How to deal with them?


Any advices?

Depends, is it just thoughts you are having, OR did someone reappear in your life?

If you can, kindly tell them to go away.

If these ghosts are giving you drama tell them to go away. You don't have time for them.

Maybe I should have been more clear..

Yes someone (my mum's husband) contacted me today and it brought so many memories back..

Fuck! Why do I allow this shit?

AndGodCreatedMe said:

Allow what though?

Was she out of your life and now wants back in?

AndGodCreatedMe said:

I know someone golden that will kick his ass for you, if you like???

AndGodCreatedMe said:

This year so many people have be reappearing in my life....memories can really suck sometimes. I wish I knew a way to blaock it all out but,all you can do is reassure yourself.Just think about all the good inyour life now, how far you have come. How things are better now. That's all I know how to do. Oh yeah and get away from/off the phone with them as fast as you can!!!

JustErin said:

Nope. My mum past away 12 almost 13yrs ago. But her husband at that time cut me off at her funeral and gave her (few) jewellery to his new wife.

So now this phonecall today And I am not sure why.

Do I agree to have a cup of coffee with? I want to to get answers abt my mum but my husband and my son say that I am nuts if I do


Ughh I am lost abt this

Sweeny79 said:

I know you're right!



And I did get my life together despite all the things happening in the past!!!

I am not posting this to whine...I just had a lost moment

Thx sweeny

AndGodCreatedMe said:

Do you think he will be truthful to you about it?
Do you think it will do more harm than good?

AndGodCreatedMe said:

Do you hold any grudges toward him? Maybe you can tell him off and then tell him to fuck off.

shanti0608 said:

That's the part I am worried abt..I dunno But I can give it a try..

I am freaking 41 now so I must have learn something, right?

Stymie said:

Where do I start

And I did tell him to fuck off

But still it made me think.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

Wish it was that easy

I would want to know

WHY

why did you contact me

After what you did when my Mom died - WHY are you now contacting me

I would not move forward unless his answers to the WHYS inspired me to do so

Best wishes hun

AndGodCreatedMe said:

You have learned a lot. You are a smart lady.
If you have questions that you need answered then you should ask him, if you think he will tell you the truth.

Thanks Mach

I think I know why (illness on his side and all)


But I agree. I wanna know why and hear this from that person..but I might not.


Ugh lock this thread and be positive or laugh abt Dan's silly moods

AndGodCreatedMe said:

I think things in our lives show up for reasons

Usually for me it's about me - meaning, I can really learn and grow and most times that happens the most when things that show up are tough

Sweeny79 said:

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both are not good at all.

lets see:

if they are thoughts, i'd distract myself
If they reappeared, id get away ASAP!!!

The past needs to stay there....
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Sweeny79 said:

AndGodCreatedMe said:

Maybe you can get some closure from this.

Speak your mind Petra.

Mach said:

Yes, I would want to know why too,
then I could move on and put it in the past.

wildgoldenhoney said:

It's already on the surface now and affecting you, so I guess it's a good time to try to get answers and come to peace with things . If you won't get them at least you tried .