amorbella said:

It's not just a piece of paper to me.

To me it is a concrete promise, a leap of faith in action. When I called Chris my boyfriend, it felt so fleeting. Theoretically I could have ten more boyfriends after him if I wanted. But when I call him my husband, it feel so much more right. It's permanent, and that's what I want our relationship to be. When I married him I was saying "This is it for me. I am making a solid commitment to loving you and only you for the rest of our lives."

It says that even though we see failed relationships and misery all around us, we believe in this partnership with such ferocity that we are willing to promise to put in the work of constantly building it into a strong, happy marriage. That neither of us will ever leave no matter how hard it gets. The security that brings is indescribable when you know it is the truth.

For some people those promises are unnecessary, and that's fine. For us, it was something we felt was necessary.

amorbella said:

It's not just a piece of paper to me.

To me it is a concrete promise, a leap of faith in action. When I called Chris my boyfriend, it felt so fleeting. Theoretically I could have ten more boyfriends after him if I wanted. But when I call him my husband, it feel so much more right. It's permanent, and that's what I want our relationship to be. When I married him I was saying "This is it for me. I am making a solid commitment to loving you and only you for the rest of our lives."

It says that even though we see failed relationships and misery all around us, we believe in this partnership with such ferocity that we are willing to promise to put in the work of constantly building it into a strong, happy marriage. That neither of us will ever leave no matter how hard it gets. The security that brings is indescribable when you know it is the truth.

For some people those promises are unnecessary, and that's fine. For us, it was something we felt was necessary.

But Marriage is work. The problem today is people do give up too easy. Who said that marriage was supposed to be fun all the time?

FunkMistress said:

everyone's different. To me the relationship is the important thing, but plenty of people say the commitment in front of god & family, or the legality, or the concept, or whatever. The important thing is to go with whatever you believe in.

amorbella said:

It's not just a piece of paper to me.

To me it is a concrete promise, a leap of faith in action. When I called Chris my boyfriend, it felt so fleeting. Theoretically I could have ten more boyfriends after him if I wanted. But when I call him my husband, it feel so much more right. It's permanent, and that's what I want our relationship to be. When I married him I was saying "This is it for me. I am making a solid commitment to loving you and only you for the rest of our lives."

It says that even though we see failed relationships and misery all around us, we believe in this partnership with such ferocity that we are willing to promise to put in the work of constantly building it into a strong, happy marriage. That neither of us will ever leave no matter how hard it gets. The security that brings is indescribable when you know it is the truth.

For some people those promises are unnecessary, and that's fine. For us, it was something we felt was necessary.

NDRU said:

Well, of course the relationship is the important thing. A marriage is not a certificate or a ring, but a relationship. Just like a house is not the cement or the foundation, but those things sure help to keep it stable!

Again, only speaking for myself and my relationship. I don't want anyone coming at me as if I'm saying a relationship without marriage is like a house without a foundation.

It's not just a piece of paper to me.

To me it is a concrete promise, a leap of faith in action. When I called Chris my boyfriend, it felt so fleeting. Theoretically I could have ten more boyfriends after him if I wanted. But when I call him my husband, it feel so much more right. It's permanent, and that's what I want our relationship to be. When I married him I was saying "This is it for me. I am making a solid commitment to loving you and only you for the rest of our lives."

It says that even though we see failed relationships and misery all around us, we believe in this partnership with such ferocity that we are willing to promise to put in the work of constantly building it into a strong, happy marriage. That neither of us will ever leave no matter how hard it gets. The security that brings is indescribable when you know it is the truth.

For some people those promises are unnecessary, and that's fine. For us, it was something we felt was necessary.

FunkMistress said:

everyone's different. To me the relationship is the important thing, but plenty of people say the commitment in front of god & family, or the legality, or the concept, or whatever. The important thing is to go with whatever you believe in.

amorbella said:

It's not just a piece of paper to me.

To me it is a concrete promise, a leap of faith in action. When I called Chris my boyfriend, it felt so fleeting. Theoretically I could have ten more boyfriends after him if I wanted. But when I call him my husband, it feel so much more right. It's permanent, and that's what I want our relationship to be. When I married him I was saying "This is it for me. I am making a solid commitment to loving you and only you for the rest of our lives."

It says that even though we see failed relationships and misery all around us, we believe in this partnership with such ferocity that we are willing to promise to put in the work of constantly building it into a strong, happy marriage. That neither of us will ever leave no matter how hard it gets. The security that brings is indescribable when you know it is the truth.

For some people those promises are unnecessary, and that's fine. For us, it was something we felt was necessary.

FunkMistress said:

JerseyKRS said:

mdiver said:

i think it romantic

FunkMistress said:

For other folks yes, of course. For me, at this point in my life, weighing all the pros and cons, I'm moving closer to a resounding no.

morningsong said:

Don't ever think you don't deserve to be loved. You DO!

Sweeny79 said:

ideally, yes. for many it's the thing they dread on Sunday morning.

JerseyKRS said:

^^^^^
.....come on dude, you're ruining my image of you by getting all soft and feminine with posts like this with little hearts n' shit WTF!!!

Fauxie said:

where the fuck's my invitation? I'm so in!!!!


This should be worth the airfare!!!

Fauxie said:

Hey! I was taught that t-shirts are not to be tucked in!

NDRU said:

I'm not talking about a path that one dreads. That makes no sense! Are we not adults? Sharing a spiritual path is much deeper than a common interest. It's mutually acknowledging the container that contains us, a belief in something higher and bigger, and the reality of a profound love that exists in our hearts. A strong path also provides a teacher, guidance and teachings on selflessness, humility, surrender, detachment, and other sterling virtues, which can support a marriage. A sincere practice of worship and devotion, one that is shared, creates a very deep connection between people. It's like putting a magnifying glass to your heart and all that it contains. It's the strongest connection that can be had between two people, in my humble opinion.

I personally worship on Tuesday nights. ugh Christianity carries so much baggage!

ask me again when it's legal for me.

rolling said:

Marriage is difficult but I believe in it. America is at fault for the divorce rate, because America has put a financial burden on holding a family together. America hasn't dedicated it self to the family structure. It's simply a means that this country builds on wealth, and debt. Without marriage, banks would go out of business.

Until America truely dedicate itself to kids and families, the divorce rate will continue to grow.

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AlienX2050 said:

interesting angle I would like to hear more!