she's never said, really. the only thing she's ever warned me away from are guys with controlling mothers, which turned out to be really good advice. my high school boyfriend's mom was psycho.
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evenstar3 said:

that is some good advice.

gingerogers said:

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no one she thinks its okay to be single. marriage isnt always the best thing for you

JasmineFire said:

If your mom knew I had Yo Yo Ma's Astor Piazzolla tribute album, would she be impressed?

ThreadBare said:

no.

the older i get the lower her standards for my potential husband go.

just as long as you can get me preggers, she'll be pleased.

JessieJ said:

JasmineFire said:

I'm overwhelmed.

My mom wants me to marry a guy who's

1 rich
2 college educated
3 taller than me
4 traditionally handsome
5 clean cut
6 Christian
7 well spoken
8 not gonna mind if she lives with us forever
9 uber-mature


...we don't really agree on alot of guys! but it would be nice to find a guy who has at least 1-3 down

FuNkeNsteiN said:

thekidsgirl said:

whoever he winds up being, he better love the 410. I'm just sayin'.

ThreadBare said:

really? cause i'm a bit underwhelmed.

JasmineFire said:

It was sarcasm. I'm tired. My black bathroom opened up a hole in the universe (yeah... i know...) that I spent the better part of the evening patching up. Wehhhhh!

ThreadBare said:

i was being sarcastic, too!

i told you that painting rooms black would do that!

ThreadBare said:

you keep on reppin for B-more and see what it gets you

compassion capsules!

JessieJ said:

My mother doesn't care, as long as she has a uterus!!!

She's pressuring me for grandchildren when she already has 8!!!

The type of woman I did marry ...

Unfortunately she was not the type of woman I should have married lol ...even our marriage counselor said "If you both came to me before your wedding and asked me if I thought you should get married, I would have definitely said 'no'" lol...




...!
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Byron said:

Thats a big call for her to make.....based on what?

Ocean said:

Well, she was laughing as she said it lol..and my ex and I were laughing, too ...We understood what she meant ...it explained our entire marriage.

That comment was based on how extremely opposite she and I are. She needed someone different than me to be happy, and I needed someone different than her to be happy. She didn't suggest we separate or divorce, quite the opposite in fact.

Byron said:

I was going to say ..I couldn't imagine I therapist saying to u before the wedding .."Don't do it!"

Ocean said:

Oh, she probably really would have lol ...and she would have been right!

I don't regret marring my ex in the slightest...but yeah, we both easily agree that we probably shouldn't have gotten married. But we also totally agree that we're so very glad we did. We both grew and learned from the experience in positive ways. And I couldn't have asked for a better mother of my child.

Byron said:

U both sound like one of the lucky divorced couples

Ocean said:

You're proberly right lol ...

She always tells me not to marry the jealous type, she went through hell with my dad because he was so jealous but did I listen to her, no

Byron said:

I know what you mean. My mom thought my ex was perfect. My marriage counselor said, "If your mom thinks he is so perfect then she can marry him but he is not the right man for you!".


My mom does not think anyone should be married actually, she is married but not happy. She choses to stay in that situation though.

JasmineFire said:

yeah. it's something i think i could deal with to a reasonable extent for the right person, but it's so much easier when you get along with someone's family.

INSATIABLE said:

CarrieMpls said:

omg, that's not true!


I just remembered, she always used to tell me to marry for money. "Beauty fades and love dies" she said.

my mom didn't want me to get married, she wanted to make sure my life revolved around her.