CarrieMpls said: Fauxie said: Tolerable is the new happy for married folks. You need to put it on the other hand. oh fauxie. you're always good for a giggle. Nooooo! Friend zone!!!!! | |
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absolutely. but i am terrified of ever getting divorced. | |
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FunkMistress said: Fauxie said: YEAH! AND IS ARIEL GOING TO MAKE AN EFFORT WITH HIS CLOTHES OR AT LEAST TUCK HIS DAMN SHIRT IN FOR SUCH A MOMENTOUS OCCASION??? FUCK YOU! WE'RE HAVING A CEREMONY IN NOVEMBER AND HE HAS A TUX! and possibly a pink tie. That's sweet he's going to make the effort to look nice for Dan. I mean you. | |
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evenstar3 said: absolutely. but i am terrified of ever getting divorced.
yeah, i would hate to get divorced. i would also hate to have a loveless marriage. | |
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evenstar3 said: absolutely. but i am terrified of ever getting divorced.
Come stay with us. I'm thinking about starting a DOOM version of one of those religious nut job cults. There'll be no divorce, I promise. Or leaving the compound. | |
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Fauxie said: evenstar3 said: absolutely. but i am terrified of ever getting divorced.
Come stay with us. I'm thinking about starting a DOOM version of one of those religious nut job cults. There'll be no divorce, I promise. Or leaving the compound. will there be kool aid and nikes involved? | |
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Fauxie said: FunkMistress said: FUCK YOU! WE'RE HAVING A CEREMONY IN NOVEMBER AND HE HAS A TUX! and possibly a pink tie. That's sweet he's going to make the effort to look nice for Dan. I mean you. The Normal Whores Club | |
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JasmineFire said: Fauxie said: Come stay with us. I'm thinking about starting a DOOM version of one of those religious nut job cults. There'll be no divorce, I promise. Or leaving the compound. will there be kool aid and nikes involved? Doubtful, but there will be filthy, demeaning sex and then periods of intense loneliness and detachment. And dress down Fridays when Laurel can ditch the special outfits. | |
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Ex-Moderator | Fauxie said: CarrieMpls said: oh fauxie. you're always good for a giggle. Nooooo! Friend zone!!!!! oh heavens. please don't take that as flirting. I mean, you're married. |
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CarrieMpls said: Fauxie said: Nooooo! Friend zone!!!!! oh heavens. please don't take that as flirting. I mean, you're married. I'm currently married, yes. | |
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Fauxie said: JasmineFire said: will there be kool aid and nikes involved? Doubtful, but there will be filthy, demeaning sex and then periods of intense loneliness and detachment. And dress down Fridays when Laurel can ditch the special outfits. and thai food? i'm in! | |
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yes, I do...
a marriage is a sum of lots of lil' parts...folks that think love will overcome all are the ones that usually end up divorced...love, atleast in my opinion, is only one of those lil' parts and it's no more or less important than the rest of the other lil' parts...a marriage takes commitment, compromise, respect, etc...it can be hard, easy, happy, sad...you get the picture...marriage can be alot of work and it aint for lazy folks.... | |
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evenstar3 said: Fauxie said: Doubtful, but there will be filthy, demeaning sex and then periods of intense loneliness and detachment. And dress down Fridays when Laurel can ditch the special outfits. and thai food? i'm in! Of course. | |
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Fauxie said: evenstar3 said: and thai food? i'm in! Of course. what sort of special outfits will i be sporting? | |
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evenstar3 said: Fauxie said: Of course. what sort of special outfits will i be sporting? I think Mon has in mind a few, like filthy Patpong pole dancer, filthy Thai policewoman, filthy Thai Airways stewardess, and I'm considering filthy Thai immigration officer. I could get a bit out of control with that last one so I should warn you now. | |
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I do believe in it. My parents have been married almost 38 years. And, they've worked through it and worked at it. And, prayed. And, prayed some more. And, bickered and argued. And forgiven. And, prayed some more...
It's work. After all the butterflies and dreams and rough patches. It's straight-up work. | |
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ThreadBare said: It's work. After all the butterflies and dreams and rough patches. It's straight-up work.
..which is why I'll never walk that aisle. That lifestyle is not for me. | |
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ThreadBare said: I do believe in it. My parents have been married almost 38 years. And, they've worked through it and worked at it. And, prayed. And, prayed some more. And, bickered and argued. And forgiven. And, prayed some more...
It's work. After all the butterflies and dreams and rough patches. It's straight-up work. i think there's more to it then just work. if it was only work then no one would even bother. | |
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JasmineFire said: ThreadBare said: I do believe in it. My parents have been married almost 38 years. And, they've worked through it and worked at it. And, prayed. And, prayed some more. And, bickered and argued. And forgiven. And, prayed some more...
It's work. After all the butterflies and dreams and rough patches. It's straight-up work. i think there's more to it then just work. if it was only work then no one would even bother. Oh, absolutely. I like how they've matured and grown together. It's an awesome thing to behold. I've seen it in their marriage, as well as in my aunts & uncles', my grandparents' and a few friends'. I'm sure there's something cool about looking across a table, decades later, and going: "I love that woman... still.... especially now that we've gotten rid of all her cats..." | |
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Moderator | Yup, I don't think it's funand games in happyland all the time, but I think it works for those who make it work. In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Moderator | ThreadBare said: I do believe in it. My parents have been married almost 38 years. And, they've worked through it and worked at it. And, prayed. And, prayed some more. And, bickered and argued. And forgiven. And, prayed some more...
