that are in their early 20s. Unfortunately I haven't got any "matches" from these girls, and I've said "yes" to about 200 profile pics! Last night I decided, just for kicks, to click pics of girls that I usually wouldn't go for but girls that I might be tempted to go home with after a drunken night out.

And what happened? Immediately I have TWO matches from girls that had clicked my profile picture before I clicked on their picture. And guess what? they are both single mothers in their late 20s. I haven't attempted to contact them yet, I'm still contemplating whether I should, but I'm wondering.... does this say more about me than it does about the single moms or the younger hotties that rejected me?
[Edited 7/28/08 13:17pm]

RenHoek said:

For me it is very important what a man looks like. If he is not attractive to me I won't fall in love with him. That may be superficial, but that's the way it is. Of course what is attractive to me doesn't equal good-looking by society's standards. On the other hand I don't care at all if he has money or not.

Serious said:

I disagree looks arent always EVERYTHING! My ex hubby was attractive man but ended up he treats women like shit(cheats on them in a heartbeat) I should know. Id rather go out with a man who isnt attractive then a man who IS attractive.the ones that arnt that attractive treat women a hell of a LOT better then then men who are attractive. You can fall in love with the heart of the person NOT just the looks of a person.

Just my :2cents:

Serious said:

I disagree looks arent always EVERYTHING! My ex hubby was attractive man but ended up he treats women like shit(cheats on them in a heartbeat) I should know. Id rather go out with a man who isnt attractive then a man who IS attractive.the ones that arnt that attractive treat women a hell of a LOT better then then men who are attractive. You can fall in love with the heart of the person NOT just the looks of a person.

Just my :2cents:

But not all attractive men treat women like shit

toots said:

But not all attractive men treat women like shit I gotta want him myself, otherwise what's the point? I'd never purposely go out w/ someone I found unattractive just b/c it's "easier"...

toots said:

That may work for some people, but not for me. In fact I wish it would work for me, but it doesn't. I have never in my life fallen in love with a man who isn't attractive to me. A wonderful man who is still one of my closest friends was very much in love with me many years back and he treated me like every woman would dream that a man would treat her and my dad who was very ill and died shortly after asked me why I couldn't be with him as he would be so happy to know that I am together with a man who treats me right. But he was not my type although he wasnt's bad looking, but not my type. I knew I could never love him in any other way than just as a friend.

Wallet and incidentals.....

Serious said:

huh?

Okay I feel for your friends dad that died but what does that got to do with having a relationship with a man who isnt attractive?

toots said:

My dad died, not my friend's dad. I mentioned it only to show that even though my dad would have wanted me to be with that man so that he could die knowing that his daughter had somebody who'd take good care of her I knew I couldn't do it as the man was not attractive to me.

CalhounSq said:

I have to see that for myself IMHO.If a women is unattractive they get treated like shit as well. Not just the pretty ones.

CalhounSq said:

Yes they do! Just like all women want money from guys!!

toots said:

You lost me here

CalhounSq said:

I am not a attractive woman I got treated like shit by ex hubby he was an attractive man, he cheated on his next wife who was VERY pretty and he treated her like shyt follow me now...

thus explaining my original post