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PrintableeVeRsOlEsA said: Ocean said:  ...good luck sweetie ...hope it goes as well as can be expected Thanks 
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JasmineFire said: ZombieKitten said: OK, now this may not be a popular opinion, but it is what I think.
BEFORE marriage, the head is like a pre-payment for all the the expectations she has of you, which she is confident you will meet, cause you aren't like all the other guys. After kids and marriage, she is finding out how it really is. She doesn't initiate sex as much anymore because she is way too tired from picking up your slack. She'll have sex with you, it doesn't require that much effort and doesn't take up much time. In fact if you even bring up why she won't go down on you, you will probably only remind her of how much she resents her situation - which, if she complains about it, will earn her the label of nagging wife, she can't win. How about, do some stuff around the house, organise your parents to take the kids over the weekend, tell her not to cook, you're bringing something home with you. Etc. THIS is sexy, you will suddenly become way more sexy, like magic! She will probably suck your dick without you even asking again once she realises you would go out of your way for her, and SHE is special to you. Simple!  this makes a lot of sense to me. sex is about more than just doing what you enjoy. it's also about how the other person makes you feel. OK, so when your man does some stuff around the house, organises your parents to take the kids over the weekend, tells you not to cook, because he is bringing something home with you, you feel sexy?? 
I would think you feel sexy when he worships your body and you his gorgeous cock, sitting on your knees in front of him giving him the blowjob of a lifetime... But to each his own I guess 
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ZombieKitten said: JasmineFire said: pretty much. 
i can feel pretty sexy on my own but if all of my sexy and romantic feelings for my man have gone out the window and have been replaced by resentment and anger then he just forget it. i may love giving head....just not to him.  omg and THERE IT IS uh oh that is SOOOO true If those feelings are gone and there is something you love to do but just not on him happens why the hell would one be with this person? | |
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Tremolina said: JasmineFire said: this makes a lot of sense to me. sex is about more than just doing what you enjoy. it's also about how the other person makes you feel. OK, so when your man does some stuff around the house, organises your parents to take the kids over the weekend, tells you not to cook, because he is bringing something home with you, you feel sexy??
I would think you feel sexy when he worships your body and you his gorgeous cock, sitting on your knees in front of him giving him the blowjob of a lifetime... But to each his own I guess
- [Edited 7/21/08 3:46am] Ya, I will never understand how a man doing chores and doing work makes a woman feel sexy. I just don't understand how stuff outside of sex - that has nothing to do with sex makes a woman feel better while having sex. | |
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forget head, I'd be very pleasantly surprised to have some enthusiastic sex, something where I didn't feel like I was fucking a dead person. That sounds awful, but it's the truth! And yes, it hurts my feelings. | |
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...but not so much that I wouldn't do it anyway | |
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to abigail05:
Maybe, just maybe, you need to do some work in the house dude, show some delicious cooking skills, coherce her parents into taking the kids for an entire weekend and tell her you luuuuuv her... Who knows, maybe then she will drop on your knees like a whore and not like dead person.  | |
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JustErin said: Tremolina said: OK, so when your man does some stuff around the house, organises your parents to take the kids over the weekend, tells you not to cook, because he is bringing something home with you, you feel sexy??
I would think you feel sexy when he worships your body and you his gorgeous cock, sitting on your knees in front of him giving him the blowjob of a lifetime... But to each his own I guess
- [Edited 7/21/08 3:46am] Ya, I will never understand how a man doing chores and doing work makes a woman feel sexy. I just don't understand how stuff outside of sex - that has nothing to do with sex makes a woman feel better while having sex. I never quite understood either how so many women mix "sex" with "love". I mean just because he fucks your brains out and makes you horny all the time, doesn't automatically mean you "love him". | |
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we all have different needs and different things that get us off and get us excited about sex.
some ppl are clearly just mechanical beings. | |
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Listen, I can totally understand how women can get frustrated that their partner does not help out as much as they should...I just don't see the connection between that and sex.
If someone is unhappy with how their partner is just deal with it and end it if things don't change to the way you would like it to. Don't just stay in it and then withhold sex because you're bitter about your relationship. And this goes for men as well who are bitter that their wife isn't putting out the same as she used to so they retaliate in other ways. But I can only see someone who does not enjoy sex in the first place using that against a partner because from what I have seen, they want to do this, continue to do this but they also do not wish to end the relationship. Again, if you're not one that enjoys sex, or certain sex acts that’s fine...don't pretend you do just to snag a partner and then change once you have them on lock down. | |
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Tremolina said: to abigail05:
Maybe, just maybe, you need to do some work in the house dude, show some delicious cooking skills, coherce her parents into taking the kids for an entire weekend and tell her you luuuuuv her... Who knows, maybe then she will drop on your knees like a whore and not like dead person. as a matter of fact I do try to pull my weight around here, doing dishes, a ton of yardwork, I have some signature meals including but not limited to: Papa's Spaghetti, Papa's Enchiladas, Papa's Fajitas, Papa's McDonalds and Taco Bell, and would you believe it, her parents do in fact take the kids on these 4 night camping trips, including one tomorrow I believe! They do this all the time!!!! God bless their sweet, sweet hearts. Yeah, and if I wanna get laid it's going to be some arm twisting and some swallowed pride on my part. I hate it, but that's the way it is. | |
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Tremolina said: JustErin said: Ya, I will never understand how a man doing chores and doing work makes a woman feel sexy. I just don't understand how stuff outside of sex - that has nothing to do with sex makes a woman feel better while having sex. I never quite understood either how so many women mix "sex" with "love". I mean just because he fucks your brains out and makes you horny all the time, doesn't automatically mean you "love him". Oh I can understand why many people do that. I just am not one that thinks the two are related. | |
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She might thing a baby's going to come out of your cock. There's Joy In Expatriation. | |
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maybe she is just bored  | |
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JustErin said: Listen, I can totally understand how women can get frustrated that their partner does not help out as much as they should...I just don't see the connection between that and sex.