It's work. After all the butterflies and dreams and rough patches. It's straight-up work. My parents just had their 40th anniversary and I agree 1000% with everything you said. Like the old joke goes... Grandpa, What's the secret to staying married so long? You don't leave and you don't die. In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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ThreadBare said: JasmineFire said: i think there's more to it then just work. if it was only work then no one would even bother. Oh, absolutely. I like how they've matured and grown together. It's an awesome thing to behold. I've seen it in their marriage, as well as in my aunts & uncles', my grandparents' and a few friends'. I'm sure there's something cool about looking across a table, decades later, and going: "I love that woman... still.... especially now that we've gotten rid of all her cats..." ...only to replace them with better and stronger cats... when i first read your post i thought it said, "i like how they've mutated and grown together" one thing about the whole "believe in marriage" issue that has always confused me is how can you not believe in something that so clearly exists. Marriage is not like Santa Claus, it's an actual institution. That's like saying you don't believe in shoes. | |
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JasmineFire said: ThreadBare said: I do believe in it. My parents have been married almost 38 years. And, they've worked through it and worked at it. And, prayed. And, prayed some more. And, bickered and argued. And forgiven. And, prayed some more...
It's work. After all the butterflies and dreams and rough patches. It's straight-up work. i think there's more to it then just work. if it was only work then no one would even bother. There is more to it than that, but I think there's the perception by some that it shouldn't be as much work as it is. That's just foolishness. My parents have worked hard to stay together. Compromise, understanding, give and take. That's work. But it also comes with being in love. [Edited 7/24/08 20:38pm] | |
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Fauxie said: evenstar3 said: what sort of special outfits will i be sporting? I think Mon has in mind a few, like filthy Patpong pole dancer, filthy Thai policewoman, filthy Thai Airways stewardess, and I'm considering filthy Thai immigration officer. I could get a bit out of control with that last one so I should warn you now. i need a police baton to be an immigration officer. and latex gloves, too. | |
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At my stage of life, I honestly can't see any use for it. If there were kids involved, a traditional 'partnering' of families, a certain role to play in society, or for legal benefits...yeah okay,
But my family is incredibly disjointed, my boyfriend's family is as nuts as mine, and the whole idea of extended family makes me cringe. And I'm already comfortable as a societal maverick. If I got married, I would do so with the distinct possibility of getting divorced at some point in time. But I already was married and divorced once, so I don't need that "life experience". The paperwork! | |
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heartbeatocean said: At my stage of life, I honestly can't see any use for it. If there were kids involved, a traditional 'partnering' of families, a certain role to play in society, or for legal benefits...yeah okay,
But my family is incredibly disjointed, my boyfriend's family is as nuts as mine, and the whole idea of extended family makes me cringe. And I'm already comfortable as a societal maverick. If I got married, I would do so with the distinct possibility of getting divorced at some point in time. But I already was married and divorced once, so I don't need that "life experience". The paperwork! That's a good thing. You recognize that you don't want marriage and hopefully you'll never act contrary to your convictions. | |
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ThreadBare said: JasmineFire said: i think there's more to it then just work. if it was only work then no one would even bother. Oh, absolutely. I like how they've matured and grown together. It's an awesome thing to behold. I've seen it in their marriage, as well as in my aunts & uncles', my grandparents' and a few friends'. I'm sure there's something cool about looking across a table, decades later, and going: "I love that woman... still.... especially now that we've gotten rid of all her cats..." But do you need to get married to have all those things? Are we equating marriage with long term relationships and commitment? | |
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JasmineFire said: Anxiety said: ask me again when it's legal for me.
it's legal in Massachusetts now. My mom and her partner of 20 years are getting married next summer. Also legal in California and Canada. | |
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Sweeny79 said: ThreadBare said: I do believe in it. My parents have been married almost 38 years. And, they've worked through it and worked at it. And, prayed. And, prayed some more. And, bickered and argued. And forgiven. And, prayed some more...
It's work. After all the butterflies and dreams and rough patches. It's straight-up work. My parents just had their 40th anniversary and I agree 1000% with everything you said. Like the old joke goes... Grandpa, What's the secret to staying married so long? You don't leave and you don't die. That's it. My great-grandparents were like that. My great-grandfather telling me his story about marrying my great-grandmother probably made me the romantic I am today. And even at the end of their life together, in their late-90s, when they were still fussing and putting up with each other (like the Kane-Crystal couple in "The Princess Bride"), the love was apparent. | |
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heartbeatocean said: ThreadBare said: Oh, absolutely. I like how they've matured and grown together. It's an awesome thing to behold. I've seen it in their marriage, as well as in my aunts & uncles', my grandparents' and a few friends'. I'm sure there's something cool about looking across a table, decades later, and going: "I love that woman... still.... especially now that we've gotten rid of all her cats..." But do you need to get married to have all those things? Are we equating marriage with long term relationships and commitment? I am. Not saying it doesn't occur outside of that. But, for me, I plan on marrying the woman with whom I hope to have that. | |
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