JustErin said:

I won't. I just laugh at the stupid shit people post here. I don't go 'round defending Beyonce's "one biscuit away from being plus size" ass.

hokie said:

How did that silliness make it's way into this thread?

JustErin said:

Oh...just thought I'd spread stupidity. That thread actually made me LOL for real. I can't believe how angry some people got. Like Beyonce was their sister or something.

hokie said:

Ya, it was odd for sure.

JustErin said:

I missed that. lemme go look.

@ NO.10


Otherwise big thumbs up!

jaimestarr79 said:

I'm with Erin - if you're doing a bunch of shit around the house, helping w/ the kids & showing her you appreciate her she really has no excuses other than she never liked the shit in the first place. Sorry dude

jaimestarr79 said:

JustErin said:

I don't think that people are saying that helping out around the house is directly related to a woman's sex drive, but in a lot of relationships, having a husband or boyfriend who helps out around the house by cooking dinner, doing household chores, and helping out with the kids make the woman feel appreciated, which in turn causes more loving feelings in her for her man, which then leads to increasing horniness and sex drive, etc.

One thing I have noticed about a lot of relationships is that having a family really changes the sexual dynamic. Now it could be a case where the woman was never really enthusiastic about giving blow jobs to her man in the first place but did that out of duty in order to keep her man happy and her relationship intact, but there are more cases of where married couples are complete horndog freaks who can and do every kinky thing imaginable until they have their first child. Then the family responsibilities take up so much time and energy that the couples are too tired half of the time to get in the mood for sex. That's true of many women, but some men as well. Then there's the whole issue of one or both of the partners "letting themselves go" with their bodies, which makes the other partner feel that they are unattractive. And for some people, mostly the ladies but true with some men also, having a child physically reduces the amount of testosterone in the body, thereby reducing the libido and making the partner less interested in sexual activity.

And then there's another whole issue with the relationship itself. I have a female friend who is going through a divorce right now, and she says that she has been sexually repulsed by her now estranged husband for the last year and a half. When they were dating, they had sex pretty often, and she even admired his length and size. But he also had children from a previous baby mama, and he was always catering to his mother's wishes, and that put a lot of stress on the relationship. Over time, it became apparent that he wasn't willing to act like a real man and take charge of his marriage and stand up for his wife (my best friend). She said that she would spend hours at work, only to come home and run herself ragged doing errands, taking care of their daughter and his two other children from the other relationship while he played video games in the other room, watched TV, or hung out with friends. She said that she would often go to bed dead tired, but he would wake her up asking for sex. She got really annoyed with this after a while.

Now we'll sometime talk about sexual matters at times, but whenever I bring up whether or not she would like to go down on her favorite actor, she always cuts me off in conversation. I don't think that she particularly enjoys giving head herself, but she thinks I'm a pervert because she asked me if I would ever go down on a woman who for some reason had two clits, and I told her that I would because I would be giving her double the pleasure.

Tremolina said:

this question is about marriage and kids right?
fitting all you mentioned above that into a packed schedule, is pretty much impossible on an ordinary day.
He doesn't worship my body when I am in a tracksuit, mopping up vomit off the floor without his help while he plays golf on his blackberry.
His cock could be on Mars for all I care.

JustErin said:

If it were me, I would not want to traumatise my 3 fantastic children over an occasional aversion to sucking my husband's dick when most other things are OK

ZombieKitten said:

Tremolina said:

but the fact is after a LOOOOONG time with the same man, it takes more effort for him to get her horny. Just whipping out his cock has no effect

abigail05 said:

does she even know this?!
you are talking about a woman's self image,
I always see it as water in a bucket,
rather than causing it to overflow, your compliments and positive affirmations (verbal or otherwise) keep it at a good level.

Tremolina said:

I just think a cock by itself, without the man it's attached to, is absolutely NOTHING.
this may be shocking to some of you

jaimestarr79 said:

[Stifler]That seems like a lot of work!?![/Stifler]

ZombieKitten said:

I agree.....

jaimestarr79 said:

well this sounds very sensible
if he did ANY OF THIS
he would be in with a chance!

jaimestarr79 said:

that has happened many times and he simply backs out of the room with a mumbled apology

WTF!!!!

ZombieKitten said:

Not for all women.

ZombieKitten said:

U have got to be kidding

ZombieKitten said:

I spent 10 years with someone. Sex never changed with us overtime.

ZombieKitten said:

I didn't see anyone say different on here?

728huey said:

SO many factors

about letting oneself go, with age, metablolism slows, and requires heaps more effort and time, which is exactly what you don't have much of once you have a bunch of kids

JustErin said:

how many of those years were you parents?

ZombieKitten said:

None, but I am a parent now and nothing sexually has changed. No matter how busy my day is or how tired I am, I don't say no to sex because it's something I really enjoy...just like I always have.

JustErin said:

you have the option of variety in choice of partners
they don't have to live in your house messing it up and arguing with you about child-rearing.

I would also think making a booty call at the end of the day refreshing and something exciting to look forwards to. However, if I've been at loggerheads with him all evening about differences in opinions regarding how I do things, or what has and hasn't been done yet. etc. HIM is the last person I want to fuck to be honest.
If I could call up someone who has no influence on the rest of my life, who only sees me when I look great or am in the mood to party, I would be fucking him like there is no tomorrow, because all the rest of that everyday shit would have nothing to do with it.

this thread is depressing!

You make a commitment and what do you get? For millions of people, the answer is "loss of sex life."

All the justifications or reasons don't change it. Either the sex is there or not, and in the beginning there's none of those issues.

ZombieKitten said:

It's as if life-partners should be separate from sex-partners.

NDRU said:

it might really help to have a little meat on the side