If someone is unhappy with how their partner is just deal with it and end it if things don't change to the way you would like it to. Don't just stay in it and then withhold sex because you're bitter about your relationship. And this goes for men as well who are bitter that their wife isn't putting out the same as she used to so they retaliate in other ways. But I can only see someone who does not enjoy sex in the first place using that against a partner because from what I have seen, they want to do this, continue to do this but they also do not wish to end the relationship. Again, if you're not one that enjoys sex, or certain sex acts that’s fine...don't pretend you do just to snag a partner and then change once you have them on lock down.  | |
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I'm not the boring one, trust me. Doctor did try to prescribe estrogen, but she's not having it. It's a self-image thing. I however think she's hot as hell. Is this too much information? Let's get back to bitching about head. | |
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abigail05 said: I'm not the boring one, trust me. Doctor did try to prescribe estrogen, but she's not having it. It's a self-image thing. I however think she's hot as hell. Is this too much information? Let's get back to bitching about head.
I am assuming since you think she is hot as hell then you tell her and show her? So I guess she needs to find a way to see that in herself. | |
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shanti0608 said: abigail05 said: I'm not the boring one, trust me. Doctor did try to prescribe estrogen, but she's not having it. It's a self-image thing. I however think she's hot as hell. Is this too much information? Let's get back to bitching about head.
I am assuming since you think she is hot as hell then you tell her and show her? So I guess she needs to find a way to see that in herself. You are making me hot | |
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mdiver said: shanti0608 said: I am assuming since you think she is hot as hell then you tell her and show her? So I guess she needs to find a way to see that in herself. You are making me hot ewwww 
It can't be so.... we love each other. | |
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shanti0608 said: maybe she is just bored
Or maybe she just doesn't enjoy sex at all. | |
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JustErin said: shanti0608 said: maybe she is just bored
Or maybe she just doesn't enjoy sex at all. or sex with HIM any more.
Maybe they need a little change. I personally get bored with routine. [Edited 7/21/08 7:18am] | |
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shanti0608 said: JustErin said: Or maybe she just doesn't enjoy sex at all. or sex with HIM any more. Or sex with him EVER. | |
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shanti0608 said: JustErin said: Or maybe she just doesn't enjoy sex at all. or sex with HIM any more.
Maybe they need a little change. I personally get bored with routine.
[Edited 7/21/08 7:18am] Fuckit, i am breaking out the handcuffs later, its been a while since they got used | |
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mdiver said: shanti0608 said: Relationships are a give and take. Maybe men should try to figure out why their wives are not as enthused about it anymore and try to do something about it instead of bitching to ppl on an internet site about it.
Take me upstairs and fuck me! Get a private network, you too! | |
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ArielB said: mdiver said: Take me upstairs and fuck me! Get a private network, you too!  | |
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ArielB said: mdiver said: Take me upstairs and fuck me! Get a private network, you too! #1 its TWO not too #2 Fuck you Ariel | |
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Tremolina said: JustErin said: She used to suck your cock as a way to get you to like her. Now that she's snagged you she no longer has to do things she never really liked to do in the first place....like head.
I feel for you man. That's a nasty thing to do to a person, pretend to be into something they are not into. But from what I hear from guy friends, women do it all the time. I'm sure...no I know you're not alone in this. In other words: you got fucked. For the few, perhabs even lousy blowjobs, she gave you before, you now get nothing but a tired, headache suffering bitch, who never wants to get it on like she used to. You are gonna get frustrated, pissed off, angry and your self esteem will drop. Eventually you will stray, if you aren't already. But you can also divorce her ass and find a better bitch to suck you off.  BTW pope, sorry for calling your wife a "bitch". I just think that's a very "bitchy" thing to do of her. But as was said by others, maybe there is something going on there you don't know about and it would be a good idea to talk to her, find out what's bothering her and then get back to hot steaming, playfull sex again,... or something like that. | |
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thepope2the9s said: Okay so when my wife and I were dating she gave head all the time, even volunteered much of the time,,it was great. After we married, I had to ask and she would do it, but not with the same enthusiasm. After our first child, head came to a screeching halt...and now after 7 years of marriage, head is all but a thing of the past. Why do women change like this? I know Im not the only one who has experienced this change.
The only way to know is to ask her. There could be a million different reasons. Your best bet is to have a conversation with her about it. That said, I would suggest finding a calm, safe environment to have the conversation and do you damndest to not make it sound like you're criticising. |
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mdiver said: ArielB said: Get a private network, you too! #1 its TWO not too #2 Fuck you Ariel #1 No, I mean you too, because we already got one 
#2 Sorry, I'm taken  | |
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CarrieMpls said: thepope2the9s said: Okay so when my wife and I were dating she gave head all the time, even volunteered much of the time,,it was great. After we married, I had to ask and she would do it, but not with the same enthusiasm. After our first child, head came to a screeching halt...and now after 7 years of marriage, head is all but a thing of the past. Why do women change like this? I know Im not the only one who has experienced this change.
The only way to know is to ask her. There could be a million different reasons. Your best bet is to have a conversation with her about it. That said, I would suggest finding a calm, safe environment to have the conversation and do you damndest to not make it sound like you're criticising. It may very well boil down to how big an issue this is for pope. Will he be fine if she tells him it's something she used to enjoy but doesn't anymore? Will she be willing to compromise? Will he? For me, I don;t want anyone doing something they are not 100% enthusiastic about because they will do a half-assed job. | |
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