SCNDLS said:

I had to learn to braid and care for my daughters' hair, but I did it and did it well. It's possible, you know!

ArielB said:

You guys are getting married??!?

FunkMistress said:

more power to you

FunkMistress said:

Well, somebody need to teach the Jolie-Pitts cuz lil mama's hair be looking a mess. And this is true for many mixed or black kids I see being raised by white mothers.

SCNDLS said:

That's definitely true in the majority of cases, and it pisses me off.

Learn to take care of your kids' head!!!

i've always said if i married outside of my race she's have to have aloooot of attitude...

In the past I have dated within my race and outside my race.

I'm marrying outside my race

FunkMistress said:

I don't get it either. There are TONS of mixed kids in the suburb I live in and I also often see black kids with their adoptive white parents. The girls AND boys' heads be a HOT mess. Even as teenagers you can tell they've had no guidance on how to manage their "black" hair.

I don't know how close you were to your child's black relatives but I think it makes a huge difference. I think in many cases these non-black mothers are just intimidated by the hair and don't know where to start. But if there's black family around they'll sho nuf butt in like, "Come here, baby, let me fix yo haira."

SirPsycho said:

If I had a nickel for every time my man told me, "You betta get that bass out ya voice"...

SCNDLS said:

You gotsta take care of them beebee shots and kitchens.

Genesia said:

You be talkin' shit, huh?

SCNDLS said:

Always.

SCNDLS said:

If I had a dollar for every time someone asked me "who did her hair??" I'd be rich. But the looks I get when I say "me" are priceless.

Then I'd get white parents with white children asking me to cornrow their kids' hair. Yeah, I drew the line with that. I hurt some feelings, I know, but so be it.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

But most non-black folks don't know what the hell a kitchen is other than where you prepare food. It's stuff like that which I don't even wanna get into with a potential significant other. I need a man that has a frame of reference for my experiences without me feeling like a guide on National Geographic.

FunkMistress said:

They'll be alright. You shoulda told 'em this ain't the damn islands.

SCNDLS said:

That's totally understandable.

Where I grew up most of my friends were black, so more often than not I was the "other." Black hair was nothing strange to me and I spent many a morning after a sleepover at any one of my girlfriends' houses avoiding the hot comb heating up on the stove when I went to get myself some orange juice.

It's one thing if your white partner came up around all kinds of people; it's another if they're making their partner feel like a damn cultural ambassador. "What is this ashiness you speak of? It sounds so exotic!"

Genesia said:

i like em testy...i've only been with black and spanish women...the one white girl i "talked" to (and i know this doesnt apply for all, but its my last experience) was way too willing...and everything i did was the cutest thing...but she was a charcter period. one time she told me she was "rocking her du-rag like harriet tubman"...

something tells me she was thinking of this lady tho..


...we don't talk much anymore

SCNDLS said:

Sorry, I'm gay....

Already did...my wife is Korean.

SCNDLS said:

Okay???? Not to mention all that work for a head that's going to look like SHIT come tomorrow morning. Your child's hair is NOT MEANT TO DO THAT and neither is mine!

FunkMistress said:

Ain't nothing exotic about ash, white folks just call it dry skin.

@ your avoidance of the hot comb. Some of my earliest memories are of hot grease dripping on my neck.

SirPsycho said:

Not even surprising but still

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

Well, THAT explains it. My non-black, gay male friends are some soulful mofos.
[Edited 7/22/08 10:59am]

SCNDLS said:

I'm pretty brown so I get ashy myself.

FunkMistress said:

SirPsycho said:

See, I'd be hypersensitive to shit like that even if no harm was meant. Then I'd be viewed as "the angry black woman." Nah, I ain't gon be able to do it.

SCNDLS said:

I meant my hair, not my child. White chicks with cornrows make me want to

Dudes, too.

FunkMistress said:

yeah...she's a great girl, and her art had me all ...but she was the first person to say "omg black people are the greatest!" or "i'm not really white, God just made a mistake"...


to be fair, she probably thought it was funny, but it's even worse that she couldnt understand why i wouldnt laugh at it...

we used to have alot of moments like that...

FunkMistress said:

But, see, I wasn't even gonna go there. It annoys me too and so do dreads and locks.

SCNDLS said:

That wouldn't even be hypersensitivity! It's not fucking cool to throw around slavery images like it's fucking fashion. And it's not a black person's job to educate every ignorant white person, either. This is why I totally understand some people of color's aversion to dating white people. It's not racism, it's a desire to have a relationship instead of having to be someone's hand-holding teacher.