Wow..thanks for all the responses. Of course I have had conversations w/her and have heard many reasons for her change of attitude such as....
Im a mom now
Im too tired
I will gag, for some reason I gag now
it takes too long


Really, just stuff like that. I do alot around the house and watch the kids on my days off ( I have days off during weekdays while she works,and I work some weekends) so we share alot of the cooking/cleaning duties, plus I do all the yardwork. We do have sex about 1-2 times a week on average...but I think she has a lower sex drive than me. Alot of the time she isnt into it and is just doing it for me...She has gotten more conservative over the years...
Maybe Im just a horny ass pervert....

I take no offense to any of ya'lls comments and enjoyed reading them.

thepope2the9s said:

I don't know how to respond to this without being too personal but did she say no more head after the kids? Did she say it takes too long before the kids? The gag thing sounds like an excuse.

For me, there is nothing like giving that type of pleasure to the man I love.

ArielB said:

JustErin said:

I know many people who do that, too but I don't know why.

Stymie said:

Yes but your last reply said:

For me, there is nothing like giving that type of pleasure to the man I love.


Some times there is a connection....some times?

Stymie said:

Going by those posts I'd say my initial post definitely stands true. It certainly looks like it's just not something she enjoys and never did enjoy but she did it just to make you happy before you were married. She's just giving excuses where it would be better for her to just admit that she doesn't like to do it.

But whatever, she may never admit it so now you have to decide if you're ok going without (because you have no right to insist that she do it) or if you're not ok

It's really sad that people are just not upfront about these things from the get go and would rather deceive someone just to get them.

I lay my cards on the table on day one - take it or leave it.

shanti0608 said:

It is a wonderful thing to have sex with the person you love and to even feel a connection through sex but I don't feel that's what we're talking about. Some people, men and women confuse love for sex when someone can easily sleep with someone they don't give a damn about.

Stymie said:

Gotcha! I agree!

Stymie said:

And to add on that, I think what was being said is that many women tend to think that just because a man has sex with her he is interested in her or wants to be with her or loves her. Or that a guy will love her or care about her if she gives it up or gives it up they way he likes it.

JustErin said:

wow...this thread did get deep. It started out about not getting head anymore. He did say they are still having sex. I guess it is up to him to sort it out from here.

shanti0608 said:

Well, most threads tend to evolve into different conversations that do tie into the initial post in some way or another.

That's what makes threads so interesting.

JustErin said:

Indeed.

JustErin said:

Hey if those cards say: I love your cock and I will suck and fuck it the best I can untill death do us part, I don't think you would have any problem keeping your man happy.

But if they don't, as with some women, then I wonder if you should really tell...

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[Edited 7/21/08 8:27am]

Tremolina said:

A woman should absolutely tell the truth from day one. Then a man can decide if love or sex is more important to him.

Tremolina said:

Yes, they should tell but I can understand why they do not tell the truth.

I'm just not desperate to lie in order to get a man...but at the same time, I don't have the same goals as a lot of women have in terms of wanting to get married, have a family, etc.

Tremolina said:

I wish Hallmark made cards that said that.

I should start a business!

JustErin said:

i don't. It leads to resentment and problems in a relationship and dare I say a man wanting to look outside his marriage for head.

Tremolina said:

Those are beautiful words. Words to live by. Seriously.
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Stymie said:

I didn't say I agree with it, I said I can understand why they think it's a good idea to lie.

abigail05 said:

JustErin said:

Can you tell me why you feel they think that way?

Stymie said:

Because they are simply thinking short term not long term...a trap that many people fall into in regards to many things.

JustErin said:

ah!!! I agree completely.

This sounds like a situation that might be best addressed by a professional counselor or someone trained in relationships.

Damn, Erin's on point in this thread...

RenHoek said:

Don't EVER say that out loud, you will open the gates of hell

mdiver said:

I once said "JustErin" three times aloud and suddenly, Alannis Morrisette music started playing.

RodeoSchro said:

JustErin said:

Nah, you are so godamn honest, you just know they love that